Castrated By A Narcopath (Narcissistic Sociopath)
Emotionally and Verbally Abusive Women
"If you've spent anytime around horses, you know a stallion can often be a major problem. They're strong, very strong, and they've got a mind of their own. Stallions typically do not like to be bridled, and they can be downright aggressive-especially if there are mares around. A stallion is hard to tame. If you want a safer, quieter animal, there's an easy solution: castrate him. A gelding is much more compliant. You can lead him around by the nose; he'll do what he's told without putting up a fuss. There's only one problem: Geldings don't give life. They can't come through for you the way a stallion can. A stallion is dangerous all right, but if you want the life he offers, you have to have the danger, too. They go together."- John Eldredge, Wild at Heart
This quote from Eldredge's book is rich and priceless. Putting aside the biological meaning, when it comes to relationships, the meaning is about as deep as you can get, especially if you're in a relationship with a narcopath.
I've known women who put their husbands down, but my son's back-and-forth girlfriend takes this to a whole new level. She attacks his character to his face, in front of his son, and ALWAYS behind his back to anyone who she happens to be talking with at any given time - emasculating him in the process.
There is nothing as emasculating to a man than to have the mother of his children berating him in their presence. Much different than the castration of a stallion, the narcopath will castrate her man very slowly, and she does so in the most excruciatingly painful and public way imaginable.
How does a narcopath castrate her man? She complains about how lazy he is, calls him a loser, uses his past mistakes from years ago to shame him, calls him a whore, calls him stupid if he doesn't agree with her, refers to his friends as losers, calls him a liar, accuses him of the most awful criminal behaviors, and the list goes on. I don't believe he even attempts to correct his son any longer. Even though she dishes out punishment which far exceeds the mistake made, she will fly into a rage if my son tries to intervene. Yet, I've seen him correct his son about something he 's done or said, and she is quick to intervene and tell their child not to worry about what dad says.
At work, he's a dynamo. He moves up the ladder quickly. His superiors admire his tenacity and his work ethic. Those that work under him respect him and follow his lead. Everyone that works for him see a good man. But, almost prophetically, when he's around her, he's lazy and a loser. He's withdrawn and rarely participates in anything.
Just like the gelding, she has castrated and emasculated him, and life no longer lives in his eyes or his heart. He just exists.