Never lose your Peace - Stay in Control
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Everyone gets angry at some point, we are only human but not everyone can control it and things can really get out of hand.
Anger Controls, Anger Consumes. People want to get even.
Apart from the popular quote of: "For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness,"
Here are some other points to consider:
a) Anger releases a very negative energy which could also attract more negative energy. E.g Someone could be so angry and then go to drive home, only to find out they have a flat tyre. More negative could happen all in that day...one after the other. They will continue to attract that negative energy.
b) Bad first impressions - Imagine if someone was meeting an angry person (maybe, even under a Business environment) for the first time. They say people always go by first impressions. They would judge them based on that short period, no matter how much the person changes their attitude and tries to smile or adopt a sense of humour.
c) Anger robs people of good looks. The face of a person seething with anger changes so much, that no matter how beautiful or handsome they are, at that time of anger, they look dreadful.
d) If people stay angry for a long time, it can turn into bitterness and this sadly actually can promote very bad health, which could be terminal. It could get that bad. Hence the saying laughter is good medicine for Health. Bitterness is a detriment.
e) For those who a spiritiual, anger only opens the door to darkness. I love the quote: "Never let the sun go down on your Anger". It simply means, forgive each other before you go to sleep. If not, it will breed and before you know it, couples are drifting apart.
f) Anger could make someone make the best speech they will ever regret. Anger can be fatal. An angry person, might just want to push someone, but sadly, the person falls to their death. Some angry people beat the spouses, not knowing that would be the end. Anger is dangerous. Anger is deadly. We can never turn back time.
So, please never lose your peace.
At the beginning of the day, spend some quiet time in the morning to feed your soul with positive things. If you are into Meditation, it helps to. This will set the tone for your day and when any negative thing happens, you are equipped/ready. You know at that moment you can either choose to rant, retaliate or keep your peace and find the wisdom to deal with the matter.
Remember, whatever we say in the heat of the moment can not be unspoken, even if we apologise. Many adults still hold on to what their parents said, when they were angry. It stays with them for life.
Be known as that person who keeps the Peace.
Namaste.
How do you deal with Anger?
P/s share to help others.
"Easier said than done, Elena, How do you keep the Peace?"
Naturally, I have a soft nature but that doesn't mean I can't hit the roof and be a Cow (like we say in UK) if I want to because I am a Leo and we are fiery.
However, I've got to the point, where I let a lot of things go over my head. I teach Adults / Teens (have been for 15 years) and it's so easy to lose your peace, but I ensure:
a) I have quiet time in the morning and feed my heart with positive things. What I want for the outcome of the day. I also pray about what I have to do that day and pray away any strange spirits.
b) A good sense of humour. People around me laugh a lot. Most times I am able to turn an awkward moment into a funny one. I have to realise that some people might be going through bad experiences in their personal life and take it out on others. E,g. I've had students come to class going through a divorce, about to be evicted, having an addiction problem, a child who is sick, No MONEY and govt have either sanctioned them or not paid yet. (although, this is no excuse for them to be angry with others). As much as I can, I support..
c) I don't take things personally. If I say "hello" to a person and there is no reply,
I simply presume they didn't hear and they are deep in thought & get on with my day. I'm not stupid, but not dwelling on things helps and many times, when people have been mean, they come to me later and apologise because they know very well, they did something wrong and explain the reason why.
d) If it's a member of the public, that I don't know who's being weird to me. (E.g London Public Transport) I am either assertive & deal with the situation or walk away based on what I see or feel. For all I know, maybe they forgot to take their medication that day!
Don't get me wrong, I can make a person's life hell if they cross me, but I choose the path of peace and a lot of people comment about that peaceful aura.
Quotes
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Finally, I leave you with some Anger Quotes to ponder over...
** If you kick a stone in anger, you'll hurt your own foot. ~ Korean Proverb
** Always write angry letters to your enemies. Never mail them. ~ James Fallows
** I don't have to attend every argument I'm invited to. ~ Author Unknown
** The best remedy for a short temper is a long walk. ~ Jacqueline Schiff
** Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret. ~ Ambrose Bierce
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This is such wise advice and well written. I really enjoyed those quotes you left us with at the end of your article.
Nice Elena.
You can join me here with my classes in Kenya. Would be of much value. Have a great Sunday!
Very interesting article with informative insights and reality. It should provide a guide that interacts with one's core value.
Very valid factors in which I have personally faced and learned.
Elena......I LOVE the quotes at the end! They are not only clever & catchy, but true.
This entire article is so well-written, filled with fabulous thoughts (actually truths) and suggestions that just about anyone can benefit from by reading this...& I hope you get massive traffic.
I am very slow to anger, which has always served me well. To the chagrin of those who may try to irk me, I'm much more apt to laugh at their feeble attempts, wash my hands of the situation & walk away smiling, never to give them a second thought.
However, since we all have the capacity for every "human" emotion, when pushed beyond my tolerance, I can display an ugly form of anger that truly shocks most people who know me
well. One extra drop beyond my saturation point & the damn breaks. As my sons (all grown men now) would say as kids, "Uh-oh.....now you did it!"...as they pointed at one another..LOL
For more than a few decades I worked an extremely high stress job, dealing with every type of personality under the sun. Obviously if I hadn't had a very high tolerance for that stress, I'd have more than likely given up my career or not been as successful as I was. The nice part of all that was that I got to listen, record, question, analyze & diagnose....& happily pass these individuals on to the one who had to explain to them what their flaws were in terms of screwing up their lives & how to help themselves! Those were the pitiful staff members who had to fend off a whole lot of anger directed at them. Not much fun.
We could have used multiple copies of this article of yours to pass out to all clients from the start! LOL No kidding.
There aren't 3 people in all the world who can deal with discovering they may be their own worst enemy. That's when keeping your peace is vital.
Thanks for this great read. Paula
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@Eric Dieker Cheers, Derek. Nice to hear from you again and thanks for sharing your experience.
@Dora Weithers Thanks so much for your kind comments, Dora. I'm glad you stopped by.
@Mary Wickison Good on you. ;-) Everyone in life is going through a battle but we don't all lash out at others. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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@ThreeKeys Thank you. Very important points noted. I wish I knew these things, back when I was a teenager. I appreciate you stopping by. Peace to you too.
@Toni Smith - Thanks Toni. I'm glad you enjoyed the quotes. Lovely of you to stop by.
@Lanecia Smith - It truly is. I guess it takes discipline.
Thanks for taking the time to stop by.
I find the older I get, the less angry I am, it is such a waste of energy and does nothing to serve me.
You've pointed out some excellent examples. We don't walk in the other person's shoes so we don't know what is going on with them. I just don't let it affect me, it is their problem. I will offer help but I refuse to stand by and have someone lose control and direct it at me, I respect myself too much.
Excellent quotes you've included.
Very helpful article. Powerful quotes. Great presentation written with a clear message.
These are some great tips Elena.
It is so easy to become angry because of what life throws at us. It is easy to be upset, rather than to let certain situations go.
Finding ways to reduce stress and anger is definitely necessary to avoid stressing yourself developing potential health issues down the road.
Very nice article about peace and not holding onto negative thoughts. I especially liked the quotes at the end, the first one gave me a chuckle. I try to practice positive thinking.
What a wonderful truth you have laid out here. I am getting to a place where anger is like sticking my hand in a flame. Immediate pain.
Fantastic article and fantastic quotes.
Forgiving may not happen but rememeber the one who stays angry, is the one that can suffer from strokes and heart attacks. That is dying from the anger. So remember, if you die, the person who adopted the enemy position against you, will have succeeded in achieveing their goal and that is to destroy you. So, be kind to yourself. Be a good friend to yourself and choose the path of peaceful ways, where and when you can. We are only human and life will get to us but it matters more, what you we do more often than not. So, think peace. Act in peace. Peace to You.
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