- Mental Health
Never lose your Peace - Stay in Control
Everyone gets angry at some point, we are only human but not everyone can control it and things can really get out of hand.
Anger Controls, Anger Consumes. People want to get even.
Apart from the popular quote of: "For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness,"
Here are some other points to consider:
a) Anger releases a very negative energy which could also attract more negative energy. E.g Someone could be so angry and then go to drive home, only to find out they have a flat tyre. More negative could happen all in that day...one after the other. They will continue to attract that negative energy.
b) Bad first impressions - Imagine if someone was meeting an angry person (maybe, even under a Business environment) for the first time. They say people always go by first impressions. They would judge them based on that short period, no matter how much the person changes their attitude and tries to smile or adopt a sense of humour.
c) Anger robs people of good looks. The face of a person seething with anger changes so much, that no matter how beautiful or handsome they are, at that time of anger, they look dreadful.
d) If people stay angry for a long time, it can turn into bitterness and this sadly actually can promote very bad health, which could be terminal. It could get that bad. Hence the saying laughter is good medicine for Health. Bitterness is a detriment.
e) For those who a spiritiual, anger only opens the door to darkness. I love the quote: "Never let the sun go down on your Anger". It simply means, forgive each other before you go to sleep. If not, it will breed and before you know it, couples are drifting apart.
f) Anger could make someone make the best speech they will ever regret. Anger can be fatal. An angry person, might just want to push someone, but sadly, the person falls to their death. Some angry people beat the spouses, not knowing that would be the end. Anger is dangerous. Anger is deadly. We can never turn back time.
So, please never lose your peace.
At the beginning of the day, spend some quiet time in the morning to feed your soul with positive things. If you are into Meditation, it helps to. This will set the tone for your day and when any negative thing happens, you are equipped/ready. You know at that moment you can either choose to rant, retaliate or keep your peace and find the wisdom to deal with the matter.
Remember, whatever we say in the heat of the moment can not be unspoken, even if we apologise. Many adults still hold on to what their parents said, when they were angry. It stays with them for life.
Be known as that person who keeps the Peace.
How do you deal with Anger?
P/s share to help others.
"Easier said than done, Elena, How do you keep the Peace?"
Naturally, I have a soft nature but that doesn't mean I can't hit the roof and be a Cow (like we say in UK) if I want to because I am a Leo and we are fiery.
However, I've got to the point, where I let a lot of things go over my head. I teach Adults / Teens (have been for 15 years) and it's so easy to lose your peace, but I ensure:
a) I have quiet time in the morning and feed my heart with positive things. What I want for the outcome of the day. I also pray about what I have to do that day and pray away any strange spirits.
b) A good sense of humour. People around me laugh a lot. Most times I am able to turn an awkward moment into a funny one. I have to realise that some people might be going through bad experiences in their personal life and take it out on others. E,g. I've had students come to class going through a divorce, about to be evicted, having an addiction problem, a child who is sick, No MONEY and govt have either sanctioned them or not paid yet. (although, this is no excuse for them to be angry with others). As much as I can, I support..
c) I don't take things personally. If I say "hello" to a person and there is no reply,
I simply presume they didn't hear and they are deep in thought & get on with my day. I'm not stupid, but not dwelling on things helps and many times, when people have been mean, they come to me later and apologise because they know very well, they did something wrong and explain the reason why.
d) If it's a member of the public, that I don't know who's being weird to me. (E.g London Public Transport) I am either assertive & deal with the situation or walk away based on what I see or feel. For all I know, maybe they forgot to take their medication that day!
Don't get me wrong, I can make a person's life hell if they cross me, but I choose the path of peace and a lot of people comment about that peaceful aura.
Finally, I leave you with some Anger Quotes to ponder over...
** If you kick a stone in anger, you'll hurt your own foot. ~ Korean Proverb
** Always write angry letters to your enemies. Never mail them. ~ James Fallows
** I don't have to attend every argument I'm invited to. ~ Author Unknown
** The best remedy for a short temper is a long walk. ~ Jacqueline Schiff
** Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret. ~ Ambrose Bierce