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A Journey Towards Self-Discovery finding Your True Self

Updated on May 28, 2018
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Up until a couple of years ago, I spent my time running on the treadmill of life slaving away working long hours with my mind too preoccupied with things that didn't validate or fulfill me. Focusing on stuff that was preventing me from achieving my potential. I didn't realize it back then, but because I filled my days with back-to-back activities, concentrating on the wrong things I lost myself.

Unfortunately, not having a purpose or knowing where I was going, limit any abilities and stopped me from recognizing myself. Well, not to mention how I severely underestimate how important setting goals and how hard it is to make decisions and know your worth when you don't know what your values are. So, because I was a natural fence sitter, who didn't write down goals and implement strategies which can get me there, my life turns into an unfulfilling existence with many heartaches and pain where there seems to be No relief in sight.

I learned first hand that doing things that are not in alignment with my purpose and not knowing my true self-goes all the way back to when I arrive in this world with birthright — as a young person seeking self-accepting, and longing to fit in, back then that seems to be the ideal thing. Nonetheless, those things affect how I felt about myself to the point that it damaged me beyond recognition. Moreover trying to gain the approval of others, often left me driven by fear which leads to bad choices, under social pressures and moral compromises that took me away from my true self.

Ignorance of the true self is something humans have endured for a long time, but why not starts today down the path of self-discovery by asking the question, “What is self-discovery?” Self-discovery means to take risks and to gain insight into your character. It's the innermost core of our being continuous extents toward that which is not yet seen or fully known. A person may fail many times before discovering their real self, what's defines them, what makes him or her happy and what's their sense of purpose.

To honestly know yourself one needs to begin a puzzling journey that starts with the question, 'Who am I.' The core of finding peace and happiness is to find out who you are. And to do that, you must soul search – every second of the existence of your selves. Although I'm sure, some has not taken the time to realize not knowing yourself well can result in an unfulfilling existence and a miserable life. I am sure the majority of us would love to know how to shake the blues and be happier in life.

“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature. – Marcus Aurelius

All too often, life consists of peoples trying to find joy in a world so complicated that it seems impossible to "find happiness." Also, a large number might be optimistic to learn "VITAL Signs" that will help them understand their true self and assist them with ways to stop feeling like they are hiding behind a mask. And for the one who is searching for ways to break through the sense of hiding behind a veil, it's time to seek the self-awareness needed that can increase your motivation by helping you understand and seek out the first step toward maximizing your true self.

Some people life will be bursting with stressful, terrible news and there are only a few who will foresee it coming. Many will have some reaction. Some will cry, some will be angry, and some will sit quietly in paralyzed shock. Moreover, we must look for ways to find a solution that will free us from the tension and drama of this world. Although, we all are dealing with some form of stress and it will arise at a moment when we least expect it. We must take the time to prepare for a tragedy of some types like a relationship problem, personal crisis, family tragedy, work problems, toxic friends, and even financial stress that we may not be ready to face. And with all the external pressures these issues will bring about it make it hard for most of us to know the real us and be truly happy.

People seldom change. Only their masks do. It is only our perception of them and the perception they have of themselves that actually change. – Shannon L. Alder

If you want to make the most of this life, you must practice finding the balance in a busy world while at the same time apply some self-preservation. Unsuccessful people don’t value their time, besides we were not born into this world to be overworked, stressed, overwhelmed, weighed down, worn out, run down, drained, or defeated by life's challenges. Amidst raising children, our personal and work days and outside activities, we’re all tired as it can be a real challenge to find the stability. But as much as we love our kids and having them in our life, they have a way of draining all our energy. Find self-preservation is a journey that we all have to discover and once we do we will know the real us, be a happier, and more positive person.

Here are five steps to claiming your true self to find happiness and break through barriers that will ensure you'll be happier. Step 1 Review Your Life: To begin understanding your true self you must start by stepping back to review your lives, look for ways to be more perspective. When a person gets a more precise discernment, they can see beyond what is wrong, and lose the society imposed version of what others identify as awry and focus on making what needs to be made right.

“Let go of certainty. The opposite isn't uncertainty. It's openness, curiosity and a willingness to embrace paradox, rather than choose up sides. The ultimate challenge is to accept ourselves exactly as we are, but never stop trying to learn and grow.”

― Tony Schwartz

Step 2 Identify Yourself: Next, you want to identify and set smart goals for the life you want on your journey to find yourself. Knowledge is power; it is essential to know yourself. Knowing who you are and your purpose in life brings about happiness. To understand the real you, you must ask yourself five things:

Ask yourself:

  • Do I know the real me and how comfortable am I with my own mortality?
  • How confident am I in my abilities to make decisions for myself, if I feel I am not; how do I gain self-assured?
  • What do I believe is the meaning of my life?
  • What role does gratitude play in my life?
  • Do I know my purpose and do I think my destiny is pre-determined so I may shape it however I wish?

Now set your goals and begin your journey to self-discovery to understand your true self toward happiness.

Step 3 Initiate Action: Finding yourself is not easy, but when a person takes the initiative to do so, it's well worth it. After all, when you don't know who you are, it's an enlightening experience to find yourself. Sometimes you might have to start with small steps by making a list of things you are confident about yourself. Write down the principle in your life that needs improvement and stuffs you are not satisfied with so; you can move them out of your life. What is most crucial, you need to start now — initiate action.

Step 4 Seeking External Validation: When you notice a discontent within yourself, seek validation from others who can assist you to find the answer that you need to review changes in your life that are so needed. Make sure to ask for help from people who will validate and look inward to see the best in you, bring out the élite and believe in you.

Step 5 Choose Happiness & Co-create your Better Life: This step is a choice. It is a scientific fact that happiness is a choice, a person must choose to be happy. Of course, to accept happiness, it will take learning how to determine it and ways to unlearn old mental habit--but one thing for sure you are the only one who can bring about your happiness, the choice is yours.

The last word, to co-create your better life, you need to take the time to plan your life. Begin creating by developing a strategic plan for your life. A strategic method will help you outline who you are, where you are now, the strategy as to where you want to go, and how you intend to ensure you get there. Plan to start living differently and to have a happier life full of the desires of your heart. Wisdom and happiness can be the same thing, do the wise thing, choose happiness.

I cannot emphasize enough how essential self-care is and if we want to stop being our own worst enemy and get prepared to start living a happier life, let’s take action by applying these five steps to claim your true self. They will also bring about a sense of a new beginning. All left to do is benefit from self-knowledge and transform yourself into a better person. Getting to know the true you can be challenging, yet exciting and rewarding. If you want to stop asking yourself, “Who am I?” Spend some time finding out who you are, the change of self-concept will transmit you into the real you. You will live a much better life that involves happiness that comes with more of the things you desire, take the action today to start doing so.

Do you agree, once a person discovers his or her authentic self, they can start living differently to choose happiness?

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© 2017 Pam Morris


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