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A Journey to Freedom and finding Your True Self
Ignorance of the true self is something humans have endured for a long time, but why not starts today down the path of self-discovery by asking the question, “What is self-discovery?” Self-discovery means to take risks and to gain insight into your character. It's the innermost core of our being continuous extents toward that which is not yet seen or fully known. A person may fail many times before discovering their real self, what's defines them, what makes him or her happy and what's their sense of purpose.
To honestly know yourself one needs to begin a puzzling journey that starts with the question, 'Who am I.' The core of finding peace and happiness is to find out who you are. And to do that, you must soul search – every second of the existence of your selves. Although I'm sure, some has not taken the time to realize not knowing yourself well can result in an unfulfilling existence and a miserable life. I am sure the majority of us would love to know how to shake the blues and be happier in life.
“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature. – Marcus Aurelius
All too often, life consists of peoples trying to find joy in a world so complicated that it seems impossible to "find happiness." Also, a large number might be optimistic to learn "VITAL Signs" that will help them understand their true self and assist them with ways to stop feeling like they are hiding behind a mask. And for the one who is searching for ways to break through the sense of hiding behind a veil, it's time to seek the self-awareness it takes to evaluate the areas that need improvement truly.
Some people life will be bursting with stressful, terrible news and there are only a few who will foresee it coming. Many will have some reaction. Some will cry, some will be angry, and some will sit quietly in paralyzed shock. Moreover, we must look for ways to find a solution that will free us from the tension and drama of this world. Although, we all are dealing with some form of stress and it will arise at a moment when we least expect it, from some drama like a relationship problem, personal crisis, family tragedy, work problems, toxic friends, and even financial stress that we may not be prepared to face. And with all the external pressures these issues will bring about it make it hard for most of us to know the real us and be truly happy.
People seldom change. Only their masks do. It is only our perception of them and the perception they have of themselves that actually change. – Shannon L. Alder
The peoples on this earth will never make life easy for you, so, you must practice finding the balance in a busy world while at the same time apply some self-preservation. We were not born into this world to be overworked, stressed, overwhelmed, weighed down, worn out, run down, drained, or defeated by life's challenges. Between raising children, our personal and work days and outside activities, we’re all tired as it can be a real challenge to find the stability. But as much as we love our kids and having them in our life, they have a way of draining all our energy. Find self-preservation is a journey that we all have to discover and once we do we will know the real us, be a happier, and more positive person.
Here are five steps to claiming your true self to find happiness and break through barriers that will ensure you'll be happier. Step 1 Review Your Life: To begin understanding your true self you must start by stepping back to review your lives, look for ways to be more perspective. When a person gets a more precise discernment he or she can determine who they are and what indeed would support the Real them, they will lose the society imposed version of what others identify with them.
“Let go of certainty. The opposite isn't uncertainty. It's openness, curiosity and a willingness to embrace paradox, rather than choose up sides. The ultimate challenge is to accept ourselves exactly as we are, but never stop trying to learn and grow.”
― Tony Schwartz
Step 2 Identify Yourself: Next, you want to identify and set smart goals for the life you want on your journey to find you. Knowledge is power; it is essential to know yourself. Knowing who you are and your purpose in life brings about happiness. To understand the real you, you must ask yourself five things:
- Do I know the real me and how comfortable am I with my own mortality?
- How confident am I in my abilities to make decisions for myself, if I feel I am not; how do I gain self-assured?
- What do I believe is the meaning of my life?
- What role does gratitude play in my life?
- Do I know my purpose and do I think my destiny is pre-determined so I may shape it however I wish?
Now set your goals and begin your journey to self-discovery to understand your true self toward happiness.
Step 3 Initiate Action: Finding yourself is not easy, but when a person takes the initiative to do so, it's worth it. After all, when you don't know who you are, it's an enlightening experience to find yourself. Sometimes you might have to start with small steps by making a list of things you are confident about yourself. Stuff in your life that needs improvement and stuffs you are not satisfied with, moving them out of your life. What is most crucial to start now — initiate action.
Step 4 Seeking External Validation: When you notice a discontent within yourself, seek validation from others who can assist you to find the answer that you need to correct changes in your life that are so needed. Make sure to ask for help from people who will validate and look inward to see the best in you, bring out the élite and believe in you.
Step 5 Choose Happiness & Co-create your Better Life: The last step is a choice. It is a scientific fact that happiness is a choice, a person must choose to be happy. Of course, to accept happiness, it will take learning how to determine it and ways to unlearn old mental habit--but one thing for sure you are the only one who can bring about your happiness, the choice is yours.
The last word, to co-create your better life, you need to take the time to plan your life. Begin creating by developing a strategic plan for your life. A strategic method will help you outline who you are, where you are now, the strategy as to where you want to go, and how you intend to ensure you get there. Plan to start living differently and to have a happier life full of the desires of your heart. Wisdom and happiness can be the same thing, do the wise thing, choose happiness.
I cannot emphasize enough how essential self-care is and if we want to stop being our own worst enemy and get prepared to start living a happier life, let’s take action by applying these five steps to claim your true self. They will also bring about a sense of a new beginning. All left to do is benefit from self-knowledge and transform yourself into a better person. Getting to know the true you can be challenging, yet exciting and rewarding. If you want to stop asking yourself, “Who am I?” Spend some time finding out who you are, the change of self-concept will transmit you into the real you. You will live a much better life that involves happiness that comes with more of the things you desire, take the action today to start doing so.
Do you agree, once a person discovers his or her authentic self, they can start living differently to choose happiness?
My Name Is Victory, Johnathan Nelson
© 2017 Pam Morris