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This Life of Yours is 100% Your Responsibility

Updated on December 25, 2017
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Writing is my passion. I have an undying thirst and quest in the field of writing. Some eat, drink or use drugs when stress, I write.

Many people's lives are proliferated with excuse after excuse as they don’t realize the problem with excuses is that they become inevitable. Let’s clarify what an excuse is? To modestly put it, “it's invented reasons or explanations many create to defend their behavior to neglect to take a specific type of action.” Why won't thousands of unhappy and unfulfilled people stop making excuses and take charge of their life? There are many reasons why people make excuses for the main one is they refuse to assume full responsibility when it comes to their professional or working life.

We’ve all been in situations where we find ourselves making excuses. On the contrary, when you catch yourself making excuses it best to realize things sometimes don’t turn out as you expect them and start taking responsibility for the circumstances of your life. When you find, yourself trying to explain why you make excuses these are all subtle signs that indicate you are living a life of justifications and refusing to take on responsibility, which prevents you from living to your full potential.

Don't waste time trying to live in a fantasy world. Life is not a fairy tale. We must live in reality, to live in the real world we must accept bad things happen and real life's vicious. Real life is not all about happy endings nor about heroes neither created suddenly. Despite growing up as a child, we leave the saving of ourselves to others; I can remember growing up, allowing whoever was the best candidate to be the superhero to save me. If I felt my mom would keep me safe, she was the person I ran to from my dad or anything that made me feel unsafe. But I had to realize that everything is just not going to be taken care of for me, my life is one hundred percent my responsibility.

My daddy was a person I rarely ran to for safety, but when the need occurred, I would run to him to save me from any life's challenges. I didn't know my grandparents, but they are usually the people a child can run to when they can't get their way with their parent. I was a friendly person so whenever a person bigger than me attempt to push me around my friends would protect me from my bullies. However, after not taking responsibility for my life, the terrible events were the great eye-openers. They were the results that forced me to stand on my own two feet and learn that which it is wholesome for me.

For most of my childhood, I grew up leaving the saving of myself to others, so, my journey to adulthood was filled with many disappointments from the peoples I put up on a very high pedestal. One by one they all fell off to move on to live their own lives. I learned the meaning of the quote, “You can't trust other people. If it's important, you have to do it yourself.” ― Neil Gaiman, The Graveyard Book. From that, I learn the way I was walking through life were like stepping on landmines, and the peoples I was dealing with were individuals with a borderline personality disorder. This experience taught me not to give my life over to others; no one will save me; my life is one hundred percent my responsibility.

Although my adult life begins with disappointment, the setbacks assisted me to realize I didn't need superheroes we all come into the world with superpowers only we can locate and operate; I learned that placing my life in the hand of liars would destroy me. My inner life has to be of my own making so; I desire to make a charge and gain control of my life. To do that I had to learn how to trust again, and that means setting appropriate boundaries with others and shaking off all bondage to evil.

When you grow up, allowing others to influence your life (like I did), It's somewhat uncomfortable to admit — to yourself — the one thing in your life that holding you back is in fact you. If there are things I want to do with my life, I realized that I must rise into a resilient woman who could stand firm on her own two feet. A person who desires to put a stop to troubled thoughts and break free of the worry habit.

As grown-ups, it’s up to us to choose the right path to our own sense of emotional security and financial stability. Although it is normal to feel a little sense of insecurity when you first move out on your own in the world, you still hold a responsibility not to be your own worst enemy. Just remember life doesn’t owe you anything, so don’t expect what you want and need to show up at your door, To get what you want out of life you must take full charge of your life and work hard for your success.

With all that being said, I must admit there were times when I was the only one standing in the way of my dreams, goals, and success. It wasn't easy for me to accept, but I was the main reason for my unhappiness, the problem why I was stuck in a rut. However, I am proud of myself for how much I was able to change my life for the best the last year because whether we realize it or not nobody's coming to save us. Our life is one hundred percent our responsibility.

Now that I'm on the right track no one will be coming into my life to jeopardize my chances of success — I will make sure of it. When you leave the saving of yourself to others, it’s like procrastination to the brink of disaster. Also, it's like you are stuck in a place without water with the possibility of dying of dehydration unless someone comes along and offers you a glass of water.

There is no way to avoid responsibility, accountability cannot be split and whether you like it or not you are one hundred percent responsible for yourself. Besides, happiness is achieved when a person accepts accountability for their lives. We have all heard the saying, “Life is 10% of what happens and 90% of how you react to it. Things will happen in your life that you have no control over, but how you respond to them determines the quality of life you live.

Furthermore, as soon as you understand you've got to save yourself, you will start to feel a greater sense of control in your life. What you do with your life now and what you have done previously is entirely up to you. We can decide to live the life we want, no matter how hard it gets. You must be determined to keep going even when everything inside is telling you to give up because quitting will never get you anywhere.

No one will believe you can do it until you do, so, believe in yourself and don't stand in the way of your own life. You have to process a great desire to achieve your dreams and goals. People that love you like your parents can want your dreams for you, but you’re the only one who can make them happen. In truth, you must travel the road alone, and on that journey, you’ll realize nobody is coming to save you from your troubles; your life is one hundred percent your responsibility.

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Ms. Oprah Winfrey Quote

Oprah Winfrey on Taking Responsibility for Your Life | Oprah's Life Class | Oprah Winfrey Network

Ms. Oprah Winfrey Quote

How to Take Responsibility for Your Life; When You Take Responsibility for Your Life, You Achieve Your Dreams

Make No Excuses
How to Take Responsibility for Your Life
You Matter & Your Thoughts Matter
Excuses for failure, excuses about your choices in life, excuses about what you feel you have accomplished—and what you have not fuel dysfunctional thinking—and consequently, undesirable actions and behaviors.
People who take complete responsibility for their lives experience joy and control of circumstances. They are able to make choices because they understand that they are responsible for their choices
Live every day as if what you do matters—because it does. Every choice you make; every action you take—matters. Your choices matter to you and create the life you live. Your choices matter at work, too. You choose the path of productivity and contribution or, you choose the path of a marginal employee.
Making excuses instead of taking one hundred percent responsibility for your actions, your thoughts, and your goals are the hallmark of people who fail to succeed both in their professional lives and personal lives
The most important aspect of taking responsibility for your life is to acknowledge that your life is your responsibility. No one can live your life for you. You are in charge. No matter how hard you try to blame others for the events of your life, each event is the result of choices you made and are making
Every action you take affects organizational progress in one way or in another. You always make a difference. Let that difference move the world forward. You matter. And, your thoughts matter, too.
Part of the power of taking responsibility for your actions is that you silence the negative, unhelpful voice in your head. When you spend your thinking time on success and goal accomplishment, instead of on making excuses, you free up the emotional space formerly inhabited by negativity
Eliminate blame, eliminate excuses. If the blame track or the excuse track plays repeatedly in your mind, you are shifting responsibility for your decisions and life to others.
We become what we think about most.” Earl Nightingale’s apt summation of the power of your thoughts is one of the most significant statements ever made. Think about it. Your thoughts are always with you. And, they tend to play themselves over and over again in your head. They either support you to think about and take positive action or the opposite. Your thoughts either criticize or they support the accomplishment of your goals.

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      Pam Morris 7 months ago from Atlanta Georgia

      Yes, it is a blessing to take responsibility for our own actions, and allowing Jesus to lead us is taking on a responsibility, to me the most important responsibility. Thank you so much for your intelligent comment.

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      Patty Florence 7 months ago from Illinois

      Once again I read this article with an open mind. We had a bible school lesson about superheros. I was trying to make the analogy about superheros and bible heros. Well, believing that being saved by Jesus even when one thinks its a hopeless situation moved me. It's a blessing to take responsibility for our own actions, and especially when someone else appreciates our efforts. Thanks for that perspective.

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      Pam Morris 7 months ago from Atlanta Georgia

      Thank you CoffeeQueeen fro your comment, it is appreciated

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      Pam Morris 7 months ago from Atlanta Georgia

      DLayne, thank you for your comment. I agree with you what doesn't break you will make you strong. Thank you again for stopping by and your support.

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      DLayne Lawson 7 months ago from Cincinnati, OH

      With many family members and close friends gone now and with our world as it is today, I find this to be so very true. It does make a person stronger. Make us or break each of us, I guess. Survival of the fittest. Only the strong survive, etc.

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      Louise Powles 7 months ago from Norfolk, England

      Yes that's right, there are always challenges in life. Good read and interesting article. I do like Oprah Winfrey too.

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      Pam Morris 7 months ago from Atlanta Georgia

      Thank you, Angel, for your comment, and I agree with your life is a never ending challenge, but we have to be the one willing never to give up.

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      Angel Guzman 7 months ago from Joliet, Illinois

      Life is a never ending challenge. Good read Pam