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Not Letting Others Bring You Down

Updated on January 2, 2015

Staying Positive Even When Others Aren't

One of my New Year’s resolutions is to stop letting others make me feel bad about myself. Whether it has to do with my anxiety or with life in general, there have been times when people that don’t understand what I go through or that are less than sensitive, say things or do things that have been extremely hurtful. I have spent nights crying because others have been insensitive to my feelings and I have found myself upset when those I feel should help me in the battle against my fears, fail to offer their assistance.

However, what I have learned is that not everyone is understanding or even considerate when it comes to issues that differ from their own. While this is unfortunate, this is how the world is. You cannot change how others treat you, but you can change how you react. Remember that as long as you are trying your hardest to overcome your fears and as long as you are making good decisions, it doesn’t matter what others think.

Some people are more sensitive when it comes to respecting the feelings of others. While some people go out of their way to show their support for the ones they love or even strangers, some have a harder time. Sadly, we cannot expect everyone to have the same level of kindness. Each of us, however, can do our part by striving our hardest to be kind to both ourselves and others.

Also, we have to begin to look to ourselves for positive reinforcement. We need to set goals for ourselves and work towards them. Also, you need to search for something you enjoy and show yourself that you are talented. Doing something that you are good at will make you feel good about yourself without having to rely so much on others.

It’s understandable that we look to others for compliments. Let’s say you enjoy writing and someone says what a great job you did, it’s okay to feel good about that and you should. Also, criticism is part of life and we all need to learn to accept it. However, at the same time, there’s a difference between constructive criticism and cruelty. Usually the difference lies within the person’s intent; is the person trying to help you or are they trying to hurt your feelings or cause you pain?

If you’re someone who struggles with family members, friends, or even acquaintances being rude to you because of lack of understanding or kindness, you may wonder how you can continue to speak to them and be nice to them. It can be especially hard when the person who is treating you poorly is a family member or even close friend. With family, you want to continue to love them but sometimes it’s hard when they treat you the way they do. My advice is that you remember that most likely, they love you and that some people just don’t know how to help and therefore they end up acting out in a way that is less than considerate instead.

We have to be responsible for staying positive. We need to practice facing our fears, exercising, and reminding ourselves that we are intelligent people with talents. Another great way to feel good about ourselves is to help others, to share our talents, and to use them in a positive way.

While not everyone is understanding and considerate when it comes to helping others, it is possible and important to stay positive.
While not everyone is understanding and considerate when it comes to helping others, it is possible and important to stay positive. | Source

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How To Stay Positive

-Do things you enjoy

-Remember you are talented

-Share your talents with others

-Remind yourself of your progress

-Work hard to overcome obstacles

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