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One way to better yourself

Updated on April 20, 2011

What do you call that feeling?

Sometimes when I'm lying in bed at night or sitting in the office I get a feeling. It's a feeling which I can't label. I get this feeling when I think I'm doing something wrong. Not wrong as in mischievous or conniving . Wrong as in incorrect. Sometimes this feeling occurs as a result of mismanagement of time or not taking advantage of an opportunity. Other times it's a result of my routine, my job, my diet, my expenditures. Maybe I don't belong in this office, did I really need that last drink, what did I accomplish today? These are all questions which accompany this feeling. How would you label this feeling? Dissatisfaction, unhappiness, lack of enthusiasm?

I get a similar feeling at a red light. Whether I'm at a traffic light or at a cross walk. If my destination is on the other side of that red light it's sometimes frustrating. Especially if you're running late. The good thing is that once I've reached my destination I don't usually dwell on the red light. Even if I'm late for something I forget about the light and go on with my day.
Now, imagine that this light wasn't there. Would you be able to forget about the lack of a light? What if you ran into another car because you didn't have that signal telling you to stop? What if you were mowed down by a speeding driver while you were crossing the street or you hit a pedestrian with your motor vehicle? Would you be able to forget about the time and money you're going to have to invest in repairing your car and the car that you ran into? Would you be able to brush off the pain and go on with your day if you were in the hospital? Would you be able to ignore the guilt if you put someone else in the hospital because there was nothing to regulate traffic? What word would you use to describe those red lights? a regulation, a sign, a warning, or awareness perhaps?

Now, with the red light in mind, let's go back to that feeling you get when things aren't as perfect as you think they should be. The feelings are similar, right? So, try this. The next time you get that feeling that something isn't right take a minute to think beyond the cause of that feeling to think of the cause of the cause of that feeling.

What does that mean?

What does that mean? Why didn't you do do anything exciting or productive on your day off? Why are you unhappy with your job? Why is getting another drink a problem? Look at the problem, the cause of the problem and the possible solutions. Is the extra drink a problem because you're an alcoholic, because you can't afford it, because your spouse is waiting for you at home and you know the longer you're out the more angry she's going to be? How can you solve that problem? Every person has unique problems and every problem has its own solution or solutions.

Am I in the wrong for not appreciating that red light? When I'm at home should I count each light that I hit as a blessing, as one reason I reached my destination safely? Maybe that's a bit extreme or maybe it isn't. What I can say for certain is that feeling you get when you're not quite satisfied with the way that things are going should not be looked upon as a burden, a disorder, frustrating or impeding. It should be looked upon in the same way that the red light should be looked upon. I still don't know what to call that feeling is it a motivation, an eyeopener, a sign, a reason to change,a call to action, an opportunity for self development?

Anyone can offer advice and advice should be appreciated, but it's not until you understand what your problem is that you can ask for advice. In conclusion, life is full of red lights. What may seem like a bad thing can actually be a blessing. It's all about mindset, positive thinking.

Next time you're feeling down. Think of it as a sign. Go and make a change to your life.
Next time you're feeling down. Think of it as a sign. Go and make a change to your life.


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    • danmit profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Moscow, Russia

      Jackie, you don't get that feeling? You're right Physical activities like swimming and outdoor sports are great outlets for me personally. Unfortunately, I don't do them as often as I'd like to.

      Joy, thanks for the words of encouragement. It's great to hear that from someone with more experience than I have. I'm following you and I hope that your hubs will provide some inspiration.

    • Joy56 profile image


      7 years ago

      I think you are going to make a brilliant writer, i really do. You communicate very well with your reader.

      When i started to write, i used to write three pages every single morning, just about anyghing at all..... clear my head, i kept it up for ages, and slowly what i actually wanted to write came through. There is so mcuh information about positive thinking, read up on it all, and come back with a more detailed hub ..... I for one would love to read it.

    • Jackie Lynnley profile image

      Jackie Lynnley 

      7 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Sounds like you know and feel you must do all the right things and even knowing they are for your own good you resent them somehow. Sounds like you need an outlet, nothing wrong or bad but a freedom feeling time every now and then. Break out and yell or scream with fun, only you would have the answer of how, sure you could find something. Maybe a simple physical sport.


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