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Opinion Topic: Being Real, Being Honest, or Being a Straight up Jerk?
Honesty is always the best policy. However, it's important to be honest in a respectful way when necessary.
Being "real", and being honest.
There are so many people in today's society claiming how "real" they are. Most of these people who claim to be real, pride themselves on being brutally honest with others about how they feel. These are the type of people who do not hold their tongues about anything, and often have unfiltered language when it comes to their thoughts. In other words, there is no limit as to what someone who claims to be real will say. Being a real person coincides with being honest with others regarding how you feel. A lot of people claim to be honest, but the truth is that nearly everyone has lied at some point in our lives or another. This article is going to cover what I believe to be the difference between being a "real" person, an honest individual, and a straight up jerk. Again this is an opinion topic. I'm in no way claiming that I'm right on this topic.
Honest but respectful.
I had a conversation not too long ago with a good friend of mine regarding this topic. We're all aware that the truth can sometimes hurt and cut deep. Everyone needs that one person, or several individuals whether family or friends, that always shoots straight with us. In essence, having someone who tells us what we need to hear instead of what we want to hear, brings an added sense of balance to our lives. However, I feel that a lot of people confuse being "real" for being a straight up mean towards others. There is something that I've noticed with a lot of people who don't hold back what they feel towards others. A lot of these people appear to intentionally hurt other's with their words. I'm sure that not everyone does it intentionally, but it appears that being mean towards others give them a good feeling in a strange way. I know others may feel differently, but words can sometimes hurt us as just as much as a punch. Physical pain often heals quicker than being emotionally hurt. It almost appears that some of these people get a rush from hurting others. That's not being a real person in my opinion. That boils down to be a straight up jerk towards others, and people who do this obviously have a lot of insecurities. Otherwise, there would be no reason for them to be this way towards others.
Examples of being honest, and being brutally honest.
I'm a firm believer that you get out of this world what you put into it. If you're constantly being rude and trying to make others feel bad, you shouldn't expect a lot of good things to happen for you. There are always methods to implement in order to be both honest and respectful towards others at the same time. The biggest example of this are our parents. They're honest with us on most things, and they always tell us what we need to hear. However, we know that they love us even when they say things we probably don't want to hear. Those are the kind of friends and family members we need in our lives. People who say things to intentionally hurt you should be deleted from your life. There are already enough negative forces working against us in today's society, so we can do without the people close to us that contribute to it. An example of being brutally honest with someone, could be dealing with someone that is overweight. Encouraging them to become healthier is a respectful way of being honest with them. Calling them names such as; fat, chubby, etc is an example of being a jerk. It very well may be the truth, but calling them names isn't going to help the situation any.
Do you feel there is a difference between being honest, and being brutally honest?
If you're content with being brutally honest towards others, that's perfectly okay. Everyone is their own individual, so no one can tell you how to act. However, if going to be brutally honest towards others, be prepared to deal with the potential consequences. No matter how tough or mean you claim to be, there is always someone out there who can check you. The idea is to keep your real friends around, not to push them away. If you don't watch the way you approach others and present your thoughts, you may find yourself losing good people from your life. I classify myself as a fairly honest person. Whenever a family member or friend has wanted to talk to me regarding an issue, I always tell them how I honestly feel about it. However, I do it in a way that allows the relationship to stay in tact. Those are the kind of people I want around me. I'm not in the business of intentionally hurting people. I want to keep the people I care about close to me. Being a real friend and respecting them is the key. Just my thoughts. What do you think about this topic? Do you feel there is a fine line between being real and being honest? Would love to see your feedback on this topic. Thanks for reading.