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How Much of You Is Really You

Updated on September 23, 2018
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Val is a life-long practically oriented student of effective emotional and attitudinal responses to the many challenges of life.

We Are Not a Flock of Birds

When you look at a swarm of bees, a flock of birds, or a school of minnows in the ocean, you can't but admire that unison of collective motion which makes you wonder how the heck they don't bump into one another.

So really, how do they manage to navigate in such a collective fashion? While we don't know the exact answer, it appears to be their collective consciousness guiding each and every one of them. All species living in a social arrangement have it being expressed in their own way--- including us humans.

Only, since birds, minnows, and bees are missing verbal communication, theirs is expressed a sort of "telepathically", as they all tune into one channel, one collective choice---orchestrated by a leader that's telepathically guiding their wings and fins, while they are switched to their "automatic pilot".

As for us humans, there is also a default part of our nature that's programmed in such a way that all humans see "green" the same way, hear sounds within the same range of frequencies, and otherwise share characteristics that are species-specific.

And yes, by an animalistic instinct in us, we also abide to a collectively agreed upon paradigm, or way of coexisting, believing, and constructing our common reality. It's for this inner urge of collective consciousness that we have created all traditions, customs, laws, religions, and other forms of social interacting.

But then, it wouldn't be all that bad if we didn't forget that, unlike other living beings, we are given an advantage of our highly developed ability to discriminate and choose for ourselves---what to think, feel, and believe---aside of our collective consciousness.

So, unlike birds in a flock being switched on automatic, we have the ability to discriminate between which thoughts, feelings, attitudes, and beliefs, belong to our collective programming---and which we can cultivate as our own.

Namely, it's with the referral to our collective consciousness that we know when it's "appropriate" to feel good or crappy in all their forms and intensities---and hey, we even got something like a "common sense".

However, no matter how much we may agree to be a little particle of one huge body of humankind, we are in the first place---individuals. Or, are we? And how much?

Are These Feelings Mine or My Mothers'?

That's where it starts getting somewhat amusing, as at one point of re-examining our life, we may gather enough courage to ask ourselves---whose thoughts are we really thinking, and whose emotions are we really feeling, along with questioning our attitudinal mindset and our worldview?

What seems to be the truth about the most of us, we are heavily influenced by the collective system of beliefs, being mostly copycats of someone else's beliefs. And it wouldn't be nearly so tragicomic if we didn't take it for "normal".

After all, "blending with the mass" gives us that warm sense of belonging, and guarantees all the benefits of having a comfort zone shared and recognizable by everyone around, so how could that be wrong, you ask.

Well, it's not about a choice of either living in a society or living as a hermit somewhere in woods---but it's a matter of who it is that we are identifying with. More precisely, it's a matter of living an individual or a collective consciousness.

For we have both, so we need our intuition to make an inventory in our hierarchy of mental forces and come up with a bunch of honest answers about which one is prevailing in us---collective or individual. Who are we after all?

The answer should reveal to us how much of ourselves really is ourselves.

While nothing is wrong about "adopting" others' ideas, we have to be clear whether they really our choice and working for the best interests of our wellbeing, happiness and growth.

All for One - or One for All

Some gurus on this culture-garage-sale could be accused of romanticizing collective consciousness way too much when they talk about "all of us being One". They talk about a "self-less altruism"---which is a deeply ingrained collectivistic illusion, so much abused during the course of the history under the name of "patriotism".

It has been an incredibly useful tool of rulers to make their subjects cater to their selfish career-oriented agendas. We saw it millennia ago at work---and we are still seeing it these days, seemingly not able to snap out of that spell and its degrading impact on our individual rights, which are the same rights of all those kings and presidents.

Swayed by sweet-talks of our leaders we may proudly send our boys to a war that only serves the agenda of a current administration in power---not necessarily the next one, and even not necessarily "in interests of the country's security", as it is usually presented to us.

It makes me think of a news event of the ex- president Obama being cordially greeted by the Vietnamese dignitaries at the airport. And only some days before he was welcomed by the Japanese leader, ahead of his visiting Hiroshima.

How nice, we all say, but what about all those young people in uniform who had died on both sides of those historical friendly handshakes? Indeed, what did they fight for, if it all ended up with a friendship?

Your head may proverbially spin when you get fully aware about people's willingness to get involved in careerism of their leaders, brainwashed by every trick of mass hypnosis in their book, always effective, always working like a charm.

Love Your Country - Cleverly

Of course, I am not telling you to stop loving your country. But I certainly am appealing to your individual consciousness to assess how much of your patriotism is generated by the default urge of collective consciousness to make an infatuation out of that simple and normal affection towards your "natural habitat".

Think of those Inuit folks, or those living in deserts, or at any other almost unlivable locations on the planet. Then ask yourself, why they never bothered leaving, since they must have heard of better places on earth. Think of some horrible natural elements they are daily fighting with in order to survive.

Well, they just can't leave it because they are not only in it---it's also in them. That's what I call "patriotic infatuation"---and it may serve as an eye-opening concept the next time when a politician starts playing again on that card of "your duty to give your life for your motherland".

Really, how many of those small countries have been "occupied" lately---the ones that would have no military power to defend themselves? Is it within their collective consciousness to "guard their motherland with their lives"? If not, why are we buying that idiocy? Who in the world is really after our paranoid asses?

And, what ever happened with that "guaranteed right for an individual pursuit of happiness"---if the collective consciousness is keeping us on our toes preventing it?

If We Are Not Using Our Minds - Who Is?

When we start respecting our individual spiritual signature and fingerprint, that's the time we may also start cherishing our freedom to think out of that box, to choose our own attitudes, not mimicking others around us. We don't owe it to our parents, our leaders, political or religious to be a carbon copy of their positions and worldviews. They are only humans like ourselves, with brains like our own---so why do we need them to do our thinking for us?

Also, let us forget about that joke of "democratic freedoms". Democracy is an artificial construct of collective consciousness, and it can't "grant" us a freedom that we were not already born with. It's like that silly joke about the man coming from woods and all excited sharing with his family; "Imagine, a poisonous snake just saved my life!" Asked "How?" - he says : "It didn't bite me".

Indeed, when it's about freedom, we are giving way too much credit to our leaders. Just like we shouldn't be told by a holy book how to be moral, how to love, and to whom we should surrender our power.

If we don't have sufficiently awakened intuition to guide us in life, then it's time to wake up to that intuition, instead of giving up on ourselves and our inner guidance as the supreme reference of what is right and what is wrong.

Any holy book can only "remind" us about something that we intuitively knew all along. "Teaching" involves some "new" material, not something that instantly sits well in our hearts as true.

Let's Become Who We Are!

In a garden variety of collectivists---people brainwashed by collective consciousness---a typical one constantly depends on the mindset of others, while not knowing that he can choose his own.

So here we have a paradox, as he would be assumed a collectivist to be "more helpful" to the others than an individualist, who may be portrayed in the minds of many as a "self-centered" dude.

That's a capital mistake, because two blind men won't get far, and at times of someone's misfortune, the individualist won't pick up that suffering mood and sit down to cry with the sufferer in the name of compassion, but will detach himself enough to be useful and effective in that situation.

That ability to detach ourselves from the "obvious" being suggested by the collective consciousness, is one of the most distinct features of being an individualist. We allow ourselves to go creative when we don't just "replay" our programs.

It takes an individualist to do something "out of ordinary", because ordinary means collectivistic, or spiritually passive and waiting for others to say what is "customarily appropriate" in a given set of circumstances, and what is not.

Individualism is about discovering who we really are, not as products of society, but as expression of those babies that we used to be---pristine and free, curious and creative, and ever willing to grow in any direction that our inner guide is telling us.

What kind of a grownup unfolds from that position of limitless possibilities depends mainly on how much they are in touch with their own essence, how de-hypnotized they are from their collective consciousness.

So, the question stays: How much of you is really you, after that inner inventory?


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    • ValKaras profile imageAUTHOR

      Vladimir Karas 

      2 years ago from Canada

      Ashton - Thank you for nice comment; it's great to see people waking up - or already awaken about our neglecting our own individuality.

    • ValKaras profile imageAUTHOR

      Vladimir Karas 

      2 years ago from Canada

      Martha - I am happy you found the hub interesting and possibly stimulating some new thoughts. Isn't that something - that we are so much into "belonging" that we forget "being".

    • ValKaras profile imageAUTHOR

      Vladimir Karas 

      2 years ago from Canada

      Larry - Thank you for visiting.

    • Larry Rankin profile image

      Larry Rankin 

      2 years ago from Oklahoma

      Interesting read.

    • AshtonFirefly profile image


      2 years ago

      Excellent hub! Very insightful and logically presented.

    • HealthbyMartha profile image

      Martha Montour 

      2 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

      Thank you for this very thought provoking, stimulating post. Really made me think about the nature of who we are and our need to be individuals while still being a part of the "collective consciousness".

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      Linda Robinson 

      2 years ago from Cicero, New York

      Well one thing that I can definitely say about you Val among many others is that writing is definitely your passion and calling in life. You do write about things that many don't even think about often possibly but your hubs does reach something inside of each of us. Just love each and every one of them. Take care, my friend, happy hubbing. And so look forward to the next one. Enjoy your day and take care. Always such a pleasure hearing from you. :)

    • ValKaras profile imageAUTHOR

      Vladimir Karas 

      2 years ago from Canada

      Linda, my friend - Thank you for this really nice comment! I don't actually know where my inspirations come from, and I am not inclined to take a credit for it, because it's not a result of any "diligent research" or something.

      I have read a lot about human nature, observed a lot, experienced a lot - and now something just gets cooked in my mind and I get it served, one sentence following another. I shamelessly admit, sometimes I surprise myself, even more so because English is my second language and I've got this thick dictionary here to help me with spelling of some words that I am not sure about. So, here is my story of "what sparks my ideas".

      Knowing you as a very good writer, I am sure you are not completely sure where your ideas are coming from either. Well, I guess we like writing, and our minds are catering to this passion. - Have yourself a great rest of the evening, Linda. - Val

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      Linda Robinson 

      2 years ago from Cicero, New York

      Hello Val another insightful hub. Not sure what sparks your ideas but they are always witty and fascinating and so much of it is absolutely true. You dig deep into feelings and the inner essence. Terrific content, tremendous writing. Linda


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