Over Coming Adversity - A Mental or Phycial Challenge
When I read the question regarding over coming adversity being a mental or physical challenge I was a little perplexed that we were asked to pick only one of the choices. Is it possible to choose one? Which do I choose? I began to think back to the variety of issues I've faced through out my life. How did I face the adversities? What form of strength did I push through these challenges with? My mind began to talk through each dilemma I experienced. How did I proceed? What about my family and friends who have faced adversities in their lives, would I say they used their mind or their physical powers?
My initial reaction was, choosing which method I used depended on what challenges that I faced. Just as the choice used by others would depend on that as well. My mind began running through the challenges I've faced in my life, my learning disabilities, the mental health factors, losing my brother and sister, handling my fiance's death, living through the drama that followed that made my life a living hell, pushing my self to attend my first AA meeting and the decision to face my fears and the taboo topic of mental health disorders.
Having the ability to overcome adversity in my life hasn't always been easy. I would give into my depression and just be, no ambition, no belief that I could accomplish anything. This went on for years. The change for me came in the form of three little words, Faith, Family and Friends. When I realized that those words made all the difference in my world, my mind set began to change. It didn't change overnight but, the foundation was laid and I began to build upon it. Inch by inch, just like that little ant who had to move that the rubber tree plant.
Realizing it really did boil down to mind over matter. I, after giving in my own little pity parties would pull myself up from the boot straps and pull from deep within the inner strength that I've always possessed yet would sometimes let it lay dormant sometimes forgetting that I possessed it. No matter how strong a person is physically if they don't have the ability to face a mental challenge they will give into the fear and unknown. They won't have the mental ability to overcome the adversities. A person who is in physical therapy has to overcome a physical challenge yet if they didn't have the mind set that they can move that rubber tree plant like the little ant did, they won't win the challenge. Our mental ability to push on is the back bone of our existence.
My faith, my family and my friends are now my biggest fans, I rely heavily on these to keep my focused and know that no matter what challenges I will face, the adversities that are set before me, all I have to do is close my eyes, say a little prayer and everything will fall into place. They may not be the puzzle perfect picture I wanted or asked for but I will receive what I need at that time.
One of my little tricks is reciting a special poem, The Serenity Prayer. This was a prayer my mom received in a sympathy card after my brother passed away. From that moment on this became a reminder that God will give us what we need we need the wisdom to know what we can change and the courage to know what we can't. I leave you with this prayer and hope that you find the courage and peace that I have.