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Overcome Disappointment!

Updated on July 9, 2014
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Disappointment

As many others I have also been disappointed not once, but many times in my life.

I wrote this piece while i was in South Africa. Therefore I have decided to share it in an attempt to help other individuals which are currently facing disappointment.

I hope you find the information useful!


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There are instances in our lives when we feel so disappointed. Disappointed in others, or disappointed due to certain circumstances, or even disappointed in our own selves. There are people who just keep going despite the disappointments they have come across however, there is also the percentage of people who can not cope with disappointment, especially when it has occurred several times and mainly when one disappointment takes place after the other in a relatively short period of time.

Not coping with disappointment is like actually giving up. One must ask his or her self “Why am I disappointed?”, “What can I do to not feel this way?”, “Can I possibly change my thoughts about this instance, and try to see it from another perspective?”

All individuals face disappointment, there is not one person in this world that has not. Of course, disappointment occurs, not once but in several instances. However, we must learn how to adapt to this feeling so we can eliminate the negative effect it has on our selves and our life.

Say a person has disappointed you without intending to do so. Just express how you feel to that person, try and explain why you were disappointed. Try to make that person understand what it was that bothered you, in order to avoid any similar actions to be repeated in the future. However, also listen to that persons side as well, maybe there is no need to actually feel disappointed because you may have had misunderstood the persons actions.

Ok, maybe someone disappointed you maliciously, you should still let that person know how you felt, and you should still listen to what they have to say. This way you express how you feel without holding your feelings buried inside and also know the other persons view.

There are also those times when certain things come along that disappoint us. It might be that something occurs which stands in the way of our dreams, goals or plans. But we shouldn't get disappointed we must rather see this as an obstacle we must overcome, a battle to be won.

So instead of feeling disappointment, frustration, while boosting our selves with negative feelings we should actually be focusing on how to overcome these obstacles.

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Disappointing events/obstacles do occur at times but as they say “what doesn't kill you makes you stronger”.

Never stop fighting and always keep in mind that life is worth everything. All the ups and downs just make you stronger. Don’t give up when you feel disappointed; just remember there are better days coming ahead. This is a little something I had realized in my first year of University.


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      Tijani Achamlal 4 years ago from Morocco

      Thanks so much for this wonderful hub,It is very inspiring and useful. There are some things in this world we rely on, like friends. And when they let you down, shifting from where you've carefully placed them, it shakes your faith, right where you stand.Misunderstanding occurs when we dont listen carefully or when we dont give much attention to those who are around us for one reason or an other but disappointment ,as Tabor Stephenson says, to a noble soul is what cold water is to burning metal it strengthens, tempers, intensifies, but never destroys it.And I think the best way so as not to be disappointed is to expect nothing:)

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      Chris Achilleos 4 years ago

      James,

      Thank you very much for your wonderful and encouraging comments my friend. I am thrilled that you have found this hub useful and inspiring :) At times we just can't avoid getting disappointed, it just occurs but we can certainly control the effects this has on us. And we can certainly learn from each experience. When disappointed once or several times we just learn how to overcome it and not let it interfere with our emotional well being.

      Thanks for sharing Tabor Stephenson's saying, I absolutely agree with this statement and will always remember it "Disappointment to a noble soul is what cold water is to burning metal it strengthens, tempers, intensifies, but never destroys it". I have a diary full of my favorite quotes and now this one is included as well :)

      Many thanks for your support James!

      Chris Achilleos

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      PurvisBobbi44 4 years ago from Florida

      Hi Chris,

      There are so many wonderful messages in this hub. It tells everyone in feeling this way---they are not alone. And yes---it happens to us all.

      My motto is "Rise Above it" and this is how I deal with life's ups and downs. Most of the times it works for me---unless a love one is ill---and I have two of them ill at the moment.

      I try to be thankful for the little things---little blessings keep me going. I appreciate you writing this hub---because so many people need to read it and feel normal because they are not alone.

      Bobbi Purvis

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      Kathy 4 years ago from California

      Great topic, I have always wondered why some are so easily able to take life's disappointments in stride while others are nearly destroyed. Yes so we are told "what doesn't kill one provides strength and wisdom" and so true it is, not easy however. I believe that if life is too comfortable then growth and change may not occur but there are so many variables and we are all so different. I really enjoyed your positive outlook and encouragement to overcome the difficult moments that life will forever challenge us with. Up and interesting!

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      Chris Achilleos 4 years ago

      Hi Bobbi,

      I am very sorry to here about your loved ones. I hope and wish that they overcome their illness soon. Sometimes we go through these phases in life, I have been through this as well. But I realized that we must remain strong for those close to us which need us, and we should support them. I believe that there is a reason behind everything that happens, and sooner or later we do find out.

      Unfortunately life is not fair some times, but as you mentioned, life is really about the little things and it is these things we should be grateful for.

      I am really honored that you liked my hub and understood the messages I was trying to give.

      Chris Achilleos

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      Chris Achilleos 4 years ago

      Hi Kathy,

      Thank you for reading. Unfortunately disappointing events will always take place from time to time however as we grow we learn how to deal with it. And yes, I agree with you that if everything was just comfortable in our lives then we would never grow and learn. It's like if I've never been through the things I have been through, then I wouldn't be the person I am today!

      I am very happy that you have enjoyed my hub. Thank you very much for your kind comments Kathy. Your votes are truly appreciated.

      Have a wonderful day,

      Chris

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      Dana Stamps 4 years ago from Wichita, Kansas

      Another great message! Thank you for this, because I have felt this many times throughout my life, and it's hard to not allow the negative to be in control. God allows certain things to happen within our life for a reason. We must always realize that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and a rainbow ahead. So uplifting and encouraging! Thank you! Voted up and awesome! I am definitely going to be reading more of your hubs!

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      Chris Achilleos 4 years ago

      Hello Danast,

      Sometimes it is hard to control negativity however, it is a bit easier when we focus on how to overcome certain obstacles, in order to avoid concentrating on the negative aspects of a situation.

      Yes as you said there is "light at the end of the tunnel and a rainbow ahead", why spend our time in sadness when we can spend our time in excitement by looking forward for the future :) All the ups and downs in our lives make us stronger and we learn to appreciate the good things in life! And we soon realize that life is worth everything.

      I will be posting my new hub in a few hours about true happiness and love, I hope you like it as much :) Thank you so much for your lovely supporting comments and votes.

      May you have a wonderful day,

      Chris

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      Dana Stamps 4 years ago from Wichita, Kansas

      You are quite right. And, there are so many good things to be thankful for. I am looking forward to your hub on true happiness and love! I can't wait to read it!

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      Chris Achilleos 4 years ago

      Thank you so much Danast. I will be looking forward to receiving your comments!

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      velvet53 4 years ago from Pueblo, Colorado

      Even though your hub brought back memories I found comfort from it.

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      Chris Achilleos 4 years ago

      Hi velvet53,

      I am so happy that you found my hub comforting. Thank you so much for stopping by and reading!

      Take care,

      Chris Achilleos

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 3 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      A very motivating hub. All of us have faced disappointments at some point in time and you lay out some good points to deal with them effectively.

      Voted up and useful.

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      Chris Achilleos 3 years ago

      Thank you Rajan! Lately, I have been concentrating on publishing some motivational hubs, these are mostly about things that I have been through and lessons I have learned from them. Therefore, I wanted to share these in order to help other people who are going through similar phases in life. I am very happy you have found this hub motivational, and I truly appreciate your votes!

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