ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

"Peace, Love and Misunderstanding" Graceful Ageing?

Updated on November 12, 2012

An Interesting Generational Perspective on Ageing

Family dynamics often play a role in ageing gracefully, broken relationships create frustration while mended relationships produce tranquility. But I think the most important components for healthy relationships are open-mindedness and understanding, also requirements for graceful ageing.

Jane Fonda plays Grace an ageing hippie who is the antithesis of her real life activist persona. Grace's relationship with her daughter is rekindled when Diane her daughter divorces her husband. and meets her grandchildren after a 20 year seperation.

Graceful Ageing Occures Throughout Life !

"Peace, Love, and Misunderstanding" shows us that we are all ageing, no matter our age or stage in life we face obstacles. The truth is, we do not always move through life with grace.The movie spotlight the complex yet simple nature of relationships as we age. For Cole the young grandchild of Grace we come to understand his difficulties meeting and dating a young girl he meets at an anti war rally. Cole is awkward and unsure, but as he attempts to choose an outfit for the upcoming fair we glimpse into a conversation he has with Grace. As Grace and Cole sort through shirts, Grace asks if Cole has a condom, on its face a shocking question for Cole, but Grace comments, "you need protection from boys too." A new unaccepted reality for Cole, a sign of changing times.

All of the characters in the movie are struggling with transition in ages and stages of life, in community life and in family dynamics. Separating from old relationships and communities into new and unexplored communities requiring changes in perceptions where letting go of the old and accepting the new is necessary for graceful ageing.

The Family

Part of graceful ageing relies on the mending of broken relationships. Grace a free spirited sixty something hippie still living in Woodstock clashes with Diane her daughter an uptight middle aged city lawyer with opposing values and Ideals. Mainstream family values clash with the counter culture values causing a 20 year separation putting the children squarely in the middle.

The main focus of the relational dynamic shows that there are generational and lifestyle differences that separate each generation within families, but through peace and love families come together and help one another work through the transitions of ageing with peace, love, understanding and acceptance.

Letting Go

We must let go of the things that hurt us, the things that hold us back and the things that will set us free. Often when we experience transitions we hold on to the past and become chocked by the idea of change. We let our own emotions get in the way of positive change. In order to achieve transformational change we must let go of past views in favor of new and different perspectives. Accepting changes in relationships, health and valuing others points of view are part of our growth experience that must continue throughout ageing to accomplish grace. We must then have grace for ourselves and grace for others to find peace in our own life.

Being Connected and Involved

There is a cause for you! Your cause may not be that of an anti-war activist like Grace, but have a cause is important to ageing gracefully. Connection and involvement play a crucial role, it seems we must be involved in something greater than our self.

At any age social activity gives us a sense of connection, but for those advancing in age it provides a purpose. The transition from the working world to the retired world often leaves a gap, a black hole in our connection to the rest of the world. Filling the gap with meaningful volunteer, leisure or hobby activities often brings untold rewards.

While we may think that Grace has "Dropped Out," she is incredibly engaged in community activities, keeping up the farm, art, activism and personal relationships. Grace appears to be a model for graceful ageing.

Exploring New Things

Exploring new things can be invigorating, rewarding and educational no matter the age. We are limited by our own imagination and willingness to take a chance on attempting something new. The ageing continuum is packed full of opportunities to experience new adventures like skinny dipping or singing at the country fair like Diane did.

Exploring new ways of accomplishing activities is paramount for successful ageing. An openness to change and overcoming obstacles by finding new approaches is necessary for ageing with grace.

Connect spiritually

Grace finds connection to a higher spirit through a ritual ceremony with a group of her women friends. A sort of new age dance and seance deriving women's strength and personal connection to the power of a higher being.

Spirituality is not necessarily religiosity, but an individual inner connection based on one's own experience. While, Diane and Grace differ in their view of the meaning of spirituality it is important to understand the influence of the connection for graceful ageing.

Be Creative

All the characters in the film Peace, Love and Misunderstanding have creative outlets. Creativity offers us expression of our ideas, thoughts and dreams. Creativity is the mechanism that keeps us moving forward and also allows us introspection, a catalyst for change.

The Journey

Ageing is a journey it begins at our birth and end with our death. Graceful ageing reqires understanding the changes that occur during our lifetime and adjusting to these changes as we travel. We all travel different paths, but walk through similar experiences.

Peace, Love and understanding allows each of us to share grace in ageing.


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • mjboomer profile imageAUTHOR

      Mike Elzner 

      6 years ago from Oregon

      Thanks wrenfrost56.......I think new experiences add spice to life.

    • wrenfrost56 profile image


      6 years ago from U.K.

      I have not seen the film spotlight, but I may just have to now you have mentioned it in this hub and skinny dipping might have to go on my to do list as I get older too. Interesting and informative read. :)

    • profile image

      Liz Walmoth 

      6 years ago

      This was just a wonderful critique! I can't wait to see it. Adapting to change & ageing with grace have been my goal for a few years now. I find even my concept of ageing with grace changes as I inch forward in time.

    • CyberShelley profile image

      Shelley Watson 

      6 years ago

      Thank you for this critique on the Movie. I will definitely go and see it, while bearing in mind your thoughts! Voted up and interesting.


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)