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People Grow - but Mostly just by the Number

Updated on June 26, 2017
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Val is a life-long student of psycho-philosophy of living, and a devoted practitioner of many techniques enhancing personal evolution.

Many Shades of Abnormal

What do these dark personalities have in common - Attila the Hun, Adolph Hitler, Charles Manson, and a modern times terrorist? While all of them are from a different country and era, they share psychotic personality traits.

We have no problem recognizing such a mental fruitcake by their brutal and antisocial actions, but how many of us ever think about those much milder aspects of deviations from normal, which added together contribute to a general discord in this world.

Don't forget, folks, acting within the frames of relative normalcy doesn't really mean being normal. That would be something like saying that - since we all can laugh, frown, cry, talk, gesticulate with hands, and some of us can even sing, we all qualify for Broadway stage.

We Should Know Better

There seems to be one crucial quality missing in the mass mentality of the world - an inner drive to grow, to evolve as humans, to outdo our ancestors by more constructive and more harmonious forms of coexisting.

Add to it the novelty of polluting this planet, in some aspects we are even falling behind the level of consciousness of those ancients. All right, we could say in our "defense" that they would have done the same to the earth, oceans, atmosphere, and ionosphere if they had only known how to.

However, the fact remains that we are in so many other ways ahead of them, and with our level of intelligence which they did not possess, we should know better. From a strictly psychological standpoint, could we really go hard on those generations that saw the Earth as flat. In a way it would be like blaming toddlers for not understanding income tax calculations.

What Selective Morality Are We Following?

I am not really into psychological benefits of religious beliefs, but since most of the people see something there, we might ask ourselves, or better yet ask them - why after these millennia of their influencing the collective consciousness with that strict moral principle of not killing we still have wars?

How is that possible? If life is considered by all moral standards to be that ultimate and highest gift, how should we understand the failure of religion to at least secure the world of this extreme sin? What are they good for if they could not out-root this evil above all other evils?

Leaders, whether political or religious, all supposedly devoted believers and regular attendants of churches, mosques, and synagogues are seen as giving orders for an attack resulting with massive civilian casualties. Are their holy books teaching something different, maybe mentioning occasional allowable discount on the price of human life?

So Sensitive when Our Rights Are Violated

Well, let's face it, if leaders didn't have anyone willing to fight for their careeristic ambitions and greed for power, there wouldn't be any of that ugly inhuman display. But that's where all those puppets, called "soldiers" come into play, usually wearing a symbol of their faith for a "good luck" to the battlefield - faith which forbids them to kill - blasting the enemy with a passion.

By the way, that "enemy" consists of some total strangers who have done nothing to deserve that bullet in the head, other than acting as puppets themselves. Now, how is that for "normalcy"? Whom are we really kidding?

Can you see how conveniently everyone says with a shrug : "Well, it's an imperfect world". Some may even be closer with a diagnosis by calling it "crazy" instead. But then they will go all fuming and protesting and looting in bitterness over some social injustice - this time not shrugging it off with the same words of tolerance :"Well, it's an imperfect world". Interesting, isn't it, how selective our sense of justice may be.

No Inner Drive for Self-Improvement

There are times when I find myself in a bookstore or in a library wondering why all that treasure of knowledge and wisdom exists only for a limited number of folks, while the great majority will nonchalantly admit how they don't have time for reading anything.

It is simply not in their mentality to have such a need to improve themselves as human beings. They are the same kind of people who also don't find anything strange in teenagers being forbidden to buy cigarettes, but allowed to indulge in heavily sugared drinks which are potentially more damaging than tobacco.

Namely, looking at some statistics, there is an alarming rise of diabetes, and sugar is still around under the same umbrella together with good old alcohol - "We are not telling you to overdo it, so it's your responsibility, not ours."

Not Just a Philosophy

I could go on and on with these idiocies of public consciousness, and you could add many more yourself, never really making the list complete. You see, the question here is - why people keep doing something despite knowing that it's wrong?

We all know it, and it's actually the favorite mantra of our times - "No one is perfect"; but it is not about being perfect, it's about having no need to be better. To the most of us self-improvement is "a philosophy", not something real and tangible with rewards of being happier, healthier, and more effective in life.

Most of them couldn't care less about their eating, thinking, and feeling habits, they just keep whining about their stress, and what their mothers-in-law and politicians are doing to them.

It's about Survival of the Most Awakened - Not of the Fittest

Indeed, what kind of a kick in the butt do we all need to sober up from this "bad trip" from the opiate of electronic gadgets and other push-button conveniences of the modern living? As I mention "opiates", maybe I shouldn't go there because it's just too embarrassing that the proud man of the 21st century came to his evolution point of fighting for his rights to use recreational drugs.

Bravo, Homo Dopius! We seem to have that major inability in our mental makeup to step back and look at what we are really doing in this world. For, it's not necessarily all this crap that we are doing - we have a history of dragging our dignity through mud - but this particular fuse in our consciousness which would allow some more light of awareness about it.

The evolution of consciousness is not to happen in Darwinian style with all animals waiting passively for a major DNA event - but through an effort to outgrow those tendencies in ourselves that are not life promoting and doing nothing for the normalcy of our coexistence.

Living in Two Different Worlds

When I gather enough stomach strength to watch the parade of human stupidity called "News", I am honestly shocked that the same kind of crap is perpetuating itself. If they could at least come up with some new kind of crap, so that they are at least evolving in that department.

But people must find it interesting if it's being broadcast. O.K., the way I am, I quickly "recover" from that shock, promptly replacing it with indifference and humor, oftentimes turned at myself as well, for being curious about "what my fellow-men have been up to lately".

Then I may wrap it all around the reminder how "I am not them, and my world is what I make of it, not what others would want me to share with them".

On the Bright Side

Next I might sit beside my sweet wifie, put my arm around her shoulder and watch with her a TV comedy. Later at night it's my time for meditation, when I sink into a world of peace and harmony that is impossible to put in words so that it doesn't sound like just another piece of New Age mambo-jumbo.

Well, this is the platform from which the world was seen in this particular article. Some folks write poetry about the world's troubles, others make big jokes of them, and this was what I had to say from my little corner of observing.

Is everything really gloomy on this planet of ours? Of course not. As a matter of fact I am always among the first to look for something good in everything, because I need that goodness as a sweet ingredient for my own intimate reality.

But just for sake of a balance, and to prevent being called a "dreamer", I didn't mind reporting what I see in the shady side - as I am notoriously walking down the sunny side of the street.


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      Gilbert Arevalo 12 months ago from Hacienda Heights, California

      The traditional King James Bible and other popular translations don't usually give us trouble, Val. It's radical islamic terrorists and their misuse of text in the Koran that give us headaches. Law abiding Muslim people don't give us and trouble at all, but their lives in America are deeply threatened.

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      Vladimir Karas 20 months ago from Canada

      MizBejabbers - Those scientists who see our bodies as "deteriorating" are certainly not in agreement with other scientists who simply look at historical statistics of longevity. Some centuries ago the average lifespan was about 1/3 shorter than these days.

      These days we have some very (physically) active folks in their eighties, as public and personal hygiene and nutrition-awareness is on the rise. indulging on sweets every day, smoking or sedentary lifestyle certainly won't produce strong bodies. But, all in all, having these historical data in mind, the opposite would be true from our being "copies of copies of copies."

      For another point that you mentioned, the more we move towards the past, the more it's "fitness" that determines survival, because those were the times of waving with a sword and axe. Modern life requires that we increase our awareness about pitfalls of stress as the biggest killer - plus become aware of all traps of wrong foods.

      Hence my statement in the hub that "it's the times of survival of the most awakened, not the fittest" - because fitness comes as result of living more aware.

      However, I truly appreciate your input, and please do it again some time, I like reading responses from readers. Have a great day - Val.

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      MizBejabbers 20 months ago

      Val, I understand your thought of it being about the most awakened, not the fittest. Of course it depends on what you mean by the fittest. Our bodies really are deteriorating. Scientists liken it unto a photo copy of a photo copy of a photo copy, ad infinitum until we are nothing. So we need to have good bodies in which our awakened selves may return. I'm going to stop right here before the bleeding hearts become aroused and try to stick their fists down my throat.

      I understand the reading to benefit one's business or hobbies. Both my husband and son are like that as they both confine their reading to instruction manuals. My husband lost his vision in one eye, so I kind of understand that. My son used to be an avid reader of fiction, and I have such a good collection that I would like to pass on to him. Oh, well.

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      Larry Rankin 20 months ago from Oklahoma

      And that number needs to shrink if we want to preserve the planet.

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      Vladimir Karas 20 months ago from Canada

      Hello John,

      Isn't it strange about wars? I have from ever been amazed about people's taking wars as a "normal feature of being human", while killing in civilian life is such a big no-no. And as it always happens, sooner or later the warring sides establish good relationships (America-Vietnam), and I just don't get it why all those thousands of young men had to die.

      In the relativity of everything, there are still many people who read, and your poems are just too good to be ignored, my friend. And it's not only about reading, but ALSO reading about those topics which advance our personal orientation in life - about nutrition, relationships, happiness. There are many fat and divorced doctors, professors, academics, etc, who definitely must have read a lot, but obviously didn't read the stuff that could inspire them to better themselves as individuals.

      Thank you for your interesting comment, John. Have a great day and the upcoming weekend. - Val

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      Vladimir Karas 20 months ago from Canada

      Hari - Thanks, I am glad you found it interesting.

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      John Hansen 20 months ago from Queensland Australia

      Val, it is sad that most people don't bother or are too busy to read. I know two of my own sons rarely ever do..other than what may appear on their smartphones as texts, or on the Internet (Facebook and the like). I actually have to take that back as they have both started up their own businesses recently and have actually been reading about business, marketing and motivation.....let's revert my previous statement to two years ago. I could still say though that they would not have read more than two novels between them.

      I wonder what I am doing trying to make money as a writer when such a large portion of the population doesn't even read.

      Anyway, that was just a small portion of your article. I enjoyed the whole thing, and I also agree about soldiers being just puppets and killing other puppets they have no real [ersonal grudge against. They actually have a lot in common, just killing each other to appease their Governments and politicians. Good read.

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      Hari Prasad S 20 months ago from Bangalore

      Vladimir, the thoughts you have articulated are universal truths. Nice article.

      - hari