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Pivotal Moments in Your Life: What Are They?
We see it in movies or hear about such events or circumstances and how they altered a life, for the better or not. Steve Jobs had a few as he developed the computer, I am sure Bill Gates did also.
For many of us, it is an event that altered or could have altered the years that would follow, either for the better or worse. At the moment, you made a decision, which maybe at the time, did not seem significant until many years later. Or, maybe, at the time, you DID realize it was a major a decision.
In my case, it was getting the results from my first year of law school exams. I scored well in Torts, not bad in Contracts, and marginal in Criminal Law. The law school had a policy that first years students had to have a cumulative average of 68 from the final exams. My total was 67.75. This meant that I would have to repeat 1st year again. I begged all my professors just to give me a break and up my grade by a mere .25 so my total was 68. I really didn't think it would be an issue, I mean, its one-fourth of one point! However, law professors what they are-basically jerks who never answered you questions in class by using the Socratic Method, refused. Even my Torts professor who said that for a first year student, I score quite well, would not change my grade (they had the discretion).
Facing the dilemma, I found out that I could transfer to another law school and start my second year, so I did. The following year, my former school changed their policy so that any first year student with an average of 67+ from the final exams would continue to 2nd year on probation. When I had heard that, I was furious! Again, I met the Dean and begged him to allow my scores from the previous year be allowed. Nope, that would not happen.
So, I continued and received my law degree a few years later. When I applied to take the Bar exam, there was a fatal hitch, I was unaware about when I had transferred. That was, all first year students must pass according the school's policy. Well, in that case, I was not eligible to take the Bar exam to be an attorney because when I attended the first law school its policy was to have a passing average of 68. not 67.75. I pleaded with the Bar, but they said unless the school amended my first year there, no can do! WTF!
My remaining choice was to go do the first year again, even though I have a Juris Doctor. I thought this was such BS. That is when the pivotal moment came. The choice was clear and costly OR just be a paralegal. I chose the paralegal route and did that for many years.
I often think back what if I had repeated the first year again and if all worked out, I would be far wealthier and more happy, career wise. Of course, maybe I would have passed the Bar exam. In any case, because of bad timing and an average just under the passing score, becoming an attorney and its way of life eluded me. Still angers me.
What is your pivotal moment?