- Mental Health
Pleasantly Going Backwards In A Forward Society: CHAPTER 2: WHY?
Chapter 2: WHY?
Pleasantly Going Backwards In A Forward Society
My New 3 Favorite Words: IT’S PAID FOR!
An ongoing essay of truths, mishaps and growing experiences by Sarah Jackson
CHAPTER 2: WHY?
The be-all and end-all of life should not be to get rich, but to enrich the world. -- B. C. Forbes
I want to discuss something vital. Why do we wish to “step down” into a simpler lifestyle, living in a “cheap” home and live away from daily societal chaos? Exactly. Let us word it this way: It is a shame we work harder than anyone, killing ourselves to maintain the idea that we, as Americans, must prove our happiness and our status by obtaining material possessions. What the heck? It took me a while, but I figured out that the stuff I have does NOT dictate who I am as a person or how happy I am. I learned most of that from the mistakes of my parents. Hey, you can have everything in the world and be miserable, right? So I made a new list. What do I want?
My to-do list centers around my children and my husband and me. I want to go dig dinosaur bones with my son who wants to be a Paleontologist when he grows up. I want to go to the Grand Canyon. I want to go to Pennsylvania with my husband and visit the museum of his favorite artist, Frank Frazetta. I want a home that is mine, and I don’t want to owe anyone. I want to go to Ireland someday, the land of my ancestors. And you know what? I can do these things. They do require money. So we have some decisions to make. Would I rather pay for new vehicles every month because that’s what everyone else is doing, or do I want to use those several hundreds of dollars each month to save and fulfill our dreams. What is MY life worth? I only have one, and so do my kids. Would I have regret if I didn’t make it to next week? Heck yeah, but less regret than I did years ago. We are making things happen now and our dreams and goals are on their way to realities. By downsizing in the eyes of “the world”, we are upgrading our lives and it is a grand thing. After all, Art Buchwald said that the best things in life aren’t things.The best things in life aren't things.
So here we are: we have a house that is ours. It needs some love, but we have plenty of that to give. We have a transition ahead of us, one that involves ridding ourselves of our current home and moving into our new home, well…new to us. We have a future ahead of us where each paycheck will have fewer places to go. We have visions of watching our kids grow up with the knowledge that people are so much more important than things. We have friends who become more aware of just what we are doing each day. We have our family’s support. We have experts upon whom we can rely when we need a reference. We have a can-do spirit and a die-hard quest for adventure and knowledge. Now, if we could just get started…we’re still so busy!