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Positive Thinking For A Positive Life - A How To Guide On Positive Thinking
Positive thinking requires the same effort as thinking negatively, but the person who thinks positively will surely get more from their life than the latter.
The way we view our lives is usually decided by our experiences in our early years, the child who is praised for their efforts unconditionally will have a much more positive outlook on life than a child that receives little or no encouragement, but frequent criticism, common sense should tell us that. Either way a habit in the way of thinking develops.
Thankfully bad habits can be changed, this does requires some thought and effort as habits by their nature are carried out unthinkingly and automatically.
Our Life Is What Our Thoughts Make It - Marcus Aurelius
This sentiment will be easily dismissed by some who are convinced their reality or way of thinking is the only correct way to view their situation. To be sure it is difficult to see the positive or alternate way of thinking about many seemingly dreadful situations, but people can and do. Positive thinking for a positive life requires no more effort than thinking negatively, once you've grasped the essentials you can enjoy the benefits for a lifetime.
Identifying Thought Processes
The first step towards positive thinking is to identify negative thinking habits. What usually happens with negative thinking is that a situation is assessed and then it is downgraded one way or another. We are all prone to do this at times, look at the table below and see if this sounds like you.
The statements we speak out loud or the internal "self-talk" (which can develop into an insidious chatter of negative statements for some people) as you would imagine are not at all helpful.
An Alternative View
However, it is possible to change these statements we make and put the "self-talk" to our advantage, this by simply by rewording them more positively, see the examples in the table below:-
Changing To A More Positive Way Of Thinking
When I worked in psychotherapy we would spend time together looking at various scenarios the client had difficulties with, to see how they might view the situation in a different way in future. Often the client would be able to come up with a new way of thinking about a situation when the above examples has been looked at and the rules below had been applied.
So even by putting into action some of the re-wording suggestions contained here you can begin to make a start.
5 Rules For Positive Thinking
Above we saw how you can re-word statements internally and externally to provide a more positive way of viewing situations.
This way of positive thinking is based on 5 General Rules.
As the famous Henry Ford once said
"Whether you think you can or you think you cannot, you are absolutely right"
Other Benefits to Positive Thinking
I have concentrated here on the mental well being aspect of positive thinking, but studies have showed a strong correlation between a positive mental attitude and better physical health too. Achieving goals by positive imagery is now well established in the sports world.
Socially, ask yourself who do you like to spend your time with, someone who has a positive outlook on life or someone who is negative? So there is much to recommend a more positive way of thinking.
Now for Action
It may have taken many years to develop subtle ways of putting your self down and will require more than just reading a hub page once to change things. Reading this article can hopefully interest you to investigate further and even here there is enough information by following the 5 rules for you to make significant changes for a more positive outlook.
There are many self-help books out there if you don't wish to seek any professional help.
Old habits die hard and you will probably on the spur of the moment revert back to them at times, but having realized this you can take a few moments to re-evaluate situations. It might be helpful to write out these rules so you can refer back to them or simply bookmark this page for future reference.
Putting these ideas into action is the key thing, no matter how many self-help books you read it won't help you at all until you put what you've learned into action.
You can start with very small steps, simply being able to accept a compliment could be your first goal, It is surprising how many people have problems accepting a compliment. Often this relates back to childhood where it was somehow mistakenly linked to being boastful.
Why deflect a genuine compliment, a simple "thank you" is all that is required to make you and the "giver" feel good.
I hope you have found encouragement here.