44 and Pregnant!
Getting Pregnant at Age 44
So yesterday morning I got the amazing sight of a positive pregnancy test (or BFP) at the age of 44! It came as a bit of a shock for some reason as, although I had been trying for 10 months, I really didn't think it had happened this month. I had absolutely no symptoms up until the day when my period was due so I hadn't really tested before then.
The only reason that I tested was because I had a really high temperature on the morning that my period was due, rather than it going down. Now, if you are trying to conceive, the best way to monitor your cycle is to take your temperature every morning at the same time. You can find more info about this on another of my articles but essentially at the end of a cycle a high temperature can indicate pregnancy, otherwise it would be normal for your temperature to decrease just before your period is due.
So, I had one test in the back of the cupboard and thought I might as well use it. Below is the result:
What Are The Chances?
So, I have done a lot of investigations into what my chances were of getting pregnant at 43 - the age that I started - and also the stats for over 40's in my group of friends. Although the doctors do not give a very good chance to those over 40 of getting pregnant, I was not convinced by their statistics as mine proved otherwise. Also I don't know where they get their numbers from as they can't know who is trying to conceive.
Having said that, after trying for 10 cycles (actually 9 as my baby father was away for 1) I feel very lucky to have got a BFP in that space of time. But who knows, maybe that is just normal. I had some tests done and my levels were OK. My FSH level was 7.4 which is OK but not brilliant. The semen anaysis did not come out great with poor morphology, but 3 months of taking vitamins may have changed this to a point where it was much better. I also took a number of supplements myself - in particular I took maca root tablets for 6 months and they are supposed to improve the quality of your eggs.
So today just to be sure, I took a digital pregnancy test and you can see the result below:
Will it Stick?
Well this is another question and there seem to be stats saying that a high rate of pregnancies in women in their 40's end in miscarriage.
I have determined to enjoy this for as long as it lasts and really hope that it will stick, but at the end of the day it is pretty much out of my hands as long as I do not do anything stupid.
This will be my first child and although I will be one of the oldest Mum's in the playground I feel that I am only really now ready for motherhood. I can offer a child a stable and secure life in a nice home with two parents who love it, even if they are not together. Maybe more importantly two parents who get on with each other.
I know it will be a struggle and with back problems I am probably going to suffer but I am sure it will be worth it in the end.
Update - 2013
So unfortunately this pregnancy ended in a miscarriage (it was a blighted ovum at just over 8 weeks). I started getting a bit of brown spotting and then some cramps and I went to the doctor and got an ultrasound which showed a blighted ovum. A week later I miscarried.
But the good news is that I am now pregnant again (almost 9 weeks now) so i have made it past the point where I lost this baby and am hoping that this one will be a healthy pregnancy. I have already had a scan and seen the heartbeat so I am off to a good start I think.