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Pressures on Women

Updated on November 23, 2011
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There are a lot of pressures on women to keep beautiful, be successful, to get and keep a man. It can all be exhausting. Sometimes you just want to let go and do whatever you want to do! You see all these women on television from The Real Housewives to any show really and you see these women trying to look perfect and have the best house, best husband, blah blah blah... When does it all end? On top of that we are all competing with each other all the time. Being catty and not having any fun. Men seem to make and keep friends a lot easier without all of the petty fights that come with it.

Women have always had a lot of pressure since the beginning of time on their backs from looking good, to keeping a clean house, cooking food for everyone, and keeping a man happy. Not saying that men don't have pressures of their own, of course they do. I'm just speaking from the ladies' point of view. For one thing, how come a woman is not considered as attractive when she hits her forties but men seem to be seen as better looking? With the cougar rage and the aging process slowing down due to plastic surgery and wrinkle creams it's becoming more popular to be an older woman and feeling beautiful which is great, but why put all this pressure on women?

I started my thirties not too long ago and I am already feeling the pressures of aging. I hated my twenties because mentally I was a hell of a lot more confused than I am now with my life. As I get more clear with what I want out of life and who I am I like myself a lot more. The only thing that bothers me is today's society which puts these pressures on women to be "perfect" because well, let's face it none of us are perfect and will never be. All we can do is to try and be perfect.

Another things is the whole marriage thing. Yes, eventually I would like to get married just like every other woman. I haven't found my husband yet. I have been in very long relationships which didn't work out and they would have been disasters if we would have gotten married. I was too young and naive to know any better. I have an idea of what would make a marriage work so I feel way better about the whole thing then when I was twenty. I thought I was ready back then just because I was a romantic. LOL. It is so much more than that.

I also noticed how men change as they grow older. They are not the innocent romantic guys that they were when they were twenty. Oh no. Some turn to be bitter, resentful, or just plain womanizers. I can see why it is so hard to find a good man to love you. The ones I have run into are pretty selfish or all of the above that I just mentioned. As I get older and wiser I see more of the realities in life I guess you can say of how things are and what I have to accept. When I was younger I was so rebellious I didn't want to accept any of it. I wanted to create my own world which never really worked. And as time goes by and I am not twenty anymore I accept different aspects of myself in new ways and to grow and love myself. I wish we could all stay at twenty physically and keep growing mentally but that's not how things work.

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    • carolinemd21 profile imageAUTHOR

      Caroline Marie 

      6 years ago

      Hubert that's hilarious. That sounds about right. lol

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      Hubertsvoice 

      6 years ago

      I wish I had some good advice for you but I am just a man with no schematic for the wiring pattern of women. Early into my marriage I asked a man who had been married 50 years how he and his wife had accomplished that feat. He told me, "Never have your periods at the same time as hers"

    • carolinemd21 profile imageAUTHOR

      Caroline Marie 

      6 years ago

      Hubert that is great that you and your wife has such honesty and great communication. That's great how long your marriage has lasted! Congrats! Thanks for reading my hub and putting your input. Any advice works for me.

    • carolinemd21 profile imageAUTHOR

      Caroline Marie 

      6 years ago

      Cathylynn wow that's horrible that your fiance would say that to you! I've known men like that too. Atleast you found a great guy now. Good for you. Thanks for reading!

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      Hubertsvoice 

      6 years ago

      My wife and have always just spoke what's is on our minds to one another. We have not always liked what was said but we have respected each others freedom of speech. It has worked for us for over 22 years. And to think people said it wouldn't last six months.

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      cathylynn99 

      6 years ago from northeastern US

      yup, there are scum balls out here. i once had a bad fiance who claimed 80% of men were just like him. little did he think that among the other 20% of good guys, i only needed one guy, whom i found.

    • carolinemd21 profile imageAUTHOR

      Caroline Marie 

      6 years ago

      Thanks Epi. Happy Thanksgiving to you too!

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      epigramman 

      6 years ago

      ...no pressure here though to read your world class writing and first rate journalism through your thoughts and feelings and yes it's always so nice to find out from a male perspective about the female point of view especially when it comes from someone as classy as you - Happy thanksgiving from lake erie time ontario canada 2:22pm

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