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Private thoughts, Privacy of life, I know what you are thinking. Big deal NSA.
You probably think these kids are thinking of the beauty of the moon and beach -- you would be wrong.
Our thoughts are our own private place. Privacy there is inviolate.
The sanctity of private thoughts is not such a sanctuary. Privacy anywhere is only partial. Private is only private if you take the steps to make it so. I can pick your private mental lock. You think NSA is intruding wait until you here how I have been doing it for years.
Perhaps you think that your thoughts are your own. Nice idea. I can tell if you have that thought in just seconds of being with you. I can guarantee you that you had certain thoughts today. Even if you did not notice them yourself.
Christians and many other groups have this notion of confessing sins. Sometimes even out loud. I think it is therapeutic, and a good commitment and practice. But to think there is a God and then to think you need to tell God what you have done or what you are thinking is really a humorous concept. To be sure these practitioners are only doing it for themselves.
Read further however you answer
Do you believe I can know what you are thinking
First order of business to dispell
What you say has very little impact on my knowing what you are thinking. What you say is most often not what you are thinking. No I do not mean you are lying. I mean to say that even as we vocalize a thought our mind is thinking about something else. The thought regarding what you are talking about has already been had and is stored and your brain is thinking about something else.
You are telling me the stock quotes and glance up at the clock and then take a hard look at what I am wearing. Your time is precious. By the time you finish the stock quotes you have evaluated me as a potential investor. Because I am not dressed right I lose, and as we say good bye you are thinking of the next customer.
When you say "I love you" probably you are not thinking of your love for me, but just about me.
Just for fun and example
Did you know that I know that you thought about your bowel movements. Yes you did. Today. I would take a look at you and surmise something about that. Constipateded? Irritable? Perfect? Diarrhea? That is pretty doggone private and not something you normally share. Kind of weird to talk about. But I know you have thought about it today.
"How do I look?" -- you have thought that in the last 24 hours guaranteed. "I wish I were...." for sure. "Ouch" is an absolute. "Yuk" is a standard. "if only" is normal. "I am hungry" yes. "boring" undoubtedly.
You see half of the knowing is just realizing that in our little heads there are somethings that we all think about. Just spend some time thinking about your private thoughts and decide how many millions of others have similar ones through the day.
I know that something in your brain feels the cold.
Unique thoughts and Sins
I hope the above paragraphs do not leave you feeling less than the unique special person that you are. Please celebrate your uniqueness. There is only one you thank goodness ;-)
That which allows me to see further is a combination of forensics and empathy. Both take a lot of work to become proficient at and constant practice and effort into those realms.
Res gestae is obviously an old term. It has be hi-jacked by the legal profession, into meaning things can be brought into evidence to explain the circumstances of an occurrence or lack thereof. It really means the totality of the state of things. It is a critical concept for one trying to get to truth using forensics. Forensics again has been usurped by courts as meaning the body of scientific and physical evidence presented. Again it's truer meaning is the gathering of knowledge based on the study of what has been. Remember 1 second creates a past tense.
So if a man has yellowish teeth and a brown stain on his right second finger and is acting fidgety I can conclude that he wants to have a cigarette and is thinking of that. But there is more. Because he must wait he is not the boss. Because of the brown stain of the finger he smokes non-filters. Because he is fidgety he has other issues and smoking helps relieve those. Or maybe he just has to pee pee real bad. But I know for sure he is thinking about something besides me and that he wishes he were someplace else.
Uniqueness requires a little more than that. Empathy. How do you feel what someone else is feeling? Well you open up to that. You do not block that sensory perception. You get closer so that the energy being given off is more direct to your energy. And you use gestures, postures and words to let the other relax and not "keep it bottled up inside".
Children are open books
So what about our Sins?
Well we try to hide them. We are ashamed of them. We do not share them with others. And we think we are getting away with our little secret.
But just think about that notion. Really? I think not. Did you know that when someone yells at you it is all about them. Angry people are not that way because you did something wrong. A wrong doing does not cause anger naturally. It is a trained reaction. The concept of flight or fight has no anger in the equation.
So next time you see an angry person yelling at another. Do not look to the other for the cause of such actions. Look toward the actor. In fact if you look hard enough you can even see the sin in the man that is causing this behavior. And pay attention to the name calling. Think back, have you ever noticed that most yelling name calling is not germane to the alleged offense. Ah but it is germane to why the man is angry.
Now good luck out there with your privacy. And if you think you want to use what I have said to get into someone's private thoughts. I urge you to think long and hard on that one. You really do not want to know about what I am thinking --- TMI