Death Comes....Quotes to Uplift
During the times in my life when a mountain has appeared out of nowhere in the middle of the pathway I am traveling, I find that writing is the therapy that helps me to soothe the fresh, raw pain that washes over me.
Three years ago, my amazing and wondrous nephew suddenly died.
Trying to find a way to cope and to help my sister, his Mother, take it in, searching for words to help express some of my thoughts was one way for me to find a modicum of calm in the midst of that storm.
Within this article are words that give voice to the feelings both my sister and I shared.
My Niece and Nephew...both left this planet too soon
Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have - life itself.
— Walter Anderson
Whispers of hope cascade around us if we open ourselves to them
Handling the loss
Without a doubt unexpected sudden death has happened to someone in our family or to the family of someone we know. It comes like that proverbial thief in the night and steals away at least for a moment the order and calm our lives once knew.
It was not supposed to happen that way...suddenly and without warning. And it certainly is not supposed to happen to a child or relative of ours who is seemingly perfectly healthy. And then out of the blue it does happen.
This can be a turning point in the life of each one who is affected. It can negatively or positively affect the future life of those left in the tsunami of pain and anguish.
No two of us makes sense (or fails to makes sense ) of such tragedy in the same way. What is right for you may absolutely not be how I will process such an event
For me and my family to confront the loss head on...to scream and cry and ask the endless barrage of questions to which there are no answers was part of the process. Being stuck in the sorrow and sadness just did not work for us. It changed nothing. It would only end up destroying us so we moved on.
Moving on does not mean that we do not revisit the day and feel some of those same feelings we felt when we first knew our loved one was gone. Because in fact we do. Now it is different though.
The pain is not as raw. The anguish not as searing. Emotions have morphed into feelings that do not leave us paralyzed with grief.
We can now speak of his death and the subsequent death of his sister two years later without having it rip our hearts out. We do reflect and wish it were not so to some extent but more than that...we remember the wondrous moments we shared with them and are thankful.
Letting go of angst and sorrow is freeing. It for me has never gone away totally but being able to distance myself from it has given me strength and understanding as I face such loss with others.
No one ever really dies as long as they took the time to leave us with fond memories.— Chris Sorensen
A Life Not Yet Lived
This was written to share the life of my precious nephew who suddenly left us on May 11, 2013.
In the night of death, hope sees a star, and listening love can hear the rustle of a wing.— Robert Ingersoll
Simple but exquisite beauty brings a modicum of tranquility
Live with the joy of a life well lived....
Martin Kloess our very own Mhatter99 wrote those words to me in a comment on the hub http://pstraubie48.hubpages.com/hub/A-Life-Not-Yet-Lived that I have just published.
Thank you, Mhatter99
Dear Martin, Mhatter99, whose writings I had read often because of the humor or the profound understanding of how we feel that he shares in poetry and tanka..wrote the following words:
Live life in the joy of a life well lived..
Thinking about that. Of course I will. I can be sad for a few minutes and mourn for the loss but I will not become mired down in that sadness.
Thinking on those words, helped both sister and me to relive the joy and gifts that were given to us by her son and my precious nephew who is gone too soon.
It helped immensely to focus our energies that way.
Taking a walk to a peaceful place renews my spirit
Faith Reaper's words came to comfort me
From that box of musical treasures, listen to the lyrics you now hear
Go ahead and cry, cry . . . cry like a baby, dear.
Our dear Faith Reaper wrote those words above in a most wondrous hub ...the link follows
Life is to be savored! Life is to be celebrated! I do not avoid old memories, but instead I embrace the positives associated with those old memories.— Bill Holland
Thank you, billybuc
Our very own billybuc wrote those words in a hub he has written here on HubPages.
and those of you who read my writing know that I totally live my life this way...
You really must go read his works if you have not...you will find much there to consider and ponder...
Drbj Provides Humor + Much More
When I need a laugh t know that I will find one at drbj's page here on HubPages (there is a lot more there to read) ...
But to provide an interlude, humor works for me every time. Please visit and bathe in humor.
Eiddwen Chooses Words to Soothe
As we shall taste
Mother Nature's soothing
Contagious wondrous emotions
To inhale her unconditional love
To share in her unselfish ways
Soothing each broken heart
Oh yes we shall
Our precious Eiddwen wrote these words in the hub at the following link....
To me in the days and weeks ahead walking in nature and feeling the songs of the ages rise up to me soothe my soul and help to ease the pain.
Find What Lifts YOU Up
No Matter How Good Life is it is Never Easy.
How true these words are....Please find the rest of Carol's hub containing a number of quotes for life's journey.
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that
in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.— Kahil Gibran
Serene Moments Offer Tranquility
Grieving is a necessary passage and a difficult transition to finally
letting go of sorrow - it is not a permanent rest stop.— Dodinsky
Finding Solace Amid the Calm
Do not allow the pain of loss, to stop the process of living.— Trent Thomas
Pain and death are part of life. To reject them is to reject life itself.— Havenlock Ellis
A Bench in the Memorial Garden in Honor of Dear, Precious Nephew
True happiness is an acceptance of life as it is given to us, with its diminishment, mystery, uncontrollabiltiy, and all.— Michael Gilbert
Peggy W Left a Comforting Comment Just Recently
"Faith strengthens us but it still does not ease the sadness of losing those of whom we love in this life. Continue to cherish each and every day that you have together..."
Peggy Woods writes a wide variety of interesting and informative articles, many about places to visit in Texas and the U.S.
The words shared in her comment on a hub recently reminded me that often some of the most heartfelt words do come to us in comments such as these. Thank you Peggy.
When I began the search for words to soothe our hearts, I was only going to locate those on emotional pain.
However because my life and the lives of my family are so closely filled with joy, I had to include those about JOY and happiness.
Play the moments, pause the memories, stop the pain, and rewind the happiness.— Mary Ann
Looking to the Heavens for Answers, Perhaps...
Find out where joy resides and give it a voice far beyond singing. For to miss the joy is to miss all.— Robert Louis Stevenson
Washed in Calm Through Beauty
Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.— Gandhi
May Angels find you today and bring you joy, peace, comfort, and remind you of the fragility of life.— pstraubie48
No Explanation Needed...
Often when writing about quotes, some explanation or meaning or interpretation of the quotes is given. And sometimes that is needed. Sometimes I myself like to do that to clarify why the selected quotes were particularly to me.
In this case though I am processing and thoughtfully considering each that I have shared here. And thankfully I have found a great amount of solace through reading a plethora of quotes.
So thankful I am that those who have walked before us on this planet and have experienced sorrow, loss, pain, and been renewed by happiness and joy left for us words to bring us peace.
© 2013 Patricia Scott