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Depression: My Little Rant About It
Let's start with the definition. What is it?
I mean, hey, if not everyone then most would probably already have an idea on what depression is, but let's go over with the definition itself first.
Alright, there it is..
"Feelings of severe despondency and dejection"
I guess for me, my own self definition of that word is just.. being severely sad, un-motivated, un-inspired. To the point where you think there's no hope anymore. Keep in mind though, it's still not just a feeling or an emotion, think of it as a disease, some might have it in-born other might have caught it in another stage of their life. It's a silent killer because you'll never know who has it unless you have it checked, you'll never know, maybe you yourself already have it and not know.
How people interpret it
Okay, here we go, this is the part where I rant to you guys. This is mostly just my opinions about how people/society depicts depression and what happens because of those actions.
Let's start with the people you trust the most or closest to you..
- Your Family. They're always there for you, they do what's best for you, especially your parents. But when you have depression, grades are failing because you're even too sad to study, you try to explain why that's happening and shun it away as a joke. That's why you result to doing things that make you happy, that fills that void even for just a little while. Some people play games, some people read books, some even just make art as result of those harbored feelings. And yet.. they say "it's because of all those games you've been playing, if you study more you'd get better grades!" Ugh.
- Next on the list is the wonderful society of people we live with today. Bah. Some still treat it as a joke even if it's already clinically proven to be a disease and a major problem within the US and around the world. But yeah, I guess in short what the most annoying thing they tell you is just "try to be happy"/ "you just need to go out more", etc.. It's pretty annoying to hear honestly. Think of it this way, say you've been stabbed and you're bleeding, you call for help and someone just tells you "just stop bleeding". Stupid to hear right? It's not that easy to be happy, so S T O P saying things like that. Instead, be there for them, tell them they're strong, they can handle this, if they need help you're there for them, and most importantly.. listen to them.
There are a whole lot more that I wanna say but there's too much that i wanna say and don't want to make this post that long.
For the people who are friends with someone who has depression
Like what i've said on the other paragraph, they just want reassurance, that everything's gonna be okay. Also, be there for them, but set their expectations that you can't be there all the time but say that you'll try. Even if they don't want to open up to you, share their thoughts and feelings, it's alright. Remember, baby steps, you can't force someone to open up to you if they don't want to. If they want to be alone, let them be, they feel like they want to fix it on their own, but don't forget to tell them that you're there if they wanna talk.
Never EVER force them to do something they don't wanna do, they're another person, they're not you.
And speaking of them being another person, if they open up to you about their problems don't go and say "pfft that's easy, i've had it worse" or "some people has it worse than you, be grateful". That's just inconsiderate, like I said, they're their own person, they're not you and not someone else. Their hell might be your regular everyday life, but they might feel the same way about your problems. Never judge.
Finally, for people who have depression
Don't feel bad if you feel like you're a burden to others, you're not. They'll understand if they're your real friends. Even if you don't have anyone to talk to in person, that's why in this day and age technology is amazing. You could find a support group to talk about your feelings, you could be anonymous or show them your all, but remember, when you look for a group with the same case as you, don't be with people that will make you feel that it's alright to have it, or be with people that'll make you feel worse. Find a group that'll support you and help you fight it.
Find a hobby that'll distract you from the toxicity of this world, play games, make art, do something you enjoy. You don't have to show them what you've done, as long as you're happy doing it.
You aren't alone in this planet, but you are the only you in this world. You're special in your own way, everyone is. You just have to push through that wall that's keeping you from persueing your dreams.
And almost forgot, don't be afraid to put your trust in people, as what that priest in "Man of Steel" quoted "Sometimes, you just have to take a leap of faith, the trust part comes after" or something like that haha it's been a long time since I watched that movie.
Keep on smiling, and keep on fighting soldier :)