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Real Men Care for Their Health

Updated on January 15, 2013

I guess it is natural to think at this time of year about all the past Christmases, and naturally about all the family members that have passed on. I have increasingly seen more people die as I have gotten older of course... the longer you live the fewer people around you and all that.

I think about my father at this time of year... who did succumb to cancer way too early; he was a tough man. He wasn't a big part of my life... and unfortunately the year he decided to take part in my life he died. My stepfather, who was a big part of my life and upbringing also died; a few short years later. Two tough men who are gone that shared not only a mutual toughness; but an incredibly stubborn attitude about their health. My stepfather in fact bragged about never having went to a doctor. The sad fact of the matter is that I never can remember him going ... ever. What is even sadder is that when I was married I bragged that same thing. I was a responsible , reliable, trusted, and "tough" husband and father. No time for sickness or any other less than manly concerns. The sad part about that is that I used to work in hospitals. I preached to others about their health and ignored my own.


Reasons Why Men Don't Go To The Doctor...

Many of us were raised to "be tough", and never show weakness

Quite often it is out of financial concern, and the fear that being "sick" will cost too much

A so-called routine exam for most of us seems pointless if we are not in pain or discomfort

Many men just don't trust the medical "system" or any of its' components

Quite often women too who are caught up in the societal push toward male "toughness"; sometimes telling their men to "man-up" upon the slightest complaint. Although a tendency toward auto suggested illness or a need for attention is common amongst both sexes, it is less likely men will want to ever appear less than "God-like" and their complaints be unfounded.


Why we should be going...

Men typically live and work in more dangerous environs then women

Men smoke more and drink more than women

Men seek medical attention far less than women

It was found by a nationwide study in 2009 that 100 out of every 100,000 deaths in America were preventable; with certainly the most significant number of those being men

Millions of men die every year from treatable diseases like prostate cancer

Alarming Facts:

Almost half of men according to a report published in the Chicago Sun Times 18 to 50 don't have a primary care physician.

40% of men in their 40's have never had their cholesterol tested, and 70% of us have never had a prostate exam.


The Toughest

There is a sadly ironic thing about us men wanting to be tough and protective of those we care for the most. Often, our ignoring our health and being ignorant of our own bodies, can wind up hurting the very ones we wish to protect; because they wind up burying us way too soon.

I have been blessed that as a veteran I get to go to the V A hospital for a yearly drill of testing; which I complain about, and dread going to, but I go. I pray that all my brothers out there will take care of their health, or that wives, daughters , siblings, and sons can convince the toughest of us to go see about ourselves.



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    • Laurinzo Scott profile imageAUTHOR

      Live To Write 

      5 years ago from Phoenix, Az.

      Thank you Faith for your very insightful comments , and I agree that for me as a man too... a woman that takes care of Herself is more attractive... it simply makes since for the people you care stay around as long as you can, barring of course some health issues outside of our control; but regular check-ups and an active participation in your own health is essential

      Bless you Faith

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      Faith Reaper 

      5 years ago from southern USA

      Wow, Laurinzo, how did I miss this awesome hub here, but I am glad I am here now. You have really outdone yourself with this very insightful hub into men's health. I know that my husband's step-father hated, absolutely hated going to the doctor. He died a couple of years ago from lung cancer, even after the doctor (when he finally went) told him to stop smoking long ago, and even after, he continued on and well . . . it may have still killed him in the end even if he had quit smoking, but who knows. I think a man who takes great care of himself is so wise and a lot more attractive to women than those men who do not!

      Voted up ++++ and sharing

      God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

    • Laurinzo Scott profile imageAUTHOR

      Live To Write 

      5 years ago from Phoenix, Az.

      Thank you for giving me a whole new perspective... and I pray tobusiness that my brothers in the UK can wise up!!!!

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 

      5 years ago from Lincolnshire, U.K

      Laurinzo, you are so right!!...most men seem to feel, that a visit to the doctor is admitting defeat, a sign of weakness.

      Funnily enough; I was just reading an article in the news paper this morning about how British men are dying of cancer, because of their 'stiff upper lip' apparently; the survival rate are lower here than in other wealthy countries which do not have the same cultural hang-ups. I think it's time for some major changes in attitude. A timely and important write. Well done.

    • Laurinzo Scott profile imageAUTHOR

      Live To Write 

      5 years ago from Phoenix, Az.

      Thank you so much my fellow Illinoisan for your insightful comments... and I agree and am hopeful that more will act to care for their health!

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      5 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Very insightful hub. I believe when men or women are young they have a feeling of being invincible. Seeing a Doctor is the least thing on their mind, which of course is not true, esp. today when so many of the young are obese and out of shape. Many young people have developed type 2 diabetes and are unaware. Hopefully more will read your hub and act. Thank's for the share.

    • Laurinzo Scott profile imageAUTHOR

      Live To Write 

      5 years ago from Phoenix, Az.

      Thank you so much are too kind

      Bless you

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      carol stanley 

      5 years ago from Arizona

      Very enlightening. T hanks for sharing these most valuable and important things. Well written. Voting up and sharing.

    • Laurinzo Scott profile imageAUTHOR

      Live To Write 

      5 years ago from Phoenix, Az.

      Thank you so much for your kind words Shauna... I am glad you enjoyed the read!

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      Shauna L Bowling 

      5 years ago from Central Florida

      Very eye-awakening stats, Laurinzo. I'm glad to hear you are succumbing to your annual check ups. What you say is true: lack of prevention can lead to your loved ones burying you sooner than necessary.

      Great information. It's too seldom we see men bringing health awareness to light.

    • Laurinzo Scott profile imageAUTHOR

      Live To Write 

      5 years ago from Phoenix, Az.

      Thank you so much for the reading and your kind words... and I too pray that my brothers will take heed!

      Bless you my friend

    • Laurinzo Scott profile imageAUTHOR

      Live To Write 

      5 years ago from Phoenix, Az.

      Thank you Dana for your very insightful words... I have been that stupid man myself; and it has only been age an experience that taught me to care for myself was normal and okay. I only pray that we can teach younger men to get such an understanding earlier on... and that they are not made of steel physically, or emotionally and it might help make a better society overall.

    • Laurinzo Scott profile imageAUTHOR

      Live To Write 

      5 years ago from Phoenix, Az.

      Thank you so much coming from a medical professional, such as yourself... that means a lot. Please trust me when I say that learning to care for myself has been a process.

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      5 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Laurinzo....the "babies," have stolen my heart. Too precious. I thank you, Sir, for your honest and forthright "explanation," why men shy away from the Dr. These are true facts you give us. And I HOPE that many men read your hub and take heed. UP++ and shared

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      Dana Strang 

      5 years ago from Ohio

      GREAT OF YOU TO WRITE THIS... You make an excellent point - men think they aren't tough if they seek medical care. When I worked at the cemetery I was always on the guys cases to take care of their health. I practically forced the superintendent to go get a questionable tick bite checked out. I told him to tell the doc that the office manager was making him go and explained to him that it is no little thing to end up wth lyme disease. He went, and he is ok. Stupid men!!!

      Good for you for taking care of your health and encouraging other men to do so.....I happen to think that a man that takes care of himself is incredibly sexy. If a man doesn't take care of himself, what does that say about his self worth, and for how he will care for others? Neglecting yourself is stupid, not macho.... Got that fellas? :)

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      5 years ago from Las Vegas

      Laurinzo, this is an excellent hub with a very necessary message! Men do take care of themselves better now, they have left the John Wayne "I'm fine" syndrome behind, but there is still more awareness and work to do! Great hub, you are an excellent writer! Well done!! Facebooked, pinned and shared!


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