How To Forgive Yourself And Work Toward Recovery
Do You Know How To Forgive Yourself?
Regardless of what everyone else says, forgiving is difficult and most people struggle with forgiveness. The idea that humanity should just "get over it" at the blink of an eye is not normal. It doesn't happen that way for most folks. You aren't wired to push a forgiveness button on and off when you wish. It takes practice and a willingness to see yourself as a mortal in the flesh of a human body with earthly senses.
What you feel inside with your God-given chemical makeup and emotions can define who you are, both negatively and undoubtedly. You hold human emotions and responses that you were born with.
How can you learn to release the pain and stop it from consuming your life and defining who you are?
How To Stop The Pain And Release It
Look deep within yourself and find the dark place where all those gray emotions hide. Sadness, regret and resentfulness will bloom into a black cloud of hate with a storm of depression unless you find the source and identify the feelings. Define your emotions; see them, feel them, be with your Creator.......
Emotions are God-given and meant to be experienced. Give them to Him whether you actually feel it inside or not. Say the forgiving words out loud. This will lead to healing.
Recovery doesn't always happen immediately. Each individual has their own built-in mechanism for wellness. There is no set time frame assigned for how long it takes a person to heal. We're all unique.
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Ten Questions to Ask Before Learning to Forgive Yourself
- What is sorrow? Mental suffering caused by loss or disappointment .
- What is guilt? The fact of being responsible for a wrongdoing.
- What is accountability? The fact of being responsible or answering for that wrongdoing.
- What is regret? A sense of loss or expression of grief; feeling of sorrow.
- What is sadness? Low spirits or dejection .
- What is longing? A strong desire of yearning for something; sensing a loss .
- What is disappointment? The failure to satisfy the hopes and expectations of something.
- What is care? To feel concern; to look after or provide; to feel love or a liking.
- What is yearning? To be deeply moved with tenderness.
- What is forgiveness? To give up resentment against; to give up the desire to punish; to pardon .
What Happens When You Combine the Elements of Forgiveness?
Peace. Happiness. Serenity. Sensitivity.
Liberation and Freedom!!!!
Touch it, feel it.......hold it close.
Mental Suffering Causes Self-Defeat
Mental suffering caused by loss or disappointment can lead to sadness. If you're responsible for a wrongdoing, you must realize you're accountable and responsible for the violation. When you regret an action, you may feel an expression of grief or sorrow.
If you aren't responsible for a misdeed, yet have been accused, allow yourself to oppose the allegation introspectively and deliver your opposition with dignity.
With a sense of yearning, you can become deeply moved with tenderness to give up your resentment and the desire to punish. To make amends, you may ask forgiveness and forgive yourself in the process.
This is healing. This is recovery.
Can You Forgive Yourself?
Remember: What you feel inside with your God-given chemical makeup and emotions can define who you are. You hold human emotions and responses that you were born with.
You have a choice to hold or release. Now it's time to begin again.
Take a deep breath.....feel it.....experience it.....and forgive.
Other suggested reading:
- Can't Fight The Feeling
Sometimes I just cant do it. You know, fight the feeling. I was sitting here processing the fact that I struggle incredulously with the task of fighting the feeling.
Lack of closure in a relationship or event is something that can linger forever. How do you get closure?
- Emotions Anonymous - a 12 step anonymous program
Emotions Anonymous is a twelve-step organization, similar to Alcoholics Anonymous. EA members are from many walks of life and are of diverse ages, economic status, social and educational backgrounds