Remembering the loss of a Dearest One - A Tribute to your Spouse with quotes on Death
How to write a tribute
If you have been in deep love with somebody whom you lost, then writing a tribute speech or the tribute article is quite easy a job.
- Start with the incident of how you developed the relationship due to some good or special qualities in that person.
- Narrate the incidents revealing those attributes, the actions, activities, and habits that project those good qualities.
- Reflect on all those moments of life spent with that person and highlight on some outstanding performances revealing the honesty, generosity, affection, love, valor, determination, will power, special skills like art, craft, music, dance, administration, management, bravery, etc.
- Then you can tell your ending words of tribute expressing thanks, blessings or wishes using your prose or poetry or tribute lyrics and also by quoting some bible quotes on death and union with God, seeking peace to the soul of that person.
Here is a link to some of the guidelines for writing a tribute speech or essay.
Accepting Fact and coping with Death of your Spouse
Actually, it is not a kind of remembering her. She is always and will always remain with me in my heart. No question of forgetting her. It is only enlightening and discussing some of the facts and events related to her life and thereby strengthen my memories of her and to make myself cope with the truth of her loss or absence.
It is more than 2 years (2 years 4 months to say exactly) since she left us, but it seems happened just recently. She was finding it difficult to breathe and fighting for life, even though it was only for two minutes, in my younger son's hands (he was 30 years old then) in that black midnight while I was running here and there to find some medicine and call for the ambulance. Only two minutes it took for her to leave us in utter darkness and to fly herself in search of light in the sky. We cannot weep, because we are men, I and both of my grown up sons. All were struck in shock and could not believe the fact that she left us. Our neighbor, a lady Doctor confirmed that she is no more and we could not trust her with a wish to see her breathe again. But, no, she determined herself to leave and so no return was to be there. And we had to accept the fact and make ourselves prepared for our future journey without her.
She was Abode of all Best Qualities in a woman
She was full of kindness and love to all of us and to her neighbors. She never let us feel discomfort or unhappy at any circumstance by attending to all our needs timely and beforehand. She has been a great support to me in all my bad times and confusions giving advice that are prudent and workable. She was the good wife since beginning throughout my life journey and she has been helpful to her neighbors also in their bad times. She used to offer food and other assistance to them and used to be always ready to help them in spite of inconvenience to her own self. They used to come at odd times also to seek her help in knitting, stitching or some other material help.
She has been very kind to birds and animals also. We used to keep parrots and myna birds for many years. She used to be very kind to those birds and always taking care of them. If any bird did not want to stay, she used to let her free immediately. She used to celebrate the birthdays also of those birds by celebrating on completion of each one year of their being with us. We used to enjoy much with those birds.
Love for birds and animals
A woman of great determination and patience
She has been very unlucky since her birth. She lost her father even when she was in her mother's womb. This made her mother develop hatred towards her. She totally neglected this child and she was brought up by her eldest sister. But she had to work there and assist the sister in her work, neglecting studies. Even then she completed her Intermediate with good marks and after marriage, she completed her degree also. All her siblings (total 10) disliked her and accused her as the cause of their father's death and tried to exploit and ill-treat her in one way or other. But she was bold enough to face the circumstances. Even after marriage, she had a difficult life due to financial problems and also due to the misbehavior of her siblings. But she was determined to face the circumstances and never lost hope or became tense. But mentally she had many disturbances. Even then, she faced everything boldly and got cured herself by visiting the psychiatrists and taking their advice for many years. But then physically she deteriorated facing so many problems including our elder son's mental problems. Even then, she faced everything so boldly and courageously that, until her last minute, she kept fighting and controlling all diseases like BP, Diabetes, etc. everything smilingly and then that fateful night came on 22/10/2012 ending her life on earth. I started blogging only after that date by posting a post on 27/10/12 describing how death takes away life stealthily without your notice.
Skills of arts and crafts
She has been a Woman of great talents
She has been a singer since her childhood. She used to narrate me the tales of her singing devotional songs along with her grandmother when she was of only 1 or 2 years old. Those were the only happy days when her grandmother was with her for 2 years. She continued this singing habit until her death. She had a very melodious voice and all people liked her songs throughout her childhood in schools to her prime age and even at old age among all neighbors. She imitated the voices of all four famous lady singers in India of that time in the Telugu language like P. Susheela, L.R.Eswari, etc. I loved her voice so much and enjoyed her singing throughout my life. At present, I have her recorded songs in a cassette which were recorded 6 months before her death. She used to sing all Hindi songs as well. But I am sorry that I could not promote her voice to bring her some fame. It was her bad luck to marry me.
She was very good at knitting and stitching and in home decoration. She used to knit the woolen sweaters for me, herself and our sons and other times to neighbors also. And she used to stitch designs on sarees also which were liked by all. She presented one saree to the Doctor who treated her for Schizophrenia and she was much appreciated for her talent at that time in 1996 by many people.
Woman of Fight against Corruption
She used to be very sensitive and honest. She never liked people who were dishonest and of malicious intentions. She used to be very straight forward and tell the blunt truth over the face if somebody was wrong or mischievous. She always stood against corruption and intentional mischief by anybody. She even did not tolerate anybody doing harm to our neighbors and tried to restore justice to them at all times (from others and from our administration in the colony where we lived). Most neighbors took help from her in such matters. But she got resistance from some of the people in such works who tried to threaten her. She faced them boldly because of her sensitivity to generosity and kindness to those in need. All, who got help from her, regarded her with great respect.
A touching tribute to deceased spouse through a song by Fred Stobaugh on You Tube
Some of the Bible quotes on Death
Bible Quotes about Death:
Jesus told "In my Father's house (Heaven) are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you? And, if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and take you to myself, that where I am you may be also."
So, there is no need to regret or be worried as the dead person is only going to live with Jesus and God.
2 Corinthians 5:6-8
"We are always of good courage. We know that while we are at home in the body we are away from the Lord, for we walk by faith, not by sight. Yes, we are of good courage, and we would rather be away from the body and at home with the Lord."
So, don't be afraid of death. Rather welcome it with love.
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My advice for surviving the death of a spouse
In the end, I would like to say that I am very proud to have been her husband and thank God for sending her into my life as my wife for all those 38 years since 1974 to 2012. May her soul be happy wherever it is.
- Remember or recite some of those quotes from Bible or from Bhagavad Gita on Death and afterlife of the soul.
- You should be thankful to God for having been with your spouse all through those years.
- Your unhappiness can make her/ his soul wander with worries. So you must control yourself.
- See and think of all those great moments of life that you enjoyed in her/ his company.
- Think of your children that were left with you and be a support to them.
- Try to complete all the unfulfilled tasks and wishes of your spouse.
- Do something that will keep the name and fame of your spouse intact.
- It will not be so difficult for you in coping with the death of your spouse when you think of all those sweet memories and the tasks ahead to be completed in your life.
So, be brave and endure the loss for achieving something that is still left out in the middle by your beloved spouse.
My thanks to a Hubber
I would like to express my thanks to Sunshine 625 (Linda Bilyeu) for giving me the inspiration in writing this hub. I got stimulated by her tribute to her Mother. On reading that hub, I thought why shouldn't I write about my reflections on my wife's death and how I am coping with the loss. And, the result is this tribute of mine to my wife.