- Mental Health
Retail Therapy-Shopaholic-Compulsive Shopper
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Retail therapy, oh how I love to shop! I have read the Shopaholic series by Sophie Kinsella. The principal character in the stories, Rebecca is funny and crazy and gets herself into all sorts of jams, just because of her wild shopping habits. She can never resist something that she thought was a bargain. Absurd but I devoured the books. I also saw the movie and downloaded some of the music from the movie.I get so excited when I find a bargain. Why last week I found a Ralph Lauren Polo shirt for ten dollars.
Did you know that one in twenty Americans cannot control their urge to shop. The definition for the word compulsion is as follows:
1) An urge to do or say something that might be better left undone or unsaid.
2) An irrational motive for performing trivial or repetitive actions, even against your will.
3) Using force to cause something to occur.
Here is the definition of shopaholic:
1) a compulsive shopper. example shopaholics can never resist a bargain.
Do I fit the bill? Maybe...but I can resist a bargain now and then. For some compulsive shopping is a psychiatric disease and it has led them into some very real personal and financial problems. I always feel so good when I am shopping. When I am through I can't wait to sort out my treasures when I get home. I can waste hours looking at, trying on, and sorting my goodies. I also read that nine in ten shopaholics are women. However women are tagged as shopaholics and men who are compulsive buyers are called "collectors".
My Husband will catch me on the Gap website and say "shopping, shopping, shopping, is that all you do?" I just smile and say yes. Think about this...you can shop twenty four hours a day either in the stores or online. Irresistible I know and I suppose I check out the bargains in my favorite online stores at least everyday. Plus I get emails from those stores advertising sales and discounts and I check email at least three times a day.
I got "The Big Fall Book" catalog from Eddie Bauer and this morning I perused it and I saw the most amazing pair of boots and I kept my finger on the page while I checked out the rest of the goods. Then I went back to the page and I looked at it for a long time thinking about what outfits I had that would go great with those boots. Then I thought about how I could get them cheaper than the $179 price tag. After that I just kept it open on my lap glancing at it every now and then. So as you can tell I am still thinking about those boots and I will probably think about them for a while. I have a weakness for shoes. I'll admit that I love shoes and I have more than I need. But in my defense I know a lot of women who also have a weakness for shoes. I just keep shoes and have had some pairs for at least 10 years or so. Like Rebecca in the Shopaholic stories I need a closet just for shoes but I wouldn't go as far as she, and have them set up like a museum with glass lighted cabinets.
Why does shopping give me such a wonderful feeling? Whereas my Husband just gets aggravated and hates shopping with a passion. I read that patients suffering from compulsive shopping have "a baseline preoccupation with shopping, they're always thinking about it, and a tensions builds and they have to satisfy that tension by going out and shopping. That relieves the tension, at least for the time being." This according to Black a German psychiatrist who published the first clinical description of the disorder in 1915. He also says "the typical shopaholic cycle is not unlike that of the compulsive gambler--or even the serial killer." ......Yikes!
I just think shopping is fun. I love to find bargains and I think in my case it is just the thrill of the hunt. I have two kids and a husband (who sometimes lets me shop for him) to buy clothing and accessories for and it gives me pleasure to be able to do that for half price or less. Triumphant over not paying the "suggested retail price".