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Good food, family, and friends

Updated on July 20, 2016

Not all days are grand

I am not going to say that every day has been great and amazing. Unfortunately life didn't stop handing me day to day stress because I am trying to manage being sober. Maybe this would have happened if I would have admitted myself to one of those fancy rehab places where you don't have to worry about going to work because you are covered under medical leave. You know one of those nice places that serves good healthy food and all over the walls are beautiful reminders of how you can overcome your addiction. Blah blah blah I am jealous as I can't afford one of those places financially and who would clean my home and cook for my husband. Just last night he told me he didn't know how to use the kitchen! That was pretty funny and it was a reality check of how spoiled he is.

Still in love with cooking

I have been determined to still find joy in life. I have a back freezer that needed defrosted and inside of it was a big turkey and I thought....Why do people only eat turkey once or twice a year? I am going to cook this turkey with all the fixings. Then I kinda felt sad because when I do cook turkey I have close family and friends to share it with. So, maybe I won't cook the turkey. I am not sure if I am ready to have over that many family and friends and still be able to avoid drinking. I went to put the turkey in the fridge and realized I didn't have room for it. Okay looks like I am defrosting this bad boy and having family and friends over to eat it. How am I going to avoid drinking? I don't know but I refuse to cook a beautiful turkey without having them eat with us. I send some texts and make some calls and just like that I have 13 people coming over to have turkey. A tradition I have always had is to cook turkey while drinking a bottle of wine and scooting around to the Isley Brothers. This time I settled on soda and sang along with the top 40 Christian hits. Amazingly I loved it. Come to find out I still love cooking large meals for the people I love, EVEN without alcohol. Score 1 for me and 0 for my addiction.

Just when we think we are alone in this

When my company started to arrive a friend I have had for many many years showed up and she said I am 79 days sober. I am so proud of her and having her there made it much easier not to drink. If she can be such an amazing support to me then I would love to do the same in return. By the way I also found out that she is still just as funny and awesome sober as she was before. Actually more! Wow what hope this gives me, I can do this too. Score 2 for me and 0 for alcohol.

Maybe we aren't always right

My best friend of 24 years was there too and she has always been my rock no matter what I decide to do. She is the one that always says "you don't have to drink alcohol to have fun". I used to disagree with her on that tremendously and figured she didn't know what she was talking about as she has never had an issue with addiction. Guess what she was right. I love that lady. Score 3 for me and 0 for booze.

True friends are priceless

When more people started showing up I was busy in the kitchen and noticed one of our friends brought potato salad, pie, and a half gallon of rum. Yum! I let them know that I wouldn't be drinking. and when they asked why, I simply said I am quitting. They were completely supportive and put it in the cabinet. Out of sight out of mind. They didn't speak to me any different or treat me like I wasn't fun. Strike one addiction.

It's a learning process. Have fun with it.

I had a great time and they even walked me through how to make turkey gravy from scratch. So the idea is that you have to get your rue right. Some of the drippings and add some flour to thicken it up. I go in the cupboard and I am thankful now that the food bank sent home 3 unmarked plastic bags of flour. I get it thick and taste it. Wow that it really sweet. Maybe it was the carrots that I put in turkey? Nope I used an unmarked bag of coffee creamer to make a rue! That was hilarious and thankfully one of our friends stepped in and made it correctly with flour. Had he not done that, everyone may have had to deal with coffee creamer gravy. Friends are great. I managed to make a really weird mistake and didn't even have to get drunk to do it. Strike 2 addiction.

Good food, family and friends.

Needless to say the food was amazing. Good food, family, and friends.We prayed together, laughed together, went on a walk, ate together, and enjoyed the evening. I would have to say that was a step in the right direction for me to see that I make excellent turkey....oh yea and still LOVE life. Strike 3 and you are out of here!

Where ever you are in your recovery, please don't give up. It gets better and you will find fun again. May the Lord answer your prayers and God Bless!

Did you know?

  • That studies have shown that talking with your mom lowers stress. (Go ahead pick up the phone and grab a cup of tea. Enjoy your venting session.)
  • That the average American eats 1 out of 5 meals in their car.(I would venture to say a lot of that would be fast food.)
  • Studies show when families dine together they tend to eat more vegetables. (This is not an excuse to torture your child with broccoli.)
  • Around the dinner table you and your kids will talk more. (life is busy put the electronics down and look at each other.)
  • One of the top 5 regrets of people dying is that they didn't spend enough time with their loved ones. (We are not promised tomorrow or a long life.)

Host a meal at your home often and try not to blow off your friends and family. Chances are they need you too.

Enjoying eachother

You are not hurting for money. Your boss asks you to stay late tonight but you made plans with close friends. Do you cancel with your friends or do you explain to your boss you already have plans?

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      Denise W Anderson 21 months ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      That is a tough one! We want to please our boss, and to get the work done, but just like you are having to make new choices to avoid falling back into addiction, people pleasing is also an addiction, one that I have fought with for a long time! Now, I am learning that being vocal about my feelings rather than worrying about pleasing others is a better way to live. It is a difficult road, but everyone is happier in the long run, especially me!