Seeing the world as a child
As we grow up, we forget about the moment
A few weeks ago, as I was laying in the grass, looking at the clouds with my children, I realized that our best mentors and teachers are children. The way that a simple thing makes them scream with excitement, how a cloud can create never ending giggles, how everything around them is magical, and they live at that exact moment, without planning, without thinking of what needs to be done.
Somewhere along the lines, we lose that magic, the magic of simple things. We become planners, we become our mind's puppets. We find ourselves working for that bigger house, that better car, that better tittle. We forget about creating memories, because somehow we believe that after we accomplish all of our goals, then we can create memories. But what happens to all of those lost moments, those memories that we can be creating, instead of planning them in our heads.
Control your mind, it doesn't control you
I gave myself a goal, to stop planning, to stop thinking about what needs to be done, to stop stressing myself with thoughts, and I told myself, I will live in the moment, and I will literally stop and smell the roses. And I did, but it was probably the hardest thing I had to change.
I realized, I didn't know how to relax. Even while meditating, I would catch myself thinking about work, house chores, everything, even on how annoying my neighbors can get, yes, like I said I would think everything. I realized that these thoughts, and only thoughts would stress me out. I would feel my heart start beating faster, and literally changing my mood. I then realized, that the only person to be able to ruin our day is ourselves, or better said, our minds.
We all deserve Peace of Mind
Slowly, I started controlling my thoughts, pushing the unnecessary stresses out and just focusing on the now. It was an amazing feeling, on how aware I became of my own thoughts, at the same time, how easy it became to just focus on that moment. I threw away all routines, and just stayed at the moment. If my kids wanted to do something we would, instead of having to say, oh mommy has to clean, or mommy has to finish an article. I realized the freedom of it, and how everything started coming together, and even though there wasn't a routine in hand, it seems a more relaxed environment, and for once, I didn't have the need to control everything, or letting the time control what was to happen next.
You may think, no routine and 2 young children? yes, and I know it sounds terrifying, trust me I questioned my sanity when I started this, but just because you don't have routine, doesn't mean you don't have common sense. Nap time was still there, just not at that specific time, cleaning and work happened, but not when it needed, but when I wanted. I realized we are wired in our brains to take so many tasks at once, and we prize ourselves with the thought of "Look at all the things I did today". But we deserve more. We deserve to stop, and enjoy life, enjoy our accomplishements, and just live, without worry, even if its just for a moment.
I carried this attitude for a couple of weeks, and it seriously changed the way I lived, it reduced my stress, it made me sleep better, and of course it made me smile more, and slow down. We always want to be super humans, super moms, super dads, but we are already super, because we are here.
Next time you find yourself stressed, listen to your thoughts, and change them. Focus on the moment, go outside, look at the sky, look at your surroundings, and just enjoy the moment. Life is too short to plan it all, after all the beauty of life is the unknown. Regain your childhood magic, and watch how your life changes into amazing!