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Should Age Define Us?

Updated on March 31, 2011

Growing up is part of life, but seeing yourself through the eyes of others is never an easy feat. You may notice people treating you differently as you age, and that's to be expected. However, the problem is that some people only treat you based on their preconceived notions of your age demographic at any given time.

In a library case study, a teenage student did not know why a librarian he'd known since childhood was suddenly treating him like they had never met before. This boy was a well-behaved, well-adjusted high school student supposedly on good terms with this woman, and she just glared at him like he was no different than someone who would cause trouble. It turned out well in the end - the librarian had just been having a rough day or didn't recognize him at first among the troublemakers his age who'd been by earlier - but it makes you think. Even people who know you on even a casual basis can judge you based on your age (actual or perceived since some people look younger or older than they really are).

We all reach stages in our lives where we have to change part of who we are, but that does not mean we have to change everything about ourselves. Despite the societal and individual expectations impressed upon us (some necessary and others arbitrary), we should be able to figure out what we value about ourselves most and remain true to those core values and beliefs even as we grow older. People will still judge you based on appearance, age, or even character traits they don't happen to like, among other things, but when that happens you can step back and assess the situation within reason. We all have room to grow, but it can't be forced. Neither hearts nor minds can be changed overnight. Perception is reality, and while that may often be unfair, you can always try to make your true self shine through.


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    • RTalloni profile image

      RTalloni 6 years ago from the short journey

      Age-segregation is one of my old rants.

      5-year-olds spend their days with other 5-year-olds resulting in 5-year-olds learning to act like 5-year-olds. Same with 10-year-olds, and 15-year-olds.

      The goal is for children to "grow up" but the age stereotyping that people of all ages deal with today is a consequence of age segregation that most people don't see as a problem.

      To take the issue on down the line, the way the elderly are segregated and treated in our country comes from the same cause and effect.

      Age segregation is an awful picture of the vicious circle of selfishness that our society is caught up in.

      It's an issue that we should be rethinking. Glad you brought it up.

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      Sarah Anderson 6 years ago from Wallingford, CT

      Thanks. I was more focused on the way most people care about kids, but when those kids grow up they're no longer cared about. We can either be treated like our age group or as individuals.

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      Tricia Mason 6 years ago from The English Midlands

      Yes, sadly, people often do tend to judge by age ~ and gender.

      A very thought-provoking hub :)

    • telltale profile image

      telltale 6 years ago

      Well, age should not define us, but people define people due to age. I noticed that, and have written a hub about it. Changes in one's life are totally inevitable, but the perception by authorities and people in general should not change drastically, as what normally happens to an older person. Good to know you have written a hub about this. Thanks!