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Showing Emotions: You Are Allowed To Cry When You Need To

Updated on October 26, 2012

Crying Is a Positive Step in Healing

Showing emotion is a positive step toward dealing with your inner pain.
Showing emotion is a positive step toward dealing with your inner pain. | Source

Showing Emotions

You may find yourself trying not to cry in certain situations. You may use your willpower to stop those tears from falling down your cheeks and think that showing this emotion is a sign of weakness. Think again.

Showing an emotion such as sadness by crying is a positive step toward dealing with your inner pain and discomfort. Crying is also positive for many other reasons that relate to your physical and mental state of health.

Crying Is an Emotional Release

When you cry, you allow your body to release the emotion of sadness. You do not bottle the emotion inside. You do not avoid the sadness you feel. You recognize that you feel sad and you confront those emotions.

Crying actually relieves stress. When you cry you release the stress hormones that are building inside of you. Have you ever felt relief and a calmer sense of self after a good cry? You have helped deal with the stress by crying.

You Alert People around You

When you show your emotions, you alert people around you of your distress.
When you show your emotions, you alert people around you of your distress. | Source

You Show Other People How You Feel

When you cry, you also show people around you that you are in distress. Perhaps you are stressed at work and are crying at your desk. Perhaps you cry at the hospital as you sit by your sick father. There are many sad events that can explain your tears.

When you cry, people around you see that you are feeling sad. They are then able to react to your emotion by offering you a hug or words of comfort. They may help you find a solution to the problem or instead they can be an outlet to talk to about your thoughts and feelings.

If you keep the emotions inside you and do not show them, people around you are not able to help you as they are unaware of your emotions. Remember the classic saying that people cannot read your mind.

You Are Not Alone

You are also allowed to cry because you are not the only one that does so. Everybody cries at some point in their lives. Embrace this point and use it to your benefit. You are allowed to show your emotion by crying because it is a human emotion. Everyone expresses sadness in some way and crying is a common form of expression.

Do not be embarrassed about crying around other people as they have also done so at some point in their lives. Embrace the emotion.

Everybody Hurts, By REM

Take Care of Yourself

When you cry because you are sad, you are actually taking care of yourself. You are acknowledging the situation around you and expressing the way you feel. You are being honest with your feelings. Do not bottle the emotions inside. Remember that everyone cries and that it is a great stress reliever. When you cry, you actually do take care of yourself and work toward healing your mind, body and spirit.

When Was The Last Time You Cried?

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    • ChristyWrites profile imageAUTHOR

      Christy Birmingham 

      6 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Oh Melanie, I am so sorry for your hurt. Perhaps you are in shock and that is why the tears do not come yet. Please reach out to someone around you, a family member or a friend. Know that you are loved and any emotion you show is your way of getting over the hurt. I wish I knew you to be able to give you a hug. Sending prayers.

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      6 years ago

      hi christy my dad has just died but i cant let the tears come love melanie please help

    • ChristyWrites profile imageAUTHOR

      Christy Birmingham 

      6 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Yes @dwachira, crying can be an emotional release an important part of the healing process. Take care of yourself and thank-you very much for taking the time at my hubs.

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      [ Danson Wachira ] 

      6 years ago from Nairobi, Kenya

      I don't remember myself crying, may be when i was young but i do understand that crying is an emotional thing and sometimes it is very hard to control it. Psychologists suggest that crying is a therapy, i agree because i have seen people getting better when they cry after a distress. This is a great articles, voted up and shared.

    • ChristyWrites profile imageAUTHOR

      Christy Birmingham 

      6 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      @Bill, no I did not think that but I did think that you were busy. I'm not sure why my notifications do not post for you; do you get the daily notification email from HP? I should be in that. Nice to see you :)

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      Bill Holland 

      6 years ago from Olympia, WA

      You must think I'm completely ignoring you...I had no idea all of these hubs were here. How come I'm not getting notifications? Sigh! I have a lot of reading to do. Great hub my young friend and again, I'm sorry.

    • ChristyWrites profile imageAUTHOR

      Christy Birmingham 

      6 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      @Keith, thank-you for your thoughtful comment. You present a great point that culture does affect the situations when we feel we are able to cry in public. Crying should, in my opinion, be seen as a moment of being true to oneself rather than a sign of weakness. You take care, my friend.

      @Emily, Oh dear, that "special" time! I'm glad you liked the video, the song is so well done isn't it. Take care.

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      6 years ago

      Bottling up emotions is such a risk to your heart, your mental health, and even physical health. One of the reasons why some people do not cry is because of cultural standards; especially in America. In America, if a man cries, they are very weak and not worth someone's time. It's sad to say, but it's a true cultural aspect among people. Only in few occasions can a man "cry" in front of people and that's when a loved one dies or the like. I do not know how it is for other cultures; however, I think it is something that should be changed for the sake of our health and well being :) Thank you for sharing great information, Christy!


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      6 years ago

      Great video for this hub, Christy! Great accompaniment to your hub. I tend to agree with the comment above... as we age I think tears fall less and more tears of course are shed during that special time of the month for no reason at all, too :) Great hub!

    • ChristyWrites profile imageAUTHOR

      Christy Birmingham 

      6 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      @Jools99, yes in fact as I wrote this hub I started to think about how we cry when we both laugh and are sad. How interesting. Thanks for your great comment Jools.

      @Posh, I recently cried when I watched a TV show as well. I am glad you are in tune with your emotions. Thanks for the comment.

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      Jools Hogg 

      6 years ago from North-East UK

      Christy, great article. I like a good whinge every once in a while. As Joni Mitchell sang 'Laughing and crying, you know, it's the same release.'

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      Steve Mitchell 

      6 years ago from Cambridgeshire

      Christy great article,

      I am a real softie, I cry when watching the talent shows lioke Brutain's Got Talent and X Factor, especially if there are young kids on there who get upset.

      vote up/beautiful

    • ChristyWrites profile imageAUTHOR

      Christy Birmingham 

      6 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      @Rolly, thank-you for the kind comment. I am glad my words are so well-received. Take care.

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      Rolly A Chabot 

      6 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Christy... well written and well received... crying is a part of who we are. It is a healthy emotion. You have written a wonderful piece here and I do hope many read it...

      Hugs from Alberta....

    • ChristyWrites profile imageAUTHOR

      Christy Birmingham 

      6 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      @articlesocean, I also have learned much about emotion and dealing with hardship considering my age. Thank-you for sharing your views here. I appreciate the vote too.

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      Saira Sheikh 

      6 years ago from London, United Kingdom

      Being emotional isn't so bad as people think, I cry so that i can take out all the anger and stress. I use to cry really easily (Still do when I remember my grand dad) but life teaches you when to cry and when to be strong, and not show your feeling. I'm not that old but life has taught me a lot ! Great hub ! Voted up !

    • ChristyWrites profile imageAUTHOR

      Christy Birmingham 

      6 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      @Katrina, hello my friend! I do agree with you that we feel relief mentally when we cry. Thank-you for sharing your insight here and the comment too.

      @Teaches, Absolutely. Trying to avoid emotions does draw out the healing process. Thanks for a great comment, I enjoy receiving them!

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      6 years ago

      I think crying is healthy not only for our physical health but also for our psychological and emotional health. Crying is good for both the genders. Great hub!

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      Dianna Mendez 

      6 years ago

      Your hub is a refreshing support to us who need to know it's ok to show emotion. I sometimes cry when I watch those special movies, but crying to relieve stress is really helpful. I know people who lose a loved one and never grieve. If they would only let their emotions go they would recover much quicker. Voted up!

    • ChristyWrites profile imageAUTHOR

      Christy Birmingham 

      6 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      @Marc, I do like that expression about laughter. Sometimes I even cry with laughter. Cleansing the soul indeed. Thanks buddy.

      @Vinaya, I have wondered the same point about crying in public. Thanks for understanding the point in my hub about being true to one's emotions. Your comment is such a good one.

      @Sunshine, Thank-you for sharing my hub and providing your great comment. I am so glad we have met through HubPages.

      @Rebecca, That is a good point too! Stress on the body does occur if you do not release your emotions.

      @Rajan, I do not think crying makes a man less manly. I think that being true to one's own emotions by expressing them is a good, healthy reaction. Thank-you for taking time to read my hub Rajan.

      @jellygator, If your crying turns to laughter than you are smiling at the end of the day! Thanks for stopping by to comment. I hope that you laugh today.

    • ChristyWrites profile imageAUTHOR

      Christy Birmingham 

      6 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      @Jackie, yes this can happen as far I know. There are many reasons and I'm sure each person's reasons are different. Thanks Jackie for stopping by!

      @Shea, nice to connect with you. I do think that crying is a way to confront our feelings and thoughts, working toward healing ourselves. I send prayers to your family.

      @Jane, Thanks for stopping by to comment! You are a strong woman and I do believe that Bertha has you laughing rather than crying...

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      Marc Babineau 

      6 years ago from Cornwall, Ontario, The Seaway City

      They say that laughter is the best medicine, but sometimes a good old crying fit can do wonders to cleanse the soul! Great hub, Christy!

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      6 years ago from Nepal

      Though many people feel easy to express laughter publicly, not all are comfortable with crying when people are around them. Maybe they consider crying as a sign of weakness.

      However, health wise crying is as good as laughing.

      You have wonderfully emphasized the need to show our true emotions.

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      6 years ago from Orlando, FL

      I don't remember the last time I cried. I'm still the past month is my best answer. Male or female crying is not something to be ashamed of. Cry away!:)

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      Rebecca Mealey 

      6 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

      Good points! It is either cry or get a tummy ache for me. I think it may even ease physical pain a little to cry!

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 

      6 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Christy, crying indeed releases stress which if bottled up can lead to major health issues.

      Even men cry does that make them any less manly?

      Useful hub. Voted up, useful and shared.

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      6 years ago from USA

      I cry all the time over the silliest of things! A good rendition of the Star Spangled Banner will do it, for instance. But what the heck, it makes us all laugh.

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      Jackie Lynnley 

      6 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Like Jane I think all my tears are spilt. Is it possible?

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      shea duane 

      6 years ago from new jersey

      I cry almost every day (but I'm nuts). I lost my parents 38 years ago and I still cry most of the time when I think of them. My nephew died 2 months ago and I cry for his mother when I pray at night. I agree with you, it is a way of releaving stress.

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      Jane Carroll 

      6 years ago

      Interesting Hub, Christy. I find that I rarely ever cry anymore...maybe it's an age thing. I used to cry easily but now...I may get tearful but...they just don't fall...not sure what that's all about...


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