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Signs Of Emotional Abuse In Adults
Finding signs of emotional abuse in adults can be tricky, especially if they hide it well. There are a few signs that you can pick up automatically and finding them can be easy to spot. But what do you do when your good friend is not talking to you about current abuse they are going through or maybe a situation where they are being abused by a boyfriend, mother, or even their own father?
Emotional abuse signs
Let’s look into a few emotional abuse signs to find out what you are looking for. Check out the list below.
1. Humiliation, judging, and criticizing
Being made fun of is definitely emotional abuse, even if it is your older sister that is doing it to you or another family member. Being sarcastic or teasing you in front of other people is just a way of trying to degrade you. This can definitely cause emotional distress. Whenever you call them out, they may say that you are too sensitive. This is another way to humiliate you and you shouldn’t put up with it.
2. Domination, control, and shame
Having a boyfriend who controls you is a red flag and you should get out right away. If you need his permission to go out somewhere or even visit family members, it’s time you rethink the relationship. If you happen to live with him and he always makes you feel as if you are wrong even though you are right, this is called manipulation.
3. Dismissive, Condescending and Rude
If you are around someone who belittles all of your accomplishments that you’ve made, you should take a step back. They may even try to remind you of things that you have not done in life. For example, you landed a great job that pays very well but since they are jealous of you, they act very rude whenever you talk about your job.
4. Unreasonable demands and No apologies
Someone who can’t apologize to you is someone who doesn’t really care for you. They might ask you to do things that are out of your way. Whenever you do them, they still treat you horribly. Don’t subject yourself to this sort of treatment and try to remove yourself from the persons life.
The Emotional Abuse Poll
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Symptoms of psychological abuse
There are many symptoms of psychological abuse that can last for many years. Some of these include:
A lowered self esteem. Not believing in yourself is one of these symptoms.
Withdrawal from other people around you. This could be friends, family or even a boyfriend/girlfriend.
Trouble establishing relationships. Now, you are so guarded that you want to stay away from individuals, in fear that they will hurt you again.
Fights or verbal arguments with family. The person abusing you may be effecting your family life, especially if they want that person to leave you alone.
The inability to let go of the past. We often forgive but we never forget, especially for those of us who have “mental” scars lurking.
Signs of emotional abuse in adults - Exploring emotional manipulation
Most emotional manipulation is usually from a spouse, boyfriend, or sibling. In one case, you could be a fourteen year old boy who gravels at your brothers feet and does whatever he says. The reason behind this is because everytime he wants you to do something and you don’t want to, he say’s that he will tell your parents about the time you stole $10 from your mother’s purse. Actually, you were only 9 when you did this and he still puts this over you. This is definitely considered manipulation. You should tell your parents what you did and this way he doesn’t have you “trapped” where he wants you.
The most common case of manipulation is within spousal abuse. Your wife might be threatening to leave with another man if you don’t do as she says. She wants you to stop going to football games, going out with the guys, and also asking for money. Basically, if you don’t give her anything she wants - she say’s the word “divorce” right away. This is also emotional manipulation.
What you should know about emotional neglect
Neglecting someone’s emotions is just as bad as ignoring them or giving them the silent treatment. It can really cause a person to feel unloved. This is one of the top signs of emotional abuse in adults. Acknowledging someone in a positive manner and treating them the way you want to be treated is very important. Those who have experienced emotional neglect are 20% more likely to commit suicide.