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Simple Tips to Being Emotionally Strong and Enjoy Better Life
The Need for Emotional Well Being
Have you heard yourself saying:
- I am in a mess.
- Life is not fair.
- I am emotionally drained
- I am stuck and not going anywhere.
- I often worry about my future.
- I am ashamed of my past.
- It is not possible to enjoy a smooth relationship.
- Nobody likes me and I trust no one.
Then these are symptoms signifying the need for an emotional balancing. Read on please.
What is the role of emotions in our system?
Emotions are inseparable part of human persona throughout his or her life. It is the emotions which distinguish a human from a robot (even if the science were to make a perfect copy of a human being).
Also it is the choice of the emotions in response to a situation which separates one human from another. Once again, it is impossible not to have any kind of emotions in response to an external stimulus. It is another matter that how much of it you wish to control and when and how do you let it be external.
Energy of Emotions
It is believed that emotions have the energy – both positive and negative. The yogis, parapsychologists, clairvoyants and healers often refer to the “emotional aura” around the human body. Aura is described as an energy field “that surrounds, penetrates and extends out beyond the physical body, and is made up of varying types of vibrations or frequencies.” According to them, the color of the aura changes according to the emotional state of the human being.
Without going too deep into these theories, it is logically acceptable and has been experienced by everyone that there is a deep yet subtle mind-body-energy-thoughts-energy-mood connection in our system.
Effects of Positive Emotions and Negative Emotions on our lives
During the exams, many students fall prey to “Examination Fever”. Once the exams are over, the student is absolutely normal. If asked to make a presentation or make a speech, those not used to it, may display symptoms which are linked to “stage fright”.
Taking it further, the phobic shall also display heightened state of anxiety or uneasiness such as a claustrophobic in a crowded elevator or a hydrophobic near a swimming pool – although there is a little or no danger to the individual in particular.
Similarly, there are positive emotions too. During a festival – say Christmas or Diwali or Id, there is remarkable positive change all around. There is happiness, celebrations in the air. On getting the admission to a cherished institute or getting the coveted job, the entire family is charged with lots of positive energy.
At one point or the other, we all have experienced it in our lives.
Need for maintaining an Emotional Balance
If you have read this hub thus far, it is easy to deduce that for a healthy self (physical, mental and spiritual) it is always better to choose positive emotions and try to limit the effects of negative emotions on our lives. Not only the individual himself, but even the people around him – family members, colleagues, neighbors, students etc. are all affected accordingly – if not in the same proportions.
If you feel good about yourself:
- You can perform better, you can face challenges and difficulties with comparatively fewer efforts and in more effective manner.
- The quality of your relationships is always better compared to a person who is not able to cope with difficult situations effectively.
- You will feel more energetic and can achieve more in less time.
- Thus overall you have better sense of physical and psychological well being.
How to control Negative Emotions and Increase the power of Positive Emotions
Here are a few practical and easy tips for you.
1. Exercise and Stay Fit
“A strong mind in a healthy body”, we all know it. May be there are maxims in each language and culture to emphasize this. So what are you waiting for? Take out your running shoes or your gym gear and start from today onward. As per your age and state of your health, start a daily routine. Exercise will not only keep the health problems at a bay but will also uplift your mood.
But this is not all. You should also carefully choose what you eat. So eat a balanced and nutritious food. Eat at right time. Get enough sleep too. This will create a balance between work and rest.
2. Get some Sunlight Everyday
Try to do some Google search on internet about the benefits of sunlight and I am sure that like me you will be amazed too.
In addition to the scientific studies available, it is common knowledge that sunlight can help bring a person out of light depression.
The readers of this hub who live in colder regions will appreciate it more than those who live in the hot areas (where there is plenty of Sun).
Besides, the right amount of exposure to Sunlight has enormous health and healing benefits.
3. Let go of the intoxicants
It is a known fact that alcohol, tobacco etc. play havoc with our body. Playing with our brain, muscles, immunity and reproductive system their excessive use can even cause the birth defects in infants. If it is not possible to avoid it altogether, at least try to limit the intake of nicotine or alcohol.
Besides, these things don’t come cheap. A dollar saved is a dollar earned!
Become Emotionally Strong
4. Enjoy life
If you don’t have a purpose or have not worked out the meaning of your life in this birth then sit down and do it now. Without a purpose, you will go nowhere and anywhere. Once you know your mission in life then pursue it relentlessly. Add a dash of zest for living.
A sense of meaning and purpose will provide energy to your activities and make the relationships livelier.
5. Accept Life and the changes in life
The openness to learn new things makes you more agile and flexible. This in turn gives you an ability to accept and adapt to change. Don’t forget – “Life is ever changing”.
To help you understand and cope better with Life, you can take the help of your Parents, Brother, Sister ( as they are more experienced and can relate with your life and circumstances).
Also you can take the help of a wise friend whom you trust or an Executive Coach or an Astrologer cum Counselor.
Try these simple steps and you shall discover and new you!!
Some useful hubs on the similar subject
Some more tips to become emotionally stronger
- Have a high self-esteem.
- Leave no scope for ‘Self Pity’
- Don’t volunteer to be a sacrificial goat.
- Understand, assess and correct you vulnerability in the relationships.
- Continuously add to your knowledge
- Make good friends
- Have a hobby
- Be contended with what you have now and have time to enjoy it too.
- Develop better Self-confidence
- Release the baggage of past.
- Take help of an expert – if need be.
by Sundeep Kataria