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Small things that hurt your feelings.
‘Nobody can hurt me without my permission.’-Mahatma Gandhi
There are times when even a small thing cause you pain and you feel depressed. It is surprising that it is the small and innocuous things that play havoc with your emotions. Thinking back it might seem silly, but at the time of happening it makes your life miserable.
Why do you allow yourself to be hurt? You love someone and when that person deliberately insults you, the hurt goes deep down you. You are hurt in all phases of your life and feel emotionally drained.
Hurt feelings in married life
Married life makes you depressed with hurt almost daily. It is very sad that you and your spouse do not make efforts to be happy, but find it easy to hurt each other with biting words and insulting reactions. When you buy surprise gifts for your spouse and she\he just glances at it and looks away, you feel incredible hurt.
When you are sick, you yearn for attention, but when your spouse takes it casually, you are very upset. You want the appreciation of your spouse more than anything else, don’t you? But appreciation is never forthcoming. Your husband does not appreciate your good looks but feels it easy to flatter his female colleagues and this hurts you.
Your wife always nags you and finds fault in all your doings and you are resentful that you are being over looked in the family. You feel a pang in the heart when your wife does not respect your family, but goes out of the way to be good to her family.
Your spouse does not apologize for the harsh words spoken and meanders about as if nothing happened and you seethe inside in deep hurt. When your spouse compares you with her\his colleague and passes hurting remarks that you lag behind them in performance and intelligence, you are completely upset.
Hurt feelings in work place
When your hard work is met with harsh criticism from your boss, you feel terribly upset. The transportation is delayed and you are late for work and your higher officials yell at you in the presence of your colleagues and you cringe inside in shame.
When you are off color your work suffers and you know it is not your lack of dedication for the poor show of work on that day. But the management thinks otherwise and you are told of your insufficiency without mincing of words and you are hurt at their selfish attitude.
You know that you make worthy contribution to your company, but when your worth is overlooked and the promotion goes to your less deserving colleague you are terribly disturbed.
Hurt feelings of children
Your parents think that earning money is the most important thing and do not spend quality time with you. You do not know how to convey to them that you need their love more than anything else. Your parents think that you are incapable of doing even ordinary things with perfection and treat you like a child without efficiency which upsets you very much. When you are not given freedom, you feel intolerably offended.
Hurt feelings of parents
You feel hurt when your children do not consult you regarding any major decisions they take. They spend too much of time with friends but find it boring to say a few words to you. They spend lavishly on gadgets, on his\her spouse, but do not give you a penny for your needs.
‘’The worst wounds, the deadliest of them, aren't the ones people see on the outside. They're the ones that make us bleed internally.” –Sherrilyn Kenyon
These are some of the small things that can hurt you really bad. There is nothing wrong if you feel momentary hurt as it will pass away without leaving a scar. But if these small things persist in hurting you, you might become mentally weak and shaken.
© 2011 mathira