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So Do You Really Want Love All The Time?
A flash flood. An hour before this was a dry canyon bed. A day later we hiked right through the canyon with no river left. The only thing certain is change. Yes
Of course we really want love, right? Well buckaroos not so fast. If what you think of when we say “really” is that when you think about it, of course you want love, then you are probably right on. If what you think about when you say you really want love is how you act, you probably are off the mark a bit. Golly gee I sure like being loved – nope I surely love being loved and loving. Then why do I act the way I do? Let us take a look at how we treat love.
Most assuredly I can say to you that most people wake up in the morning and begin to think about what they “have” to do that day. When we think of it that way, isn’t it kind of sad. A whole life spent doing what we have to do. We might even anticipate doing something we love to do on the weekend. We may get to do what we love every day for a bit. But what would you give to get up every morning and begin to think about what you would “love” to do that day and then start doing it? We are talking about every day.
How would you like to love the one you are with no matter who you are with? How about loving distractions and disappointment? Hey here is a good one: how would you like to love it when your spouse is just plain nagging and bitching at you? And of course here is the zinger; how about loving it when you are “suffering” an illness? Here are some good ones to find love in. When your car breaks down. Politicians and lawyers. Drunken bums slobbering all over you. Internet access interruption. A blackout. A bankruptcy.
The amount of light on a subject changes our whole perspective.
Seeking shelter against the wind. Perhaps we would do better to embrace the wind.
I choose to love -- sometimes!
At this point the discerning reader is questioning whether or not they want to love some of the above. The writer sure is. Somehow in our human existence we started viewing love as something we choose. It is not at all strange to hear someone say: “I don’t like”. We even hear the occasional “I hate you”. We see people stuck in their preconceived notions constantly. That is why we have politically correctly banned the word prejudice, even though the word is neutral. Yes indeed in this day and age we just accept the concept of not loving something as normal. Probably it has always been that way. I do not even think anyone would be shocked to hear someone say “I choose not to love you anymore”. How many spouses have divorced based upon the notion of; “I just do not love you anymore”?
What is submitted here is a simple concept. This idea of not loving everything and everyone is normal and normally nonsensical. Can we all agree that love comes from within us? So why does the external control what we love? A color or temperature or smell makes me not love? Wait just a blasted minute here. The texture of that sweater does not determine if I am “in” love or not! I refuse to be bounced around like a pinball like that. How does this sound to you? That guy just criticized my writing, therefor I am going to move out of love and into hating him. Which brings us right back to the issue. Do we really want to love?
I know a gal who shall remain nameless as I live in fear of recrimination, and she really believes that if you are smiling and happy you are not serious. And if you are not serious you are not being productive. She really believes that seriousness equals working hard. A frown on a worker, to her is a good sign. Well that is one hell of a note.
Well sometimes love hurts. Sometimes it feels good just to declare the bum no good.
No magic wand.
Wouldn’t it be awesome if at this point in this article there was a trick revealed where we could love all the time. Sorry that will not work and it is not the point here. Loving everything and everyone all of the time is not an answer. For one, it is completely impossible and for two it would not work. We need our lack of love in order to appreciate our love. But look at how well that works out. In our imperfections we create a needed element of life. If victory were assured there would be no need strive to do better. And if we have nothing to strive for we lose our purpose. Imagine a world where no one needed our love, what would become of a mother and child?
So when we are “out of love” that means that someone can give us theirs. And so be it, that when someone is “out of love” we can give them ours. Now that most glorious of truths of our human reality cannot die because we are not all in love all the time. So that when I am an empty vessel I shall seek being full and when I am a full vessel I shall seek where to pour out some of my love. Once again showing us that the beauty of life is not in the destination but in the path we take and how we approach it. Oh boy, today when I am out of love I am going to find someone to give me some, I can hardly wait to run out.
We know you have to go out and make a living today. We wish you well and hope for your success. It would be our hope that after reading this that just a little second of your day will be focused on love. Someone will really appreciate it.