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Solidarity feels tranquil
Relationship building blocks
As a student of Communication, I have learned there are principles that exist for communication. All different types of communication exist, but they're all pretty much the same. You have two sides. You have a Speaker and a Listener. You have objects or obstructions that stand between, etc. There is time, place, and position, etc. I am also learning that there are many variables that co-exist with all mediums of communication.
Now what is that number one reason we have such a hard time communicating with others? Yes. You guessed it. "They just don't understand what I'm saying". And, "If only they'd listen, they'd know I didn't mean it". Or, even better, "If you'd just stop yelling, you could hear me". Who hasn't experienced these? We all do. In fact, the harder I try to make my own point known, the worse it gets. And also, the more I talk, I'll eventually say something really, really stupid. Happens every time to me.
So with any communication, you just want peace. Peace is this really great tranquility, where, we just all get along. Because we do, all just want to get along. Again however, the variables exist. So what makes for good communication, really?
It starts with listening. Not just hearing. But, listening. Intentional listening. Intentional listening is just that, it requires us to be intentional. So I notice about myself that if I'm being conscious and paying attention. I can listen pretty well. Whenever I focus, really focus I am able to hear what the other person is saying. And if I'll not try to answer before they're done talking, I might get the whole point of what they're saying.
This is a great trick to learn as a student, because the teachers love it when you listen, and then they'll give me a chance to speak, and act like good intentional listeners too. So, maybe that's what they were trying to teach me. Anyway, the point is if you can take time to intentionally hear before your turn, they'll hear ya. And you'll hear them. No yelling, no screaming. just peace. Just tranquility. Do you know what I'm saying?