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Some gentle love

Updated on January 22, 2020

Another day has passed.

Another day where you got the chance to do something extraordinary.

So what did you do today?

Me, I did something I usually wouldn't have done. Time will tell whether it was a wise thing to do. Usually, I'd refuse to do such a thing, but today it felt like I really had the chance to do something out of the ordinary and get paid for it some time later.

And that was simply to grant my daughter's wishes and bake a cake for her.

Because she'd been begging me for days.

Now, let's say I'd ignored her and told her to stop begging. Probably she'd forgotten about it down the line. And of course, I'd spared her those extra calories and all the sugar the cake contained. But, there is something called bonding between a father and a daughter. Like in when a father and a daughter have one of those magical moments together.

One such moment occurred today.

At the wrong place.

I was dumb enough to let her know that today she'd get a chocolate cake at home, when I picked her up in kindergarten. She lit up like a Christmas tree, running around, telling everyone that she was going to get cake from me when she got home.

That wasn't the plan, but what's done is done.

After consuming dinner, she finally got to lay her hands on the good stuff. And when she was done eating the cake, she turned to me and said; 'Daddy, I'll tell mom that you let me have cake when I see her.'

I promise you, those words meant so much to me. It was a bonding moment where my child felt her father's love, delivered through edibles.

You see, I'm usually very strict with cookies, candy and so on.

Which means that she'll appreciate it even more when she gets it. And she'll remember and cherish these moments.

Yes, for the record, my daughter's mom and I don't live together. So that's why that message meant so much to me. Because, I'm actually forging the bond between me and the next generation. When I'm getting old and I don't have anyone to take care of me, it's imperative that my daughter (and possible other kids as well) love me so much they actually want to spend time and energy taking care of their old father.

In many ways, that's the ultimate prep you can get. Short of fixing your health.

Anyway, enough with the love stuff already.

My point is, you can be an authoritant figure even if you show some compassion and love every once in a while. Such as in giving your children what they want. Especially girls. Girls are biologically different than boys and must be raised otherwise. I don't care what the progressive, political left says. Girls need attention, care and compassion more than boys.

And such small gifts every now and then are exactly how you forge these bonds between you and your little princess.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2020 Aasmund Ryningen


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