Spend Some Time Alone
Being in the Netherlands with limited internet connection meant that for the first time I had to go about my day without looking down on my phone to check out someone’s story, scroll down my news feed or double tap a picture. Not only have I been cut out from social media, I’ve also been spending my days by myself. Admittedly this was something I’ve been dreading for the longest of times while preparing for the move, but I’ve grown to love it. Spending so much time alone and out of the abyss of social media has made me realize how important it is to spend time with myself once in a while. Here’s Why:
1. It Helps Clear Your Mind
Time spent alone can help you clear you're mind, relax and recharge. Our daily lives can be emotionally draining. With having to worry about that paper or report you have due, comforting a friend and of course personal obstacles we may be going through. Time alone with no distractions gives you the opportunity to relax, focus and just forget about the world for a while. This gives your brain a chance to gear down, refresh and get ready to tackle the world.
2. You'll Remove Yourself From Useless Gossip
It is very difficult to spend time on social media sites without getting caught up in pointless gossip. Nowadays you just log on to Facebook and you can see what everyone's been up to, you can see what they've been eating through Instagram, see who they're with via Snapchat and who they hate on Twitter. Gossip can never be avoided, no matter how hard you try. Being able to get away from all that unnecessary information can be surprisingly relieving.
3. Allows You To Sort Through Your Problems
Sitting down and setting your priorities straight, thinking about your problems, what may have caused them and how to come to a solution. Just this can bring peace of mind and give you some backbone to move forward. Everyone likes to solve their own problems; which leads to the next one.
4. Helps You Develop a Self-Reliant Mentality
As teenagers we usually look to friends for advice. We seek approval from our peers when buying a shirt or picking a new phone. We seek approval from our parents when buying groceries. Heading out on your own, this all changes. Asking for approval or advice is of course acceptable in certain scenarios, but there comes a time when you have to make decisions on your own. It may be difficult or scary at first, but feels a hell of a lot better than checking with you're parents if you did something right or made the right decision all the time. YOU, in most cases, know what you need and what is best for you.
5. Focus On Your Interests
Some of us can be a little self- conscious or easily distracted. Time alone to invest in your interests comes in very handy in these situations. It doesn't even have to be an interest, it can be anything new you'd want to try. The world is your oyster, and the best part of it all is that there's no pressure on how well you perform, you can fail as miserably as possible in whatever you try and no one will know. But remember to keep trying, as making mistakes/ failing is one of the best ways to learn.
6. Get To Know Yourself Better
Having time to reflect on your life is really important. It gives you time to figure out what you really want in life. It's a chance to understand what really makes you happy. Sometimes we make important life decisions without knowing that we are subconsciously being influenced by those around us. Knowing yourself better and thinking about what makes you happy and probably regretting a few choices makes you feel better, believe it or not.
7. You Value The People Close To You
In my case, back home, in Aruba my parents would always knock on my door to check up on me, or my brother would be a little to loud in his room or I'd hang out with the same groups of friends so much I'd start getting tired of all of them. Spending time alone and away from them gives you the chance to actually start missing their company, the simple hellos and goodbyes. But it's not always just those close to you, you also begin to value everyone around you.
So if you ever find yourself with free time to spend alone put that phone, tablet or laptop aside and get away from social media and the distractions of your daily life for a while. Spend that time with the most awesome person you know, yourself.