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Steps to take for positive thinking

Updated on August 24, 2012

What you think about is what you bring about!

We create our own happiness. And by that same token, we create our own unhappiness as well. When you dwell on negative things or surround yourself with negative people, you can do nothing but bring MORE negativity into your life. What we focus on is what we become.

I'm sure we all know someone who does nothing but complain about how awful their life is and how everything goes wrong for them. This same person is extremely negative and not fun to be around and they wonder why people try to avoid them or friends don't return their phone calls. Negative people like this drain our positive energy. I'm sure you have heard someone say, "I'm exhausted! Every time I talk to him / her, I feel drained and sucked dry!"

Negativity is contagious.

Haven't you noticed that when one person in the group starts complaining about something, then everyone finds something to complain about? It's like we have a competition to see who can be the winner of the "My life / problem/ kids/ day, etc. sucks worse than yours does!" contest. I don't know about you, but that's one contest I DO NOT want to win.

The good news is...Positive attitudes are contagious too! People like to hang around with someone who makes them feel good. Have you noticed when a baby is laughing that you automatically start to smile and laugh too? That positive energy is infectious! And if I have to be infected with something, I'd rather it be something good!!!

Let's face it, when you have a positive outlook...

  • · You feel better
  • · You have more energy
  • · Your confidence level is higher
  • · You have better self esteem
  • · You accomplish more
  • · You feel undefeatable
  • · Your have more fun
  • · And you’re more fun to be around!

5 Steps to being more positive

1. Take an assessment of your life. What makes you feel down and brings on those negative feelings? If it's your job, then maybe it's time to look at making a change. If it's a "friend", then maybe it's time to cut the strings and find a new friend. If it's a family member, sit down and talk with them about how the things they say affect you and make some "positive" suggestions on how they could change their own attitude. (Or show them this article.)

2. Look for the good in everything. Find something good in all that you do and see. I know if you are late for work and you get a flat tire, it's hard to see the good all around you. But, look at it this way...At least you didn't have an accident. You are alive and have another day on this earth to love, laugh and learn. Recite positive affirmations to keep your thoughts and feelings in a good place. Instead of saying, "Oh, I hate going to work so early in the morning!" Try..."Today is going to be a great day! I will be happy and I will accomplish all I set out to do." The more you recite affirmations, the easier it will be for you to believe they will come true.

3. Give yourself a lift. Too often than not, we speak negatively to ourselves about all kinds of things. "I hate my hair!" "My butt looks too big!" And the list goes on. Try giving yourself some compliments! Acknowledge your attributes and be proud! Remember, that no one is perfect!

4. Uplift your friends, family and strangers too! Say something good to everyone you meet. You know how good you feel when someone compliments you? Well, you can do that for others! Make it your goal to compliment at least 10 (or whatever number you come up with) people every day. Yours may be the only kind word that person hears today. And when you make someone else feel better...well you feel better too!

5. Be thankful. The most positive thing you could possibly do is to have an attitude of gratitude. Be thankful for the blessings that you have received and the ones that are yet to come!

In the words of the wise turtle from Kung Fu Panda..."Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why it's called the "Present."

Enjoy your "Present"!


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      Susan Haze 6 years ago from Sunny Florida

      Dreat tips. Positive Mental Attitude is a necessity. Without it it's hard to get through a day.

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      Lisa Smith 6 years ago from Coupeville, WA

      Justsilvie, thank you for stopping by and for sharing this with others. I appreciate your thoughtfulness.

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      Justsilvie 6 years ago

      Excellent Hub, Lisa. Have passed it on to my Facebook family.

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      LivingFood 6 years ago

      "Look for the good in everything" Well said! I honestly do believe that no matter how bad things may seem, there is always something good to be found in the just got to open your eyes and look for it. Thanks for sharing these great tips!

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      Lisa Smith 6 years ago from Coupeville, WA

      Thank you Treasuresofheaven! I wish you continued success in your writing as well.

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      Sima Ballinger 6 years ago from Michigan

      Wow Lisa, this is very nice! You have given me an assignment for life. I will adhere to your suggestions. Good work and to the point!



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      Lisa Smith 7 years ago from Coupeville, WA

      Thank you Whidbeywriter. I try to have a positive outlook every day. I have to say it can be a great deal of work, but it is so worth it.

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      Mary Gaines 7 years ago from Oak Harbor on Whidbey Island, Washington

      Another great hub, so true! It's not easy at times but if we make an effort to have a good attitude, and make lemonade when we are dealt a lemon. it can changes the situation sometimes for the good. It takes some work and effort on our part but so well worth it in the end. Blessings to you!

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      Lisa Smith 7 years ago from Coupeville, WA

      Thank you sbh7884. I agree with you that you will get back 10 fold what you put out. I totally believe in the law of attraction. I appreciate you stopping by and reading my hub. Have a blessed day!

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      sbh7884 7 years ago from Tampa, FL

      This is very true. What you put out to the world you get back 10 fold. So the more negative you put out there the more negative you will get back. Although in today's world its easier for some people to be negative with the bad economy, the war, etc. Positive outlook, attitude and thoughts can go along way, from brightening someones day to having good things happen to you. Keep up the good spirits! Its better to be happy than to be miserable.

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      Lisa Smith 7 years ago from Coupeville, WA

      Thank you FGual. I appreciate you stopping by.

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      FGual 7 years ago from USA

      Great words of wisdom, no matter what is going on we must think positive, if not we won't get anywhere.