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Stress Relief for Stay-At-Home Moms

Updated on April 23, 2015
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For some reason there are people in this world who tend to think that stay-at-home moms are uneducated and do nothing but eat bon-bons and watch television all day. These opinions could not be further from the truth. Women who choose to stay at home are often stretched to their limits from morning until night and frequently suffer from stress because of all of the demands placed on them.

Ask any stay-at-home mom what they do all day and you'll probably be amazed at the answers. Moms are constantly running around dealing with children, who can be quite trying at times. They handle the family finances and volunteer at various charities. They organize the house, cook, clean, help out at school, and take children to and from various events. They may also deal with elderly parents or other ill family members.

Many of these women have advanced college degrees and have given up lucrative careers to stay at home with their children. Some may deal with issues like loneliness or depression and some may have regrets about their career choices.

In short, stay-at-home moms are the backbone of a family. They are the ones who hold it all together, 24 hours a day and 7 days a week. That is a lot of responsibility for one person and it leads to a lot of stress. Luckily there are many ways for stay-at-home moms to get relief.

Outside of the House

Activities without children

Sometimes it is fun to get away from the house alone. Try out one of these ideas.

  • Monthly friends group - Get together with girlfriends once a month. Start a book club or a Bunco night. It's a great way to let off some steam.
  • Volunteer - Many organizations need help and it's a very rewarding thing to do. Most organizations are willing to work around a schedule and they are grateful for the help.
  • Take classes - There are many local colleges and organizations which offer classes on almost any subject. These courses are offered at various times throughout the day. Learn a new language or brush up on an old art skill. You'll get out of the house and meet new friends.
  • Lunch with a friend - Make a standing lunch date with a friend. This is easier when children are school-aged.

Mothers Groups

Check the internet for mothers groups in your area. MOMS, with the slogan, "MOMS Offering Moms Support", is a non-profit organization with groups in many locations.

Activities with children

Children are loads of fun and doing things with them is a wonderful way to relieve stress. Try one of these fun ideas.

  • Mother/child classes - These work well with younger children who are not in school yet, or with older children in the evening. There are many organizations that offer classes for mothers and children. Check out the local YMCA and Gymboree or other local child-based play centers. Local colleges are also a good place to find classes. You'll get out of the house, meet other local mothers and have fun bonding with your child.
  • Community mothers groups - Most communities have mothers groups that meet at members homes on a regular basis. Children have fun playing while mothers enjoy each other's company. It's a great place to vent, get advice and have a good time.
  • Playgrounds - If it's a nice day, just go outside to a public playground. Chances are you'll meet other moms there and the children will have a good time in the sun. Best of all, it's free.

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Schedule Alone Time

Set aside dedicated alone time during the week. Work out a time with your spouse and stick to the schedule. If you stay at home during your alone time, make sure children, spouse and pets stay away. This is your time. A few easy ideas for alone time stress relievers are:

  • Yoga - Many local gyms offer yoga classes and there are DVDs available too.
  • Meditation - Take a class at a local organization or buy a book to learn the methods.
  • Exercise - Take a walk or join a gym. The benefits of exercising are limitless.
  • Hobbies - Take up painting, photography or another hobby.
  • Reading - Get lost in a great book.
  • Bubble Baths - Take a luxurious bubble bath. Make it special by lighting candles and using fancy bath products.
  • Take a drive - An easy stress reliever, hop in the car and take a drive through the countryside.

Special Activities

Special activities are not always easy to schedule and the cost can sometimes be prohibitive, but they are worth it every once in a while.

  • Date night - Get a babysitter and schedule a date night. Go see a movie and grab dinner.
  • Spa Day - Ask for a spa gift certificate for a birthday or Christmas gift. Pamper yourself with a facial or a massage.

It Is Important to Relieve Stress

Stress is a major problem for stay-at-home moms. It can lead to problems in the home and depression for the mothers. It is also something that most stay-at-home mothers deal with every day.

Stress relief comes in many forms. A mother can enjoy some alone time and she can enjoy time away from the house either with or without her children. Whatever choice a stay-at-home mom makes, it is important for the entire family that she takes time to relieve her stress.

© 2012 Glimmer Twin Fan

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      Though it has been a long time, I do remember those days. Kids are tremendous responsibilities even when they seemingly have few problems. Mothers with kids with special needs really have a 24/7 job. I always say when you take care of yourself you take care of others better. Voted up and shared.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      This is very important information my friend. I firmly believe that parents need to schedule alone time, and yet so many feel guilty about doing that. I was a single parent and I know for a fact that your suggestions would have helped immensely during those years. Wonderful suggestions and I'm sharing.

      Have a great day!

      bill

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      Deborah 4 years ago from Las Vegas

      Hello Glimmer, this is very interesting and helpful to the stay at home moms, and maybe even some stay at home husbands. I will share this and voted up!

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      Susan Zutautas 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      I remember times when all 3 of my boys were teens and I would get stressed with the everyday stuff. Some times when things would get to me I'd hop in the car, grab a coffee and go for drive or go sit down at the lake. The best thing about this was when I'd get home everyone would be quiet and the house would be tidied up.

      All your stress relief ideas are awesome!

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      annerivendell 4 years ago from Dublin, Ireland

      Great hub. I was a stay at home mum and I also helped run the family business. It was difficult and stressful at times, but the rewards were more than worth it. Great tips on relieving the stress. Wish I'd had this back then.

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      Veronica Roberts 4 years ago from Ohio, USA

      Great tips & suggestions! "Me time" is SO imortant! :)

      Voted up & shared.

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      Rosie writes 4 years ago from Virginia

      I stayed at home for 4 years and ran a small business part time. Time seemed to slow down and I was able to "smell the roses" and enjoy my family more - missing those days. All of your suggestions are wonderful and important.

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      Carol - Thanks so much for your comments and support. You are right about taking care of yourself. It's so important.

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      Bill - Many thanks for your comments. I can imagine that the stress on a single parent would be incredible and it was probably difficult to schedule "alone" time. I appreciate your support.

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      Thanks for the comments eHealer. I definitely think that these could work for fathers too. Even the fancy bubble bath!

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      I appreciate the comments Just Ask Susan. My daughter is not a teen yet and she is my only one, but I can imagine 3 teens in one house. I love driving around, even for an hour. Seems to clear my mind.

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      Annerivendell - I can only imagine how hard it must have been to stay at home and run a business at the same time. But you are right, it is worth it to stay at home. I've never regretted it. Thanks for the comments.

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      Thanks so much for your support Veronica. I love my "me" time!

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      Hi Rosie - Glad you enjoyed the hub. I bet it was stressful at home while running a small business. Even fitting in hub writing adds another facet to staying at home. Thanks for the comments.

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      Shining Irish Eyes 4 years ago from Upstate, New York

      I commend you for writing a hub which recognizes the importance of a stay-at-home-Mom. My symbol, which I try to emulate is a woman who stayed at home with four children and was also a doctor and nurse, a problem solver and master negotiator, superior accountant as well as a four-star chef - my Mom.

      I hope Mom's take to heart the valuable advise for the much needed "me" time listed here.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      It is vital that moms have some time to get away to relax from their daily lifestyles. Your suggestions are ones that will help them to rejuvenate and return to their normal routines with renewed energy and outlook. I love having spa treatments, but a hot bath at home is just as wonderful. The date night is one that I still follow today and my hubby benefits from it too. Great post!

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      Hi shiningirisheyes - I appreciate your comments. Moms are the best!

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      Teaches - Thanks so much for your comments. Date night is a perk for mom and dad and I'm with you. I get a spa certificate once or twice a year and I love it. Facials are the best!

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi Glimmer, oh how I agree! lol! I remember those days so well, my son had to go to school by bus, just the local bus, so I went with him, or when we lived right up the top of a hill I would walk twice a day up and down with him to school, no car back then, talk about exercise! phew! then there were family meetings, doing the house, and just about everything else too, so yes a few minutes or an hour a day just to chill out was amazing! great hub, and voted up! nell

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      I appreciate the comments Nell. Wow - sounds like half of your day was spent going to and from school. I always savor my alone time.

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      Shasta Matova 4 years ago from USA

      I feel calmer already just reading this article. These are great ideas to relieve stress, and I love the fact that they are all inexpensive and easily do-able. Voted up.

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      Denise Handlon 4 years ago from North Carolina

      You mean stay at home moms don't sit around watching tv and eating bon bons all day? Go figure! Great hub about the important role and the busy, busy lives that stay at home moms have. I wish I could have been a stay at home mom for a much longer time, but my situation did not allow that.

      Of my two daughters one was able to stay at home and the other could not do to her situation. I think most women would prefer to be with their children in those early years but it is a touch job!

      Up/U/I

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      Thanks Millionaire! The more inexpensive, the better.

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      Denise - I know it's hard for some folks believe we actually do something during the day, but I'm always surprised that there are still people who do. I was once asked if I was sorry I wasted my college education to stay at home with my daughter. I was flabbergasted. I really appreciate your comments.

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      Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

      Not sure how I missed this one the first time out, but excellent article and you really hit the nail on the head about Stay at Home moms. I think I work harder now that I ever did when I had a full-time teaching job. So, can totally agree with you on that one. That said thank you for sharing this one and have voted way up and shared, too!!

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      Ms. Immortal 4 years ago from NJ

      I love this hub, it is all so true and you said it so well.

      The suggestions you give for stress relief are helpful and very important for mom's sanity. I didn't get enough alone time when my boys were young. My husband was never around. Luckily I'm not to crazy, I don't thinks so anyway :oP

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      Rfordin 4 years ago from Florida

      This would be me, a stay at home mom of two young children. Who I might add are both in school so even tho I get a "break during the day" it's filled with all the other things I am unable to accomplish with a 4 & 5 year old nipping at my heals. Although it can be quite stressful and time consuming I wouldn't have it any other way.

      Thanks for the tips.

      ~Becky

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      Thanks so much Janine! It is amazing how fast my days go and how much running around I do. I appreciate the support!

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      I appreciate the comments Cathy! I love my alone time and am always looking for different ways to get it. Glad you enjoyed the hub!

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      Thanks Becky. You are right, no matter how stressful it gets, I would not trade it for anything and have never regretted staying at home. I appreciate the comments.

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      vespawoolf 4 years ago from Peru, South America

      These are great ideas for stay-at-home moms. I believe these moms have the hardest but most rewarding job. It's difficult because they can't get away from their job. It's 24/7 and these ideas can help moms have a break just when they most need it.

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      Thanks so much vespa! It has been hard, but so rewarding. I will probably be going back to work in the next couple of years now that my daughter is getting older, but I will miss these days.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Stay at home moms are hugely burdened with so many responsibilities and you outline great ways to tackle the problem of stress which comes along with this. Thanks for sharing.

      Up & useful.

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      Thanks you rajan. I think even moms forget because it becomes so routine for us. Sometimes it is just great to take a break and do something for ourselves.

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