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Stress should be a beautiful thing! Trouble is we combine it with worry.

Updated on November 6, 2013

What me worry?

This picture was taken during a break from preventing a major lawsuit against the company I was consulting with in risk management.
This picture was taken during a break from preventing a major lawsuit against the company I was consulting with in risk management. | Source

Stress is when we are under pressure to accomplish.

Too much to do.. Yippee! When we have mountains to climb that is stress. We should cause stress in our lives. Worry is an energy drainer and downer. Stress = Good. Worry= bad. I suggest you do not cope with stress but rather deny worry a place in your space.

Stress gets us all worked up, it can even increase adrenaline production. If we focus that on the task at hand, or the many tasks we get charged up. But somehow we are wired to channel a lot of that energy into worry about, well about failure I suppose.


Heck yes I worry.

I am just wired that way. But I do not live in that moment anymore, when I see it or feel it. The problem is that it is sneaky. One moment of ignoring love and gratitude and it will slip right in.

There was a man and a wife. The wife tended to operate a little more hysterical than the husband. The husband loved the wife dearly and loved providing for her. At one point through absolutely no fault of his own, he got laid off. They were already close to month to month finances and the man just worried himself sick for a few days before telling his wife.

When he did tell her, she got upset. And then she just wanted to talk and talk about it.

But the man came to realize that that was OK. It was better than worrying about it alone. And in less than a few hours they had a plan and were looking forward to more success in life. Worry gone. Simply by talking it out -- even though the man did not want to.

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My wife had a rough delivery of my youngest son.

Premature, 5 long hard painful hours of labor. Of course we were all getting "worried". The stress was palpable. We ended up with an emergency c-section because of "stress" on the baby. My wife surely did have a lot of stress. But the doctors and nurses were amazed at her vitals. They remained well within normal range. Mine sure weren't ;-) Pushing and pain and effort and strain and indeed stress -- effected her not one bit vitally.

During a lull - in the action I asked her why she was not even sweating or screaming in pain. She just smiled and said: "I am not worried God will take care for he wants this little boy and for him to have a mother"

After that the decisions I had to make with the medical team and all the commotion of an emergency and a c-section left me stressed but exceedingly excited and happy. What a great lesson that little momma taught me.

One that I had intellectualized and even learned in court and sport competition but one I never really grasped..

You must have known this song was coming

Well now I look back on my failures in life

I jump right into stressful situations. It is like I am a trouble resolver junkie. In fact it is what I do for a living. Probably came from being a risk junkie as a young man. High cliff diving, downhill ski racing, Rock climbing and anything else that was dangerous. But I did not always succeed, or be the best.

That was not being scared that took that edge off it was worry. Worry of failure. I diverted my energy my Chi and my faith away from the task(s) at hand and fed that damned devilish hungry beast called worry. I do not do that so much anymore.

But yesterday I did. In the evening my wife asked the normal question; "honey are you alright, you seem very stressed out" --- Ding Ding Ding Ding the bells went off and I realized that of course I was stressed I was working on a 7 year audit for taxes for a publicly traded company that could get delisted and in major litigation if I did not succeed. But the bells going off was the sound of recognizing worry. I was worried - dang it. How long until I learn. How many times must I run headlong into the brick wall before I get it.

I sat still in my darkened office spent ten minutes breathing deep, the meditated and prayed for the worry to be lifted. And it was gone. And then I concentrated on relieving the stress so my body could be at rest and get recharged for today.

Going on a hike and "crawling the log" relieves worries of life.

Who can worry in nature?
Who can worry in nature? | Source

Here is a little story about pure stress without worry.

Some time ago my wife picked up a really nice jacket/coat/sweatshirt for my little son. He is 3. Just yesterday he insisted on wearing that coat to school. You see it is a Spiderman coat and his little friends at school covet it.

Well he had worn it several times and it was in dirty clothes to be washed. Not at all dirty by my standards but filthy by his mom's standard.

So she explained that he simply could not wear it today or everyday because it had to get washed from time to time. And you cannot wear the same clothes everyday. What in the heck was she thinking?!

Little boys can wear their favorite clothes every day. Little people have what we refer to as "security blankets". It is up to dad to clean them at night when they are dirty. Well my son got all stressed out. But I assured him that I would talk to his mom and that I would clean the coat so it would be ready the next day, and wash it at night next time.

He was still stressed and his mom got stressed. But neither had to worry about the problem coming back. So we were all happy.

You see the boy will grow out of the coat -- both figuratively and physically. But he does not need to worry about that. And his mom does not need to worry about wearing the same clothes to pre-school as long as they are clean.

The stress got us all to act and learn and grow together. The worry was worthless.

When it is time to rest destress.

You have got to shut it off to do your best.
You have got to shut it off to do your best. | Source

Baby, cars get over heated

If you run that engine long and hard enough you have got to stop to refuel, lubricate and let it cool down.

What I talked about here is the positive of stress. But if you do not learn how to work that ignition key into the off position you will burn your motor up.

Recently I had a bad bout with poverty. I live by a creed that is basically "Do not work for a living, work for living". And it includes leaving finances to God. (no that does not mean - do not ask for money for your work or any other ridiculous extrapolation) It means do not worry about it. Well I worried anyhow. And a funny thing happened. When I got rid of the poverty, I caught myself still worrying about it. That is how insidious the worry can be. Of course I got over it, and happily learned from it.

But there are at least 14 billion articles on that and shrinks and meditation and prayer to help you with that. Although I will probably write the 14 billionth and 1 shortly.

Hey baby don't worry be happy

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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      5 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you for the visit and very nice contribution Pamela. But I am dying to know what about that video is risque? I want to be a very sensitive guy and I just do not see risque.

    • Pamela Kinnaird W profile image

      Pamela Kinnaird W 

      5 years ago from Maui and Arizona

      I enjoyed your thoughts on this subject. I also enjoyed the video, "Don't Worry Be Happy." I posted it myself on a hub I wrote once, but then I watched the whole thing from start to finish and found out, whoa -- a little risque in places, but I sure like the tune.

      I like a little stress in my life, too. I work well under pressure and find that I get bored unless I have some challenges cropping up from time time. Great hub. Up, funny and interesting.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      5 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      It takes some work for me. Hey here is a really cool addendum over at Rolly's fireside chats - the TED video is really an interesting study on happiness. Seems that full focus on the task at hand makes us happier than mind wandering. I first I laughed and said these guys to not know where my mind wanders LoL. But I do think that stress like you refer to helps us stay focused on the task at hand -- therefor happier. Strange huh?

      Faith Reaper you as always are a delight to have over, and a beacon of joy.

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      Faith Reaper 

      5 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dear Eric,

      Great write here! Worry is a waste of time and energy for sure. Once I place my head on my pillow and cast all my cares to Him, then I can rest in that sweet, sweet peace knowing He has it all under control.

      However, on the other hand, as you state here, stress certainly is a motivator. I believe I work best knowing I only have a short time to get something finished and I work best in such a short time period ... for if I had all the time in the world to get something done, well, I tend to get a little lax, knowing I do have so much time and "I'll think about that tomorrow."

      Up and more and sharing

      Hope you had a wonderful weekend.

      God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      5 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Get the heck to your cabin -- NOW

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      Theresa Ast 

      5 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      Evening Eric - Finally taking a break from university related stuff. This ia an important hub with a clear message. Distinguish between stress and worry -- embrace the former and stop the latter. Like you, I find that stress, work invigorates, but worry is like a cancer of the spirit eating us from the inside out. Thanks for reminding us. Sharing. Theresa

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      5 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      So glad you dropped by and commented I am coming over right now to read your latest. Fly high girl!

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      CrisSp 

      5 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      I used to be a worrier....not much now. I've learned to live in the moment (still learning) and take things as they come.

      Appreciate your thoughts on this writing and thank you for sharing your (and your wifey's) experience with us.

      Love from the sky~

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      cleaner3 

      5 years ago from Pueblo, Colorado

      thank you Eric... I am humbled by the many who comment on my poetry... but I try to keep my head from sweeling ..by remembering that I have my demons to fight everyday.. (substance abuse) and that is what keeps me writing ..trying to look for the beauty in life .. it is there but when you were in the dark place I used to be, you never noticed or didn't care about it . I now look for people like you and Faith Reaper to give me tibbits of what devotion is expressed with such class and dignity that you both have .. kindred spirits... I am but a lost sheep trying to find my way home .. through words.!

      Michael

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      5 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Right on brother, for both the individuals that suffer and for enlightenment in the big picture of cure. This one here on stress and worry I think is a big contributing factor to illness.

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      ologsinquito 

      5 years ago from USA

      Hi Eric,

      Thank you for the kind words in your email. We'll just keep praying.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      5 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      This old guy named Paul who was once named Saul spoke of a thorn in his side that he prayed to have removed. God just would not do it. The conclusion was that it kept him humble knowing he had a weakness. By golly I got so many thorns that I am a humble weakling.

      Thanks for one of the nicest compliments I have received any where any time.

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      cleaner3 

      5 years ago from Pueblo, Colorado

      Eric.. you are a fountain of wisdom and knowledge that the common man understands.. words that express your devotion and humility... but written with such dignity and class that any who reads should appreciate fully .!

      Michael

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      5 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill, I am afraid you and I are kindred spirits in that one category -- head butting!

      From down here in the Naval Port city of San Diego - our hearts go out to all of Washington for your recent tragedy.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      5 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Blessings MsDora

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      Dora Weithers 

      5 years ago from The Caribbean

      Eric, I know that you thank God for your wife. Today, I thank Him too. Love her with all you've got!

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      Bill Holland 

      5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Bev is the worrier in our family. I'm Mr. Go With The Flow...show me a challenge and I meet it head on, which often means a damaged skull but also a sense of satisfaction in once again facing the challenges in life and standing tall.

      Love the practical wisdom you share.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      5 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks friend. Still praying for your beautiful country and it's brave citizenry. It is tough to realize but fires by lightning and massiv snow melt, avalanches and rain flooding are what carved the beautiful state into what it is. Did you know it takes the heat of a forest fire to germinate a Populous Tremuloidis? And where would we be without the wonderful Aspens.

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      cleaner3 

      5 years ago from Pueblo, Colorado

      awesome ...1

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