Suicide. Permanent solution to a temporary problem
Wikipedia.org defines suicide as follows:
Suicide is the act of intentionally causing one's own death. Suicide is often carried out as a result of despair, the cause of which is frequently attributed to a mental disorder such as depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, borderline personality disorder, alcoholism, or drug abuse. Stress factors such as financial difficulties or troubles with interpersonal relationships often play a role.
Have you known anyone who committed suicide?
5 basic factors for happiness, according to Carl Jung.
“What do you consider to be more or less basic factors making for happiness in the human mind?” Jung answered:
“1. Good physical and mental health.
2. Good personal and intimate relationships, such as those of marriage, the family, and friendships.
3. The faculty for perceiving beauty in art and nature.
4. Reasonable standards of living and satisfactory work.
5. A philosophic or religious point of view capable of coping successfully with the vicissitudes of life.”
Over the years we have been made aware: financial security, celebrity, lifestyle, stardom, and the appearance of happiness to others does not rule out the individuals choice to commit suicide. At one time many people were taught that people prone to commit suicide exemplify this behavior, constantly remain a loner, or exhibits certain behavior that could be visually displayed. The face of suicide is not only in the hopeless, constantly sleeping, disconnected depressed person. It is the person that is your friend, that laughs and smiles, your co-worker, or the nice lady or man that you speak to at the grocery store. It is not uncommon for people who are suffering from suicidal tendencies to wear a mask that does not allows others to experience their level of despair and lack of hope.
A prime example is the shocking news of the death of people like Robin Williams. A man that was regarded as a funny-man who appeared in interviews as an upbeat funny-man. As the news hit one can only wonder how someone who achieved decades of fame, married, and had children could choose to be overwhelmed by his pain and commit suicide. How? Unfortunately his death mirrors others who mask their hurt and despair walking amongst us pretending to function as “normal” as society expects.
Natalie Staats Reiss, Ph.D., and Mark Dombeck, Ph.D. Provided additional risk factors regarding suicide that reach beyond mental disorders sharing the following factors:
Sixty percent of all suicides are committed by people with mood disorders.
Approximately 30% of suicides are committed by people who have psychiatric disorders other than mood disorders.
There is a significantly higher rate of suicide among people who abuse alcohol and/or drugs.
Some suicides are the result of the side effects of prescription drugs, or combinations of prescription and recreational drugs.
People who have access to firearms are more likely to commit suicide.
Emotional insults, such as rejection, public humiliation or shame, may be experienced as painful enough by some people to push them towards suicide.
Survivor guilt caused by witnessing or experiencing torture, abuse, war/combat, genocide or other violence appears to be a cause of suicide in some cases.
People who are terminally ill or have long-term, serious chronic illnesses, paralysis, disfigurement or loss of limbs sometimes commit suicide.
Significant grief and loss.
To those of you who are left behind you must not blame yourself. Ultimately it is the individuals responsibility for their own life that resulted in suicide. You can not blame yourself or constantly try to determine why you didn't see the signs or feel bad that you didn't answer a phone call one night. Instead encourage others and take that love you had for your friend, family member, co-worker, fellow student, lover, and do one of the following two things-hopefully both.
(1) Don't let their story die in vain. Help others who might be suffering with issues by telling their story and working to ensure people know where to go to get help. Understand you are not a medical provider nor a psychologist so the reality of the situation is that the person needs professional help. While you can be a support, you can not “fix” their situation. The person needs professional help in order to diagnose if this is a behavioral and/or mental/genetic challenge in the persons life.
(2) Remember that we are all here for each other and are connected to one another in the human race. Your interactions or treatment of others can have effects beyond what you can imagine. While individuals must take responsibility for whatever path or direction they take, society (as a whole) must treat people with respect, care, and dignity. Take time every now and then to do something for others, volunteer your time, and be kind to other people. Everyone matters and have basic needs: Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
Bullyingstatistics.org notes: *Suicide is the third leading cause of death among young people, resulting in about 4,400 deaths per year, according to the CDC. For every suicide among young people, there are at least 100 suicide attempts. Bully victims are between 2 to 9 times more likely to consider suicide than non-victims, according to studies by Yale University
Let me leave you with a parting thought:
There was a play written about the suicide of a young lady. The entire town discussed this ladies suicide and what a tragedy that occurred and confusion about why this beautiful young lady would choose to end her life. One by one the people of the town mentioned their interactions with this young lady. The shop-keeper was jealous of her beauty, and although she did nothing wrong, fired her from the job out of jealousy. The married man that carried on an affair with her when she had no financial way to support herself because of her lack of income due to the shop-keeper's firing her. The story goes on and on but what was never forgotten about the play is that while everyone shook their heads in disbelief at her suicide yet all played a role in the ultimate decision that she made to end her life.