Anxiety! Sure ways to overcome it!
Every tomorrow has two handles. We can take hold of it with the handle of anxiety or the handle of faith.’ – Henry Ward Beecher
Modern life has become very hectic and stressed. Problems after problems pile up to make you feel anxious about your life and future. How do you react when you become anxious? You presume lots of negative things about your life. You think you are destined to failure.
Why do you become anxious? Anxiety is caused by various reasons. Many factors contribute to its manifestation. Work pressure, a divorce, loss of a loved one, delayed promotion can make you feel worried.
What causes anxiety?
A total lack of confidence and trust aggravates your feeling of anxiety. You have great expectations about your life. But when you are unable to fulfill it you feel negative and pessimistic.
Persistent failures can make you feel anxious. You think that you are born to be a failure. Your anxiety digs a grave to your self- confidence. Do you know that your anxiety can destroy your life? Life has so much to offer you and do not throw it away by feeding in negative anxiousness in your mind.
Say ‘no’ to negative thoughts.
Negative thoughts beget negative results! And its end product is failure. Control your thoughts when they deviate towards the negative aspect of your life. Do not feel that your troubles are there to stay with you infinitely.
How can there be a permanent problem in anyone’s life? All anxious problems are like passing clouds. Very temporary and fleeting! I too was once a very anxious person. I worried about my family and felt that my traumatic troubles would continue throughout my life.
When I think of my past I could see how negative I was. Thinking back from my present positive attitude I see how my anxiousness had taken away the happiness in my life.
I had been through a traumatic period in my life when my husband was down with renal failure. Imagine having your loved one bedridden, fighting a lost battle against a dreadful disease. When he passed away, I became neurotic with anxiety about my only daughter.
Even a mild cold she had made me mad with anxiety. I would be frenzied with worry if she was late from school. The debts I had were enormous and I thought I would never come out of it. I smile to myself when I see that I had overcome all my troubles. I had felt anxious about a temporary phase in my life.
You lose your happiness when you worry about the problems you face in your life. After the death of my husband I started acting typically like an anxious person, always keyed up. I lost my cheerful behavior and my daughter was the most affected person due to my anxiety.
She told me she felt the loss of her father even more because of my frenzied behavior. I felt a pang in my heart and I made a mental resolution not to bow down to sorrow. My husband was within me, I have not lost him. ‘He will give me the inner strength to tide over my sorrow’, I told myself. Believe me, this feeling has made me a lot more confident and I am back to my normal cheerful self.
You should develop mental detachment.
Your anxiety is not going to get you anywhere. What do you do when something negative happens in your life? You feel down with anxiety, don’t you? This is the greatest mistake you commit in your life.
You should mentally and emotionally detach yourself from your present agony and concentrate on overcoming it. If you do not get your expected promotion, do not lose hope. You should work even harder, develop your skills and you will soon find promotion embracing you. Have you lost a dear one? Let your loved one exist in your heart and visualize him as being with you.
Meditation is another way to ease your anxiety. Spend some time meditating and you will feel yourself unwinding. You brain becomes clear and this clarity makes you see things in its right perspective. Always interact with people who have positive attitude towards life.
Place your total faith in God. Prayers are a great mind soother, ironing away your anxiety, distrust and hopelessness. Learn to see the positive side of life. As your self confidence grows, you will see the sunnier side of your life. You will evolve into a new confident person ready to take the world in your stride.
Do you become anxious when you face problems in life?
© 2013 mathira