Surprising Traits of Strong People
What is a Strong Person?
A strong person is one that can endure the worst life has to offer and still walk away with their head held high. They're not always the ones you expect to be survivors; usually they're the ones in the shadows rather than the spotlight. They may not be physically strong, but they have a strength of will that is unrivaled. So how does one become a strong person? It's in their character and here are the traits they have in common.
Strong people first and foremost are good listeners. They learn far more by listening and observing than those who are busy telling others about their opinions. They know that in order to solve a problem, one must first understand the problem and they do so by listening more and speaking less.
When they do speak, they use lots of encouragement and aim to build others up rather than be critical. They don't engage in gossip or in conversations that are negative, which many people translate as aloofness. However, the strong person doesn't spread gossip or negativity because they know that it is useless and destructive.
Their speech and body language indicate mental clarity, and a good balance between emotion and rationality. They radiate compassion and those speaking to a strong person will feel as though they are really being heard. Strong people think before they speak and measure their words carefully, being mindful of how what they say and how they say it might affect others.
Strong people have the ability to say "no" to people, tasks and emotions that are counterproductive. They don't get caught up in other people's drama, but prefer to keep their distance and solve their own problems. They don't over-commit themselves to too many projects, but rather pour their energies into projects that really mean a lot to them and delegate tasks to other people. They also don't spend too much time worrying about the past, but instead strong people focus on the present and apply what they've learned from the past.
One thing you won't hear from a strong person is whining or complaining. They know there are certain things they can't control, so they make peace with them and move on, and focus on solving what problems they can.
We acquire the strength we have overcome.— Ralph Waldo Emerson
Strong people are intelligent. They might not have "book smarts" or hold PhD's, but they possess an emotional intelligence -- that is to say that they can read and interpret other people's emotions, body language and intentions without having to ask for clarification. They use their intuition to sense what other people need and want and to anticipate their moves and motives.
They don't waste time thinking about idle things, like the latest trends or celebrity gossip, but rather think about what makes the universe tick, spiritual and metaphysical subjects, the environment and relationships. Strong people have hobbies and passions and would rather devote their time to learning and perfecting a craft or trade instead of wasting time on mindless activities.
Strong people are constantly learning, whether it's picking up a new skill or learning from their mistakes. They understand that every opportunity, whether good or bad, is a chance for personal growth.
They don't overcomplicate things and live by the philosophy, "work smarter, not harder"; strong people realize that most of the time, a simple solution is the best solution.
Strong people have confidence in themselves because they don't waste time on negative self-talk. They focus on using their strongest abilities to their fullest potential and strengthening those abilities that are lacking. They realize that they are always works in progress and continually strive to improve themselves.
They are not arrogant or cocky, but rather understand the importance of being humble. Strong people realize that pride and boastfulness are inward signs of cowardice, so they prefer to stay humble and admit they don't know everything.
They don't constantly call attention to themselves, but won't hesitate to point out their successes. Strong people believe in giving credit where it is due and always use honesty and integrity when receiving accolades.
Strong people don't seek the approval of others. They value the opinions of those closest to them, but ultimately make their own choices.
Strong people are not concerned with the trends of the day or the flow of public opinion. They are free thinkers and aim to gather as many facts as possible before reaching a conclusion. Their opinions may not always be popular, but their opinions are fair and objective.
They do not depend on others to make them happy, but rather find happiness within themselves. Strong people are not needy, clingy, or co-dependent, and do not engage in attention-seeking behaviors.
They understand that what is popular today may not be popular tomorrow, so their tastes and styles reflect many genres that stand the test of time. They value quality over quantity and prefer things that are more practical.
Strong people are strong in subtle ways. They're not always the leader or the one in the spotlight; most often they're the ones that people overlook. They gain their fortitude by not only experiencing tough times, but handling those tough times with dignity and grace instead of falling apart, and then seeing what lessons they can learn from those tough times.
Strength doesn't always come packaged with lots of muscles. Sometimes it comes packaged in kindness and humility.