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Swimming against the tide, climbing the hill and when to relax

Updated on October 17, 2013

Is it sunset or sunrise

Sometimes it is what you decide and not just the time of day.
Sometimes it is what you decide and not just the time of day. | Source

Sorry but some battles must be fought.

The sixty year old went into the sea for the first time in a decade. He swam a ways out and enjoyed the gentle waves that rolled over him and the sky above and sea he was in. So taken away was he that he did not notice the current had taken him a full mile south along the shore. When he noticed, he began his leisurely swim to shore. But alas he began to get pulled further out and further south. He was in the mighty Pacific, which is anything but peaceful as the name implies.

Of course like any good vacationer swimmer he first panicked, started swimming harder and hyperventilating only to further be pulled out to sea. Gulps of salt water began to further feed his hysteria and further over he could see huge breakers smashing and gnarling about. First it was his calf to cramp up and then a bicep. This, he thought, for sure would be his last swim. He relaxed and puffed up his chest with deep breathes and put his head back and almost serenely looked around to enjoy the world this one last time. All his work accomplishments flashed in a second, yes he had been successful there but it now seemed irrelevant. But then thoughts lingered on family and friends and a smile crossed his lips as he had done well there and this brought him even more peace and joy.

As he approached the thundering waves his body was actually jerked in the direction of the shore..Again and again as long as he stayed still and let the new current take him. He was falling into a hypothermia. And all was about to go black as his toe gently touched the sand and with the next rolling current he was walking onto the shore.

Our friend here just taught us when to fight the current and when to just relax and go with the flow.

Some battles we just have to fight

So much is a struggle

Have you ever fully disagreed with someone and at there statement you fully reject, instead of saying "no......."? Of course you have you have argued or you would not be reading this. But next time try saying "yes.........". What I mean is approach the argument by jumping in the flow of the river and instead of trying to dam it up and change it's course, gently guide the person to shore. Go with the flow of their thoughts and try to redirect the person rather than the current they are riding. Two things will happen: you will see things from their perspective and, you will have a shared experience that bonds you above the issue of the current current.

The result may not be what you intended --- that is good, it means you are open to growth. And that you realized the flow is bigger than you. Or you may be found by a new current that brings you closer together and both to a shore which forms a new foundation of understanding. That is where you build your house.

A wise cowboy does not lasso the runaway horse and try to stop it dead in it's tracks. He lassos and then slowly and carefully brings the horse to turn in another direction and then and only then attempts to fully restrain the beast.

Sometimes it is better to just stop

Stop, look both ways and back and forward and listen and then walk with purpose across the road. I taught my son that; and it hit me that I should listen to myself.
Stop, look both ways and back and forward and listen and then walk with purpose across the road. I taught my son that; and it hit me that I should listen to myself. | Source

Back to our friend the swimmer.

Life is really good when you get the flow of it. Nature especially follows a natural order. Of course I contend that even man is part of nature and there is order there also, just a lot less predictable.

Our friend in the sea say a chaos, and current against his desires. But he need not have gone through that exercise in futility. On the other hand perhaps he needed it to remind him of his lack of control.

If he would have been a man in tune he would have known the rule to relax and swim either with or at least not head on into the rip tide. His serenity would not have required a path of panic. Had he not reacted and instead taken stalk of what was he would have seen immediately that the crashing waves, while violent at first sight meant an landward flow. In fact he could have happily ridden a wave in and enjoyed the ride.

We are wise to think of such matters in our daily lives. Practice going against the current for exercise and to be "in shape" when it is required. But realize that we are more often benefited by relaxing and setting our intentions to go with the flow and look for opportunities to make the most of it. More often it is enough to work diligently toward keeping our heads above water while riding the current. If we do that and keep our eyes open our journey will have enough detours to keep us busy and well.

Do not believe that you cannot fly, believe that there is wind enough to carry you. Just do not stand strong against the wind, let it carry you to places unimag

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Know when to hold them; know when to fold them. :) Another great message to start my day with. Thank you Dr. Wisdom! Have a love-filled day my friend.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill I have come to realize that I am a very selfish man. I write these for me. And I am just the contrarian that I chomp at the bit of my own advice ;-) Be a blessing unto yourself at least half as much as you bless me!

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      Me sermon for the day. Excellent counsel for me personally. Thank you.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      MsDora, as long as we keeping preaching to ourselves and each other. We will not wander far from the good path.

      We should not be ashamed to say we need each other -- in fact we should glorify our reliance on good people like you. Thank you friend.

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      Ghaelach 3 years ago

      Good Evening Eric.

      Well that was a great lesson for us all to take notice of. Myself being the watchfull type, likes to see ahead and know what is coming my way. Some might say I'm a little shy of going forward, but I like to think of myself as the type that breaks when the lights change to amber, and not the type that puts his foot on the gas. But then thats just me.

      LOL Ghaelach

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I dare say my friend Ghaelach, perhaps you spend too much time thinking. After reading your latest and greatest: http://ghaelach.hubpages.com/hub/The-Missing-Body , I am convinced. You cause the currents my friend.

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      cleaner3 3 years ago from Pueblo, Colorado

      great write ..Eric..

      I like the way you weave the thoughts together with the thinnest of thread ..but it is held together so strong with the wisdom.. nice ..1

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Aye that thread is all there is of my sanity. Glad that you noticed it is still connected.

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      Brian Prickril 3 years ago from Savannah, GA

      Good hub, Eric. How true it is that sometimes we fight the forces of life so hard it almost blinds us. Relax, change course, and like you said: look for opportunities. Thanks.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Brian my friend. We wish for each other such peace and harmony. We should also wish it for ourselves.

      My eyes were just open when I saw and met you. And you have given me the opportunity to grow. Thank you

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 3 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Voted up and interesting Eric. You are so right that we must go with the flow so to say. I made the mistake of creating more panic when there was nothing to panic about years ago when I lived in NYC the result was a years worth of panic attacks. Never again now I always take things one day at a time and say thank you Lord for keeping by my side. Passing this on.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Gypsy you are an inspiration. And you are so right. I once spent 6 months with violent vomitting due to Chemotherapy. My mantra was and is; Thank you Lord Jesus. For today is a new day!

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