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THE WASTEFULNESS OF WORRY

Updated on August 20, 2017

Having "New Eyes"

The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.

-Marcel Proust

Worry is also a topic I know very well. I seem to have been a worrier all my life. I remember being a loner, beginning at a very young age, but even in my alone time, which was very rare, I was worried about what would happen next. I am not sure where it all started. The earliest memory of feeling worried was when I was about a year-and-a-half to two years old. Mom put me on the porch in the winter time and left them me there to cry. I found out when I was older that I was put there because my Dad got tired of hearing me cry and he told her to put me out there and lock the door. He said it wouldn’t hurt me. I know I was scared but I was also worried that they wouldn’t let me back in the house. Of course, couldn’t I articulate the feeling of worry at the time, but I am sure that is what it was.


Dr. Wayne Dyer, in his book, The Power of Intention, states, “If you knew Who walked beside you ALL times on the path you have chosen, you would never have doubt.”

I have learned over the years that being a worried person actually got me no farther along in life than it would have if I hadn’t worried. Even the Good Book speaks on this topic in Matthew 6:25-27:

“Therefore, I say to you, do not worry about your life...which of you by worrying can add one year to your life?”


Doors Shut and Windows Always Open

An important “lesson” I also learned was what I now choose as my life’s motto: Your life is created by your thoughts. I spoke about this in my book, Reality in Disguise. As I stated in my preface to this current book, it is not so much the things that happen to us that make us or break us as an individual, it’s what we do with what happens that makes us who we are, either weak or strong. Experiences do shape our life, yes. However, they do not have to crush our spirit or break our resolve. We need to change our perspective. It takes a lot of determination and prayer. It doesn’t happen overnight, most of the time. We can choose to change our perspective on it. We can step back from it, go to a quiet place for a few minutes, take a few deep breaths and use our personal, innate, emotional strength to see what positive steps we can take. There are always at least ten options for every obstacle that is placed in our life. Sometimes, we may need to literally get a pen and paper and write them out because it may take more than a few minutes to come up with ten. I know from personal experience that it is always possible to have between two to ten options. We can also realize that the “obstacle” may not always be negative, that it can be seen as an “opportunity.” There is a saying that goes, “When one door is closed, a window is always opened.” Even when we can’t see the positive end result at the moment, there is always something better to experience or more personal empowerment to achieve in the fact that a window is opened.

 

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      Lene Lynn 

      7 years ago

      Ima, you are one of the few people in the world that leaves me speechless! Thank you very, very much for your kind and encouraging words, you will never know how much it means to me! Blessings and peace to you, sweet lady...

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      imatellmuva 

      7 years ago from Somewhere in Baltimore

      I am a Lene Lynn fan!!!! Umph...umph...umph. I can't ask where were you before, when I needed to hear all of these things, I just have to say, I'm grateful that you're here now!

      Lene Lynn, as you are well aware, there are many books, lectures, professionals (and non) who extend the same message, but the message is not always received,and acted on because of it's packaging! Not only do you package it right, but you label it right too!!

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