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Three Characteristics of Happy People
Everybody in the world wants to be happy. We all do our best to experience this feeling. We are ready to sacrifice the most precious things we possess in return for a fleeting moment of joy. However, psychologists and therapists have always confirmed that happiness comes from within not from without. In other words, it is a state of mind and a way of thinking; it is a feeling that cannot be sold neither with money nor gold. Though almost all people are aware that happiness lies inside us and that it is determined by our attitudes and beliefs, they don’t know what to do in order to feel happy. In this article, I am going to shed light on three important attitudes that can make you feel content and satisfied with your life:
- 1. Be aware of your moods:
Our moods are always changing. This is our nature. When we are in good moods, we go through life effortlessly and easily. We also become approachable, wise, patient and easy-going. We don’t take anything on a personal level. However, when we are in low moods, life suddenly becomes unbearable and nothing looks the same. We have little patience and tolerance towards other people. We take trivial things personally and we feel that everybody is conspiring against us.
The fact that our moods are constantly changing seems obvious, but many people don’t realize that. They take their moody nature for granted and react to their tempers seriously and dramatically. The moment they start feeling down, they think that their life has fallen apart and everything is going wrong. As a result, they engage in analyzing their life in a negative way and they may say or do things that they may regret later.
Knowing how to cope with low moods is of great importance to our wellbeing. The only way to do that is to acknowledge them as part of our emotional system. We should convince ourselves that it’s natural to feel low from time to time and stop fighting against sadness.
- 2. Enjoy the moment:
Many people consider happiness as a project. They convince themselves that when they achieve a certain goal, they will start feeling delighted. They think that life will be better only after they get married, have babies or meet their life partners. They fail to notice that life is moving on and isn’t waiting for them to achieve their aims or complete their projects.
These people should be reminded that life will always be filled with unfinished projects. They should also know that even after finishing a specific project or fulfilling a certain goal, they will immediately set their minds on new ones and so on and so forth.
Every moment of our life is so precious and once it passes, we will never be able to recover it. So, it’s better for us to live in the present and try to make use of our current time. This doesn’t mean we should lead a life void of dreams and ambitions. Rather, we should have goals, but we don’t have to consider achieving them as a condition for our happiness.
- 3. Focus on what you have ,not on what you don’t:
Most people have the tendency to focus on what they don’t have instead of what they already possess. They are too busy chasing their desires that they forget to feel grateful for the things and people they have. People with this mindset never get satisfied, because they lack contentment. Socrates said, “He who is not contented with what he has, would not be contented with what he would like to have”.
To really enjoy our life, we have to take time to count our blessings . Besides, we should replace complaints about what we are lacking with gratitude for what we already have. For example, instead of saying “I wish my car were nicer” it would be better to say “I’m really thankful for this car. It really serves me”.
At the end, I would like to stress again the fact that happiness is a state of mind. It depends primarily on our outlook on life and the best way to achieve it is through working on our attitudes. Once we adopt a positive perspective towards what is happening inside and outside us, we will start enjoying our life to the fullest.