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5 Tips on Making Your Inner Voice Positive

Updated on May 30, 2017

I have lived my whole life with an inner voice that would judge me, berate me and well, was generally mean to me. Come to find out that there is an inner voice is present in everyone. Whew!! I am not alone.

I'm not crazy or having auditory hallucinations, everyone has a critical, judgmental, tormenting voice in their head. I call that self-talk voice in my head, my inner critic. Growing up I always was subjected to negative self-messages in my head which came front and center into my conscious thoughts constantly. I attempted to fight my inner critic by ignoring those messages. It never worked. The more I fought it the louder it would become. I took the statements to heart and felt I was just not good enough or not capable. I was never able to quiet my inner voice down. That inner voice was always loud and clear, and I couldn't just shut out its mean messages. Why? Because it struck at my heart by evoking so much emotion in me. I could never tame it. My inner critic controlled me and my life, I didn't control it.

What I learned later in life is that I didn’t just naturally hate myself. The content feeding my inner critic came from what I was told about me from my parents, siblings and other people in my life.

You're not alone

Your inner critic or your self-talk voice in your head which never seems to be silent or go away is actually normal. It doesn't go away because believe it or not your inner voice is you talking to you. Your inner critic or your voice in your head for some reason happens to be very negative toward you because your beliefs about yourself are negative. The way it talks to you in your head is just the way you feel about or doubt yourself. If it is negative is because you believe you are not worth be positive.

Your inner critic expresses critical, doubtful, hurtful, judgmental, and negative statements as well as using mean and ugly words at times.

Is these bad? Yes. On one hand this process is negative because you constantly second guess or doubt your decisions 24/7. On the other hand this voice is only attempting to protect you in a weird way and keep you from harm or doing wrong.

Where does it get it's material?

Your inner critic’s content comes from your core beliefs which formed about you and your character, during your life experiences. The reason these caustic core beliefs and statements stick in your subconscious mind is because of your emotional attachments you had to someone or something. Your core beliefs may also been formed and embedded into your subconscious mind because of an emotional charge you felt in a past situation you experienced.

Your Inner Critic Statements Control Your Life.

Through my years of coaching, I found that my clients really identified with the term “inner critic.” In asking them to write down all the statements his or her inner critic said to them, I got a litany of nasty comments which he or she heard in their head. The critical internal voice or “the judge” depletes our energy, diminishes our self-worth, contributes to hopelessness, makes you sad and distracts us from taking positive steps.

The inner voice of the judge condemns, punishes, and berates delivering negative self-messages.

Here are Twelve (12) common inner critic statements. Can you identify with any of these?

  • You don't deserve anything .
  • You are a loser.
  • You will never amount to anything.
  • You’re defective.
  • You are hopeless and less than others.
  • You will never have what you want.
  • You're not worth it.
  • No one will ever want you.
  • You do everything wrong.
  • You will amount to nothing.
  • No one will ever want you.
  • You're a bad person and there's no hope for you.

The Joe Torre Story

I recently watched a story on Joe Torre. I didn’t know it, but he grew up in an abusive home with an abusive father who criticized him endlessly. Even with his dark past, he worked hard in sports and achieved many awards. He attained MVP as a player 8 times, 9 times he was an all-star player, and he received one MVP batting title. Joe went on to become one of the winningest coaches in the history of baseball winning 2,326 games, and he won 4 World Series games as a coach. He stated that the most important aspect of coaching was to make sure his players respected him.

So even with elements of criticism touted at from an early beginning, there is the incredible power of self that can triumph over adversity and move toward the position of a positive outlook. You do not have to live with the negative messages from your inner critic. Change can be had. Construct new thoughts, practice them, and most of all, connect an emotion with your new thoughts. Then live it. Make these new thoughts your own.

Cultivate an Inner Supporter

In other words, if you consciously change the content of your inner critic’s then your thoughts will change. You can do this by recognizing your inner judging voice and denying the old messages and beliefs it expresses. Therefore changing your inner critic into your inner supporter.

You can find a solution and accomplish what you want.
You have is hope.
You can do anything.
You have hope.
You are a winner.
You are worthy and good enough.

5 Tips on Making Your Inner Voice Positive

1. Stop ignoring your inner voice

Get to know your inner critic. Become familiar with your inner voice's tone and intentions. Ignoring it doesn’t reduce its influence or make it go away. Ignoring or submitting to your inner voice only increases it influence and power over how you think. If ignored and left alone it will default to negative and will mirror your negative core beliefs.

Use your observer self. Listen to what your inner voice says. Listen as though you are another person, from a third party perspective as if you are hearing it on the radio. Write each statement down. Recognize whether each statement is an old criticism which is no longer true or an outright lie which was said to you at some point in your life by other people.

The most impactful criticisms tend to come from your closest family and friends to whom you were emotionally attached. Determine whether some of those negative statements were meant to hurt you, or were they trying ensure your emotional and physical safety or possibly to make you a “stronger person.” Know that your mind does not have or express feelings, it just records the words, forms beliefs about you, and repeats them back through your inner critic.

Let your mind help you validate whether the content of your inner voice is true or false. Next to each statement note who in your life said it and the situation or event where it occurred. The more you understand about each statement, the less power and influence the critical content has. Discover proof of why each criticism is wrong and unfounded. Once you find the real truth of each inner voice statement you will create a crack in its content and dissipate its power and influence.

2. Correct each critical statement your hear in your head into positive

Once you have completed #1, take another piece of paper and make a list of positive statements that correspond to each negative statement. This list will counteract each bit of critical content in those original critical statements. This new list is intended to increase your confidence, self-esteem, and value in yourself by changing the content of your inner voice.

It can be as simple as creating a new content statement from “You deserve nothing,” to “You deserve to be worthy,” or “You deserve to look at yourself in the mirror and love who you are.” Once you have created these new statements, repeat the statements to yourself ten times a day for 90 days. Also make a promise that you will do them every day, and set up a schedule.

The trick to success is to embed these new positive statements by repeating them with emotion. If you repeat them without emotion, the statements will not embed themselves.

Once you develop your new positive statements and begin repeating your new list daily, you need to give it life. You give them life by believing in them and manifesting their content into your life.

3. Do not falter on consistency

Be mindful of your deep obligation for your plan of action. Follow through daily by repeating your new list of positive statements for 90 days. You need to accept and change your mindset.

Your new mindset should be positive. Remember that you are in charge of yourself. You are in command of what you believe about yourself, how you think about yourself, how you feel about yourself, what your capabilities are, and knowing that you will perform successfully.

Best results can be achieved by keeping track of how many times you repeat your new list on each day. Track yourself by keeping a journal of your progress. That way you will be able to see that you are following through on your commitment. You will notice the changes that are occurring and how you feel, day after day for 90 days. Keeping track of what you do daily will help you to recognize what you are doing that works and when you fall off in your commitment. When you have mindfulness about what is happening, it will give you motivation to stay on track.

4. Surround yourself with people who think positive, are supportive of you, and make you feel comfortable

Be around people who see and experience you in a positive light. Seek out people who support your positive efforts and mindfulness and have the same vision of you that you now have. Let people who care about you reflect the real you back to you. Start hanging out with people who could use support and need your positive reflection back on them. Practice the balance of receiving and giving positive content to each other. Live in a positive light.

5. Earn respect from your inner critic by expressing your personal authority and power

Understand that your inner critic has been attempting to protect you, but the content from formed core beliefs was feeding your inner critic a steady diet of critical, doubtful and negative content from past experiences. It is your personal authority … don’t let your inner critic influence your life or the content of your thoughts. Earn respect from your mind by forming your own beliefs and thoughts about yourself. You have that power. Once you decide this, the rest is pretty much practice, practice, more practice and patience.

Take Away

If you follow these suggestions above, you can positively alter the content of your inner critic. You can turn your inner critic into an inner sponsor. You can also gain mental peace, calmness, and support resulting in a more positive and successful you, and your brave new vision of yourself will manifest in your life.

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    • Dr Bill Tollefson profile image

      Bill Tollefson 2 years ago from Southwest Florida

      Dear Rajeev

      I really appreciate your bravery to write such an honest comment. I believe that you negative thought are the results of negative core beliefs that formed in you from growing up that now have been triggered in your live. Obviously your life has become very triggering. Also it is your core beliefs that feed content to your inner critic which from what you say is very mean and defeating toward you.

      Follow the tips above and that will help you to understand your inner critic and how to begin to change its content. Please go to my HUBs on and

      Those HUBs should give you even more insight into why you may be sabotaging yourself and your future.

      My contact information is on my profile if you would like to talk to me directly.


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      Rajeev 2 years ago

      Till 2 years back I was doing well in a career. I have more than 15 years of experience in sales. Since last 2 years I am not doing well in my career. I changed 4 jobs in last 2 years, I was fired from some and others I have quit.

      2 months back I joined another organization, right from the beginning I was paranoid, having negative thoughts about the job, profile and negative vibes from the employers ad so on . I tried everything but could not let go of my negative thoughts, in fact I am very positive person but I don't know why I was getting these thoughts in my mind that this job is not going to work for a long period of time, the boss is not good, they will fire me after a month or two. After only working for 15 days I quit. It has been more than a month now but I have not looked for another job, in fact if I don't get a job now, I will have to sell my house. My wife is also tensed. Please advise.

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      Bill Tollefson 2 years ago from Southwest Florida


      I really appreciate your comment and the time to read my HUB. Thanks for validating that this system really works. Not many people understand that they can challenge their inner critic , calm it and then shift the inner critic from a critic to an inner supporter.

      Glad to hear you have attained inner peace and happiness from my systems and methods.


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      Denise W Anderson 2 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      I am living proof that this system works! I went through this process a number of years ago, and it has made a world of difference in my life. Now, I am able to recognize when my inner voice becomes overly critical and challenge it, changing those thoughts to positive affirmations that bring greater peace and happiness.

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      Bill Tollefson 2 years ago from Southwest Florida


      Thank you for your comment. I know it is a common problem that many suffer from. You can change it from inner critic to inner supporter.

      Thanks for taking you time to read this HUB.

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      Lori Colbo 2 years ago from Pacific Northwest

      You have addressed a very common, frustrating and damaging problem that most people struggle with. Great job.