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4 Tips for Making Your Inner Voice Positive and Productive

Updated on February 19, 2018
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My passion is to inspire and coach people to achieve what they want to get out of life.

My Story

I have lived my whole life with an inner voice which judged me, berated me and overall verbally mean to me. I came to find out there is an inner voice is present in everyone. Good to know. I am not alone or abnormal.

I'm not crazy or having auditory hallucinations. Everyone has a critical, judgmental, or self-defeating voice in their head. I call it a self-talk voice in my head, or my inner critic. Growing up I always was subjected to negative messages told me. These messages would always surface front and center into my conscious stream of thoughts. I would attempt to fight my inner voice by ignoring the messages. It never seemed to work. The more I fought the louder the voice in my head became. I took these messages to heart and believed I was just not good enough. I was never able to quiet the voice down. My inner voice was always loud and clear, and I couldn't just turn it off.

Why? Because it struck at my heart by evoking so much emotion in me which after a while they became my truth. I could never tame it. My inner voice controlled how I thought about myself it determined how I acted, what emotions surfaced and how I thought.

What I learned later in life is I didn’t naturally hate myself. The content feeding my inner voice came I believed about myself from the messages that were fed me by my parents, siblings and other people who interact with me.

Is Your Inner Voice in Charge of You?
Is Your Inner Voice in Charge of You? | Source

You're not alone

Your inner voice or your self-talk in your head never seems to go silent. It never goes away either.

Unfortunately, your inner voice is actually normal and is always there. If you do not hear your inner voice in your head then something would be wrong.

Your inner voice doesn't go away because believe it or not your inner voice is a direct result of the beliefs embedded in your subconscious mind. Your self-talk is oddly part of your decision-making process. If for some reason your inner voice happens to be very negative it because your beliefs about yourself are negative. The way it talks to you in your head is the way you believe about yourself. If your beliefs are negative your self-talk is negative. Conversely, if your beliefs are positive then your inner messages are positive.

When your inner voice is negative the statements it makes are critical, doubtful, hurtful, judgmental, self-defeating, and negative statements. Is these bad? Yes. On one hand, if your self-talk is negative it causes you constantly to give your personal power away - 24/7. On the other hand, believe it or not, your inner voice is only attempting to protect you in a weird way from doing something wrong or getting in trouble.

Inner Voice Feeds Content for Formation of Your Thoughts

Inner voice can be god or it can be bad. Which is your?
Inner voice can be god or it can be bad. Which is your? | Source

Your Inner Voice Statements Control Who You Are

Through my years of coaching individuals, my clients really identified with and understood the term “inner voice or self-talk.” In asking them to write down all the statements his or her inner voice said to them, I would generally get a litany of nasty comments which he or she heard in their head. I began to understand that a negative self-talk would deplete self-energy, diminishes focus, decrease self-worth, contribute to hopelessness, cause sadness and inability to move forward in a positive direction.

The Generator of Negative Self-talk

If the inner voice was judgmental or punishing, it would berate self by delivering negative self-messages or core beliefs.

Here are 12 common negative self-messages my clients reported experiencing. Can you identify with any of these?

  • You don't deserve anything
  • You are a loser
  • You will never amount to anything
  • You’re defective
  • You are hopeless and less than others
  • You will never have what you want
  • You're not worth it
  • No one will ever want you
  • You do everything wrong
  • You will amount to nothing
  • No one will ever want you
  • You're a bad person and there's no hope for you

The Joe Torre Story

I recently watched a story on Joe Torre. I didn’t know it, but he grew up in an abusive home with an abusive father who criticized him endlessly. Even with his dark past, he worked hard in sports and achieved many awards. He attained MVP as a player 8 times. 9 times he was an all-star player, and he received one MVP batting title. Joe went on to become one of the best coaches in the history of baseball winning 2,326 games. He also coached 4 of his teams to World Series wins as a coach. He stated that the most important aspect of coaching was to make sure his players respected him and themselves.

What was learned?

The lesson from Joe Torre's story is that even growing up with elements of criticism, there is the incredible inner power in everyone which can triumph over adversity and move toward a position of health and fulfillment. You do not have to live with the negative messages from your inner voice. Change can happen. You can construct new beliefs that will change your thinking. If you believe in yourself and practice them, and most of all, connect each belief with a strong emotion, your beliefs in time will become your truths. Then it is up to you to live them. Make these new beliefs your own.

Step #1 - Cultivate a Positive and Productive Inner Voice

Cultivate a new inner environment for change. If you work on changing your beliefs (origin of your life content) then your inner voice will change. When your inner voice is changed then a change in your thoughts will be noticed.

Now if your beliefs are reset to positive, your inner voice becomes positive, your thoughts will be more productive and all of that resetting results in your emotions and behaviors manifesting differently to the outside world.

You can do this by tracking back to the source of your inner voice. Meaning recognizing the content of your thoughts, identify the content of your inner voice and end up at your core beliefs.

On paper write down your thoughts, inner voice statements, and your beliefs. If your core beliefs are negative or unproductive then denounce your old messages, the meaning they expressed and rid your mind of them. The create new positive and productive core beliefs.

Therefore, changing your beliefs to positive and productive will result in a positive change in the way you think, feel and act.

Here are some examples positive and productive beliefs

It is possible for you to find a solution and accomplish what you want:

You have hope
You can do anything
You deserve endless possibilities
You are a winner
You are worthy and good enough

Step #2 - Correct each critical statement that you hear in your head into positive

Once you have completed #1, take another piece of paper and make a corresponding list of healthy messages that you want to counteract each negative, untrue and unhealthy message. This new list is intended to increase your confidence, self-esteem, and value in yourself by changing the content of the messages your inner voice utters.

It can be as simple as creating a new content of your messages from “You deserve nothing,” to “You deserve to be worthy,” or from "you don't deserve love" to “You deserve to love who you are.” Once you have created these new statements, repeat and practice the new healthy messages to yourself ten times a day for 90 days. Also, make a promise to yourself that you will do read your new messages every day, and set up a schedule to do so daily.

The trick to success is to embed these new positive statements by repeating them with emotion. If you repeat them without emotion, the statements will not embed themselves.

Once you develop your new positive statements and begin repeating your new list daily, you need to give it life. You give them life by believing in them and manifesting their content into your life.

4 Tips for Making Your Inner Voice Positive and Productive

1. Stop ignoring your inner voice

Get to know your inner voice. Become familiar with your inner voice's tone and intentions. Ignoring it doesn’t reduce its influence or make it go away. Ignoring or submitting to your inner voice only increases its influence and power over how you act, feel, and think. If ignored and left alone your inner voice will default to negative and will mirror your negative core beliefs buried in your subconscious mind.

Use your observer self. Listen to what your inner voice says. Listen as though you are another person, like from a third party perspective as if you are hearing it on the radio. Write each statement down. Recognize whether each statement is an old message which is no longer true or an outright lie. Also whether it is a self-massage or an unhealthy message that was said to you at some point in your life by other people.

The most impactful unhealthy messages tend to come from your closest family and friends to whom you were emotionally attached. The greater the emotional attachment the stronger the unhealthy message becomes. Determine whether some of those negative unhealthy messages were meant to hurt you, or were they trying to ensure your emotional and physical safety or possibly to make you a “stronger person.” Know your mind does not have or express feelings, it just records the words, forms beliefs about you, and repeats them back as they were written.

Let your mind help you validate whether the content of your inner voice is true or false. Next to each statement note who in your life said it and the situation or event which it occurred. The more you understand about each message, the less power and influence the unhealthy content has on you. Discover proof of why each message is wrong and unfounded. Once you find the real truth of each inner voice message you will help you crack its content and dissipate its power and influence if not your truth.

2. Do not falter on consistency

Be mindful of your deep obligation for your plan of action to change. Follow through daily by repeating your new list of healthy, positive and productive messages consistently for 90 days.

Next, you should accept and change your mindset.Your new mindset should be positive. Remember that you are in charge of yourself. No one else. You are in command of what you believe about yourself, how you think about yourself, how you feel about yourself, and what you're capable of.

Best results can be achieved by keeping track of how many times you repeat your new list on each day. Track yourself by keeping a journal of your progress. That way you will be able to see you are following through on your commitment. You will notice the changes which are occurring. Write how you feel, what you think, and how you behave differently day after day for 90 days. Keeping track of what you do daily will help you to recognize that what you are doing is working. You will be able to see when you fall off in your commitment. When you have mindfulness about what is happening every day, it will increase your motivation, focus and what you need to change. Most important is consistency keeps you stay on track.

3. Surround yourself with people who think positive, are healthy, supportive you, and make you feel comfortable

Be around people who see and experience you in a positive light. Seek out people who will support your positive efforts, mindfulness and have the same vision of you that you now manifest. Let people who care about you reflect the real you back to you. Start hanging out with people who could use support and need your positive reflection back on them. Practice the balance of receiving and giving positive content to each other. Give yourself permission to live in a positive light.

4. Earn respect from yourself by expressing your personal authority and power

Understand that your inner voice has been attempting to protect you, but the content from your old core beliefs was feeding your inner voice a steady diet of critical, doubtful and negative content from past experiences. It is your personal authority … don’t let your old inner voice influence who you are now or the content of your thoughts.

Earn respect from your mind by forming your own beliefs and thoughts about yourself. You have that power. Once you decide this, the rest is pretty much practice, practice, more practice, and patience.

Take Away

If you follow the suggestions above, the content of your inner voice will change and be more positive and productive. You can turn your inner voice into an inner sponsor. You can also gain mental peace, calmness, and support resulting in a more healthy and fulfilled you.

Believe the brave new vision you created for yourself and if you practice it you will manifest in your life.

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      Bill Tollefson 2 years ago from Southwest Florida

      Dear Rajeev

      I really appreciate your bravery to write such an honest comment. I believe that you negative thought are the results of negative core beliefs that formed in you from growing up that now have been triggered in your live. Obviously your life has become very triggering. Also it is your core beliefs that feed content to your inner critic which from what you say is very mean and defeating toward you.

      Follow the tips above and that will help you to understand your inner critic and how to begin to change its content. Please go to my HUBs on and

      Those HUBs should give you even more insight into why you may be sabotaging yourself and your future.

      My contact information is on my profile if you would like to talk to me directly.


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      Rajeev 2 years ago

      Till 2 years back I was doing well in a career. I have more than 15 years of experience in sales. Since last 2 years I am not doing well in my career. I changed 4 jobs in last 2 years, I was fired from some and others I have quit.

      2 months back I joined another organization, right from the beginning I was paranoid, having negative thoughts about the job, profile and negative vibes from the employers ad so on . I tried everything but could not let go of my negative thoughts, in fact I am very positive person but I don't know why I was getting these thoughts in my mind that this job is not going to work for a long period of time, the boss is not good, they will fire me after a month or two. After only working for 15 days I quit. It has been more than a month now but I have not looked for another job, in fact if I don't get a job now, I will have to sell my house. My wife is also tensed. Please advise.

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      Bill Tollefson 3 years ago from Southwest Florida


      I really appreciate your comment and the time to read my HUB. Thanks for validating that this system really works. Not many people understand that they can challenge their inner critic , calm it and then shift the inner critic from a critic to an inner supporter.

      Glad to hear you have attained inner peace and happiness from my systems and methods.


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      Denise W Anderson 3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      I am living proof that this system works! I went through this process a number of years ago, and it has made a world of difference in my life. Now, I am able to recognize when my inner voice becomes overly critical and challenge it, changing those thoughts to positive affirmations that bring greater peace and happiness.

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      Bill Tollefson 3 years ago from Southwest Florida


      Thank you for your comment. I know it is a common problem that many suffer from. You can change it from inner critic to inner supporter.

      Thanks for taking you time to read this HUB.

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      Lori Colbo 3 years ago from Pacific Northwest

      You have addressed a very common, frustrating and damaging problem that most people struggle with. Great job.