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Tapestry of my Life

Updated on September 1, 2016
Gina Welds-Hulse profile image

Student of life, lifelong learner, mother, writer, artist, poet, dancer, musician, and martial artist ... passionate about all of these.

Moments of my life

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My Great-grandmother's 100th birthday family reunion
My Great-grandmother's 100th birthday family reunion | Source
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Reunited with Bro. Bill and Ms. Cookie from Christian Services, Inc
Reunited with Bro. Bill and Ms. Cookie from Christian Services, Inc | Source

My Life is a beautiful, giant tapestry that I am weaving day by day with threads or yarns of different colors. Some threads are heavy and dark. Others are thin and bright, but all the threads have their uses, and their representations. Sometimes I have done wise things and sometimes I have done stupid things. Everything I have done, whether smart or not, is already woven in the tapestry. However, I can choose to focus only on the ugly, dark colors representing the parts of ...life that I don't like, or I can focus only on the beautiful things of life that I like, or I can look at the tapestry as being beautiful throughout, ......because EVERYTHING I have done has helped to create the beauty that is the the Tapestry of my Life. I’m not going to be weighed down by the ugly parts. What’s done is done. I have to look ahead. Taking a risk! A giant leap of faith! Maybe I will find that there is even more beauty to be woven into my tapestry of LIFE.

25th High School Reunion moments

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High School Reunion

Many years ago I had the chance to go to my 25th HS reunion. We’re all familiar with those right? The night that so many people dread, yet look forward to at the same time. The night where everybody is looking at everyone to see who gained weight, who got married, who is a grandparent, who achieved the greatest successes.

Do you enjoy your high school reunions, or do you see them as something to be dreaded?
How many reunions have you been to, and do you feel they get better over the years - or worse? Or do you look at them as being a regressive experience?

After all, here we are with a group of people we grew up with, and our critical inner judge becomes activated as we prepare to revisit old friends and memories.

If you go there wanting to be seen a certain way, you're not going to have fun! Go wanting to connect with 'the kids, and you will have a great time. That is what I do, and that is why this will be a beautiful part of my tapestry. I love the fact that I still keep in touch with many of my High School "classmates" to this day.

Family Reunions and moments of reunions

Siblings small reunion
Siblings small reunion | Source
Reunion on my Great-Grandmother's 100th birthday
Reunion on my Great-Grandmother's 100th birthday | Source
With my cousin, Sha Sha, as she is affectionately known.
With my cousin, Sha Sha, as she is affectionately known. | Source
Mama Lucy's 100th birthday
Mama Lucy's 100th birthday | Source
With Uncle Paul and his family on a visit to the Space Coast, Florida
With Uncle Paul and his family on a visit to the Space Coast, Florida | Source
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Family Reunions in my tapestry.

....Or maybe it’s the family reunion where everyone is looking at you and wondering how you turned out the way you did, considering all the opportunities afforded you. Maybe you’re compared to the cousin who just became a doctor, or the sister who is the greatest actress out there in Hollywood. Maybe your children are compared to your cousin’s children to see what the achievements have been.

Reunions help families reconnect with their roots, find a sense of belonging.

I love being able to get together with my family. Family is important. Our society is in need of slowing down and focusing on the real important things in life, like family. We need to instill in our children that family is important. Kind words are great, but there is nothing like action to truly show people how much you love and care for them. Taking the time to come together as a family speaks volume to your entire family.

Family reunions are a great way to keep the family history alive and well. Tradition should be a big part of your family. Taking the time to come together and teach (in a fun way) the tradition of your family will keep it alive and strong.

My tapestry: The richness of the experience

Whatever the case is, events such as these force us to take a panoramic look at our lives.

What do you see when you take a good look at your life? Do you see lots of pain? All the bad stuff that you might have done? All the expensive mistakes that you might have made? All the words and actions that you regret? Or do you see the beauty of the journey? The richness of the experience?

My life tapestry: A tapestry in progress

When you look at the front of the tapestry in progress one sees the beauty of the interwoven events, good or bad. Together, it creates a beautiful scenery that is our life. On the front of my tapestry is a beautiful design with impeccable detail. However, when I flip the tapestry over what I reveal is a chaotic tangling of different colored threads not looking like any sort of pattern at all.

Jumbled mess

Jumbled mess or beautiful design: It's all in the perspective.


If you look at the backside of a tapestry it resembles a jumbled mess. Nothing seems to make sense. The threads are all entangled, both thick and thin, and all colors. When the back of the tapestry of our life is viewed we may be tempted to lose heart and give up if we see our life’s tapestry from this angle.

No thread of experience is ever wasted.

Our mother's going-home ceremony
Our mother's going-home ceremony | Source
Many years of yarn are from my time spent with the Alliance for Neighborhood Restoration, and this beautiful lady, Ms, Delores.
Many years of yarn are from my time spent with the Alliance for Neighborhood Restoration, and this beautiful lady, Ms, Delores. | Source
A moment of skipping with my daughter...6 years old at the time
A moment of skipping with my daughter...6 years old at the time | Source

No thread of experience is wasted.

When we flip our tapestry over, it becomes a beautifully woven piece of art.

There may be an infinity of colors, chaos of textures, both rough and smooth and all the variations in between. There may be echoes of bravery, moments of hunger, of desire, of wants, of needs, every intention we ever had, every interaction we ever had, every pain we ever experienced, every potential, every connection ever made, impatient choices and consequences, every kiss we experienced, every rejection, all the emotions such as happiness, sadness or sorrow. No thread of experience will be wasted in designing our tapestry of life. There are many “characters” that make up the whole ensemble of our tapestry.

Collective experiences in my tapestry of life

Vagina Monologues Cast members' hands
Vagina Monologues Cast members' hands | Source
Girls Brigade camp, circa 1985
Girls Brigade camp, circa 1985 | Source
A moment of inspiration with my daughter 2013
A moment of inspiration with my daughter 2013 | Source
With my "niece," Kayla, February 2015
With my "niece," Kayla, February 2015 | Source
Newspaper memory circa 1984
Newspaper memory circa 1984 | Source

Collective experiences.

All of these experiences will collectively determine the colors that will make up the tapestry. There will be dark threads as well as colorful threads, as well as rich threads of gold and silver. None of them will be random or chaotic, but everything will turn out exactly as it should.

The tapestry will constantly change as our experiences and events occur. We will constantly add on to our tapestry. The colors will also change from time to time, as we make choices to enhance our life’s tapestry.

Our tapestries are intertwined.

We need to also look at the size of our tapestry in relationship to the size of the largest tapestry that exists…that of our universe.

We may not think so, but if we look closely we will find that each of the interactions we have causes our tapestries to be intertwined. Mutual experiences connect us. We don’t accomplish things alone, and we cannot create our tapestries without the involvement of others.

Our experiences and interactions shape and design our tapestries, whether for ill or good.

Cultural threads

Cultural threads

The first threads of our tapestry, I believe begins with the threads of our ethnic origins, the patterns of behavior we learn, the clothing we wear, the food we eat, the toys, tools, customs attitudes and beliefs that we share as a culture, the institutions, the value we share, the belief system that we grow up with, and the cultural connections of our respective cultural tapestries.

Celebrations within my tapestry of life

My 46th birthday celebration
My 46th birthday celebration | Source
Reuniting with childhood friends in Jamaica, circa 2009
Reuniting with childhood friends in Jamaica, circa 2009 | Source
Connecting with childhood friend in Jamaica, circa 2009
Connecting with childhood friend in Jamaica, circa 2009 | Source
Hanging out with Aunt Thelma, Jamaica circa 2009
Hanging out with Aunt Thelma, Jamaica circa 2009 | Source

Celebration work of art

The tapestry becomes a celebration piece, a weaving of maps, ideas of family members and friends and interactions, of successes. It becomes an intricate design of cultural patterns and landscape features.

Work of art of impeccable detail

Take at look at the tapestry of your life. Have you ever struggled to see how everything will work together? Do you look at the good side of the tapestry or do you always have your eyes on the back or the “ugly” side?

So many times we fail to see the beauty because we spend so mucht time looking at the challenges, the struggles, that we fail to see the whole beauty woven into the tapestry.

We are all connected in this tapestry of life. Each of us is a gift to the other, to those around us, helping others become a part of each other’s lives, weaving a perfect picture together.

I love the implications of our lives as a tapestry. Rather than looking at the shifting events and people in our lives as being of little or no meaningful significance, it shifts to the flip side — the events and the people in our lives today are of meaningful significance and play their part in the formation of who we are and how we see life. The second is even better: rather than looking at our past and ourselves as a tangled mess of random events and relationships, we see perhaps for the first time that we are a work of art, in progress, of impeccable detail.


Mini reunion at Jetty Park 2015

Mini reunion at Jetty Park 2015 with my sister, Rhonda and her children.
Mini reunion at Jetty Park 2015 with my sister, Rhonda and her children. | Source

Scars in our tapestry

Scars are woven in, no matter how big or small. I've had many scars in my lifetime, including illness. Every thread is placed beside another thread, held together and carried by all the other threads that were placed before. It is an ever-weaving tapestry. We cannot pull any thread without destroying the integrity of the whole tapestry. We cannot remove any segment of the tapestry simply because we may not necessarily have liked that particular period or moment of our life.

How will that ugly thread enhance the beauty of the scene being designed? And how can handfuls of rough, deformed threads be worked in? Maybe this quote by C. H. Spurgeon will help to answer those questions:

“I have learned to kiss the wave that throws me against the Rock of Ages.”

A Tapestry of Scars

So much to be thankful for!

I saw the beauty of my journey and how very much I have to be thankful for. I have had a rich and meaningful life. I am so grateful for every experience.

Yes, there’s been a lot of pain. I've made some bad decisions. Expensive mistakes. Words and actions that I regret, but I have made it this far, and I know that by the Grace of God I will continue to make it.

Weavings created by children and I

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Poem: My Life is but a Weaving

This image comes from a poem of unknown origin that was popularized by Corrie Ten Boom (author of The Hiding Place). Here it is:

My Life is but a weaving
between my Lord and me;
I cannot choose the colors
He worketh steadily.

Oft times He weaveth sorrow
And I, in foolish pride,
Forget He sees the upper,
And I the under side.

Not til the loom is silent
And the shuttles cease to fly,
Shall God unroll the canvas
And explain the reason why.

The dark threads are as needful
In the Weaver’s skillful hand,
As the threads of gold and silver
In the pattern He has planned.

He knows, He loves, He cares,
Nothing this truth can dim.
He gives His very best to those
Who leave the choice with Him.

More moments in my life's tapestry

My oldest son's HS graduation
My oldest son's HS graduation | Source
My daughter's HS graduation
My daughter's HS graduation | Source
Christmas Eve, 2007
Christmas Eve, 2007 | Source
Vagina Monologues cast 2014
Vagina Monologues cast 2014 | Source
Collage of different moments of my life
Collage of different moments of my life | Source

Create a life tapestry you will enjoy looking back on.

Each day you are adding to your personal tapestry to make your unique life story. Celebrations, special events, pain, scars, wounds, healings, victories and achievements are all part of your life story.

Tapestry

Live joyfully and abundantly!

It's hard to imagine anything more interesting than learning how we're woven into the enormous tapestry of existence.

My tapestry of life, as well as yours, continues to be woven. Although I wish I could post every moment in this post, you and I know that would be an unending story, filled with numerous pictures, so I trust that you will enjoy the snipets of my life that I have chosen to highlight here. Occasionally we might get a chance to repair an older tattered piece of the tapestry, and brings us to a more mature vision. Always have compassion for those unclear events, and even painful ones. When we embrace the many parts of our experiences, we discover a magnificent creation, one that is always in process weaving our divine gifts, unique talents, desires, thoughts, choices and actions.

Live joyfully and abundantly!

© 2015 Gina Welds Hulse

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      Gina Welds Hulse 19 months ago from Rockledge, Florida

      Thank you! I am so sorry I am just responding to this. It seems that I could add on to this article. Aren't we all adding on to our life's tapestry everyday?

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      Nancy Yager 2 years ago from Hamburg, New York

      Such a wonderful analogy with colorful images. I really enjoyed reading your article.

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