Telling People Your Secrets Puts Them in Bondage
Has anyone ever shared a secret with you and told you not to tell anyone else? More than likely, a family member, a friend, a co-worker or someone has told you a secret and swore you are the only one who has been told.
You might want to know the secret out of curiosity. At the same time, you wonder why you have been singled out to know the secret.
Be suspicious. Be very suspicious because listening to someone's secret and promising to keep it puts you in bondage. It puts you in bondage that you didn't ask for or deserve.
A secret is something that is told and kept or meant to be kept by someone. It is something that might be shared confidentially with someone. It is hard enough keeping your own secrets. Therefore, it is an extra burden to take on someone else's secrets.
Someone's secret can put you in bondage and keep you in bondage because there is a high possibility that you are not the only one who has been told the secret and has promised to keep it. Then when the secret gets out, you might be the one blamed for it even though you kept your promise and never said a word to anyone. You are accused of telling the secret but no one believes you.
Holding onto someone's secret keeps you in bondage because you have to be so careful not to let it slip when you talk to others. If the secret is a criminal one, it makes you feel as if you need to tell the authorities even after you have been asked not to do so. It is just too stressful keeping someone's secret. Therefore, it is wise to tell people you don't want to know their secrets.
'Secret' Is a Powerful Word
"Secret" is a powerful word. It is mystifying that draws people in. Lots of television shows, movies, songs, bands, and books have the word "secret" in their titles.
At least three American bands have "Secret" in their names.
- "Secret" - an American band from San Diego, California. The three-person band was formed in 2010. It has been successful since then with albums on the Billboard charts.
- "Secrets" - an American fusion jazz band
- "The Secrets" - an American girl group
"Secret" Albums and Songs
More than a dozen albums bear the name "Secret." One of them is by seven-time Grammy award winner Toni Braxton. She recorded the album "Secret" in 1996, and it has sold over 15 million copies. It was so popular that she went on a Secrets Tour in North America and Europe that lasted from August 1996 to October 1997. Braxton dedicated her performance of Un-Break My Heart to Princess Diana, who had died just two weeks before the concert.
Over a dozen songs have been recorded with the one word "Secrets." Singer, songwriter, dancer, and actress Pink recorded her song with the one word "Secrets" in 2017.
Television Shows, Movies and Books
Any movie or television show with the word "secret" in the title tend to get high ratings because there is something mysterious about the word. About two dozen movies with the title date back to 1924 during the silent years until the present time.
Millions of viewers watched a police detective mystery called Secrets and Lies that aired on ABC from March 1, 2015 to December 4, 2016. That title alone kept viewers watching until the shocking secrets and lies were revealed in the finale. Fans of the show were disappointed when the show was canceled after only two seasons even though it was getting high ratings from viewers but not from officials where it mattered the most.
The Secret Life of Walter Mitty is a short story by James Thurber that some students read in high school. The book was made into a movie twice. The first time was in 1937, and the second time was in 2013.
Two well-known novels have the word in their titles.
- Secrets, a 1985 novel by Danielle Steel
- Secrets, a 2002 novel by Jacqueline Wilson
It is best not to agree to keep someone's secrets. It will put you in bondage. It is best not to ask people to keep your secret.
If you have been in the habit of asking people to keep your secret, you are doing them a disservice. It will be wise to stop that practice.
Do not confuse confidential information told to professionals such as doctors, lawyers, psychologists, or priests as secrets per se. You don't put them in bondage by telling them sensitive information.
A secret refers to casual and general information that could damage a person's reputation if it was revealed. Whether the information is a secret or confidential depends on the context.