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Ten Mistakes People Make When Using The Law of Attraction
Recently, there has been a lot of hype about the Law of Attraction. It all began with the movie, "The Secret". This movie expanded the mass consciousness by introducing the concept that we have control over our experiences based on how we use the Law of Attraction (LOA). The LOA states that you attract to yourself what you put think about and focus on whether you want it or not. In the end, many people began to believe that the key to getting anything you want is to simply think certain thoughts and focus on what you wanted and it will suddenly appears.
Well, many people are finding out that the LOA doesn't work that way. Although they have put a lot of expectation and effort into thinking the "right" thoughts and focusing on what they want, many people say they are unable to manifest what they want. Well, if you are experiencing problems with the LOA, let me just say it is working because it works all the time. Just as you can not turn off the Law of Gravity, you can turn off the Law of Attraction. I know many people do not accept the validity of the LOA, but it not my intent to convince anyone about it in this article. However, if you have been deliberately using the LOA and you have been unable to manifest what you want, then the information is in this article may be very germane for you to manifest what you want.
I having been using the LOA to deliberately manifest what I want for over 7 years, and I have taught it to hundreds of people. Over the year, I have noticed that most people including me make 10 mistakes using the Law of Attraction to manifest what we want.
1. Not Clear About Why You Want It
If I asked you most people what they wanted, they would say, "I know what I want!" "I want more money." "I want to be physically fit." "I want to be happy. " Or "I want to be sexy." Yet most people who say these things are fat, out of shape, broke, or unhappy. Why? Because they haven't gotten to the true reason why they want what they say they want. As a result, they continually attract more of what they don't want. Most people who are using the LOA are trying to prove, show or demonstrate something, or they are trying not to be something.
If you want fame, success, or wealth so you can prove to the world that you are good enough, then your subconscious mind is clear that you aren't good enough. Otherwise you won't have to prove it. If you want success and happiness and all of that so you can prove to the world, to your family, or to yourself that you are smart, then your subconscious mind is clear that you aren't smart. Otherwise, you wouldn't have to prove it. If you are clear that you aren't good enough, you aren't smart, or whatever, then you will attract circumstances and situations that will make it obvious that you are that. I know this may be different that what you read or heard about the LOA, but this the brutal truth.
Therefore, you must get crystal clear on what you want and clear on why you want it. Do you want more money? What about a loving relationship with your spouse or friends who really love and support you with your manifestation? What about a relationship with your kids where they really love, honor, and respect you? All of these things are possible, but you need to know why you truly want it and get yourself aligned with what you want. You can have these things and experiences because manifesting is an innate ability, but many people are getting what they don't want instead of what they do want. For whatever you are intending to manifest, just ask the question, "what will that mean when I get it?" Keep asking this question for every answer you can think until you uncover the real reason why you want it.
2. You Beliefs Conflict With What You Want
This is the true killer of your manifestations because you want something; however, what you believe is not in alignment with it. In fact, if your belief is in conflict with what you want, you have what I call a limiting belief. A limiting belief is a mental block stored in your subconscious mind, which limits or blocks your ability to manifest what you want. For example, if you say
I want to be rich, but I believe that I not good enough,
I want the love of my life, but I believe I am are ugly and shy,
I want respect and power, but I believe I am stupid and worthless.
I want to be skinny, but I hate myself, then you will manifest more of what you don't want. In this case, just the opposite of what you say you want.
And no matter how much you visualize, meditate, or use affirmations, you will not manifest what you want because you still have this underlying belief in your subconscious mind that is attracting exactly what you don't want. Therefore, you are always getting exactly what you believe. Have you notice you keep asking for this or that, but you are getting the opposite of what you want? Well, your wanting and your belief are conflicting.
So many times I have seen this happen to people. Recently, I was speaking with a friend who was employed as a senior manager in her company. She said she had an intention to be promoted to general manger in her company for the past year, but the promotion was not manifesting. After speaking with her, I discovered that she is a very good employee and her management thinks very higher of her and her work ethics. Then I asked her why she believed she wasn't being promoted to a general manager. She said, she because it was because she was a minority. Do you she the conflict with what she wants and what she believes? She wants to be general manger, but she believes she will not be promoted because she is a minority. This is a limiting belief, and it was keeping her from manifesting her promotion. I went a step further and discovered she wanted to be a general manger to prove she was as good as the "white people" in her company.
Please understand this, when your wanting and believing are conflicting, I can guarantee you that the LOA will not work for the wanting. Instead it will attract what you believe. In my friend's case, she was not being promoted even though she worked hard, volunteered for extra projects, came in first and left last. None of that matter because her wanting and believing were conflicting. Once she changed this limiting belief and gave up her wanting to prove she was as good, she manifested her promotion to general manger in less than four months. So, examine your beliefs and give them up if they are limiting your ability to manifest what you want.
3. You Are Being A Victim
Another critical mistake people make when using the Law of Attraction is to employ the formula for a victim. What is the formula for a victim you ask? It goes like this, someday when I, then I will... For example, someday when I have the money, then I going to travel and be happy, or someday when I get everything together, then I going to have the time to be with my kids and have a loving relationship with them.
The formula for a victim is the wrong approach for manifesting what you want because you are making a bold statement to the universe that NOW is not enough, and it is not PERFECT. Therefore, I am not grateful for what I have in my life. When you feel and act in this matter, you will attract more circumstances and situations to cause you to get what you don't want.
You must recognize that where you are is the perfect place, but most people decide on what they want and then they instantly make where they are wrong. Many people are ungrateful for what they have now, but they believe they will be grateful when they get what they want. Some victims even complain about what they have now. But did you know that complaining about what you don't want is asking for what you do want. Complaining is asking. Bitching is asking. Focusing on what you don't want is asking. Why, because the universe is always a yes. So, when you say, I don't want it, the universe says, give it to him or her. And the more you focus or complain about what you have or what don't want, the more you will get it. If you are being victim, give it up and be grateful for where you are and what you have NOW.
4. People Change Their Routine Too Abruptly
When some people make an intention to manifest something deliberately by using the LOA, they immediate make a drastic change in their lives. For example, if you wanted a new car, you would go into debt to purchase the car, or if you wanted start a new business, you would quit your current job. This is a critical mistake many people make. Unless you have the income to make the car payments or the money to provide for your needs while you are starting your new business, continue what you are doing.
If you abruptly change your life, your Monkey Mind (your Ego) will go into survival mode and you will start to worry about money. You will begin to have doubt about your ability with the LOA, and you will begin to focus on a lack of money. Remember, what you focus on will expand, so keep doing what you are already doing. As you do, you will begin to notice the right people, circumstances, and situations showing up to assist with manifesting what you want.
5. You Try To Figure Out The How
How? How? How? The moment you declare your intention that you want to be thin or to be vice president of my company, or whatever you want, your analytical mind starts going crazy trying to figure it out to accomplish it. Stop!
You must learn how to relax and listen to the "small voice within" and let the right information come to you. You must know and trust that what you want is coming. Detach from the how. There is a Vietnamese proverb that I use "PHUCKHOW". Say it slowly, and you get the meaning.
Trying to figure out how it's all going to happen, repels what you want because you are forcing the manifestation process. The how of your new result will come to you when you are relaxed or as a moment of intuitive guidance while you are dreaming or meditating.
6. Your Focus Is Self-centered
When you are intending to manifest what you want, and you are worrying about your self, you will never be in the flow of abundance from the universe. When you are worrying, you are coming from a scarcity mindset. You are feeling like you are comprised, and you are feeling like something is wrong. You must recognize that all opportunities are in other people, so you must become a contributor. Napoleon Hill said, if you help enough people get what they want, you easily get what you want. Another way of saying this is, what comes around, goes around, or you get what you give.
If you are self-centered, you are worrying and the LOA will not work in your favor. In fact, your worrying will attract more of what you don't want.
7. You Don't Tell Anyone About Your Intention
Many people make the mistake of setting an intention to manifest something and then they keep it to themselves. This usually occurs because you are embarrassed, or you believe the people you tell may ridicule you or think you are stupid. Or it may stem from comments you heard from your parents such as you were told not to brag or boast about what you are doing.
If you want to speed up your manifestation, you have to get over that survival mechanism because all manifestations include other people. Therefore, you have to learn to get beyond your fears and share what you want.
I know many people who teach the Law of Attraction believe that you should not tell everyone about your intention. I differ with this believe because every person you meet is apart of the universe. When you tell them, it's like you are strengthening your intention because you are telling the universe what it is that you want.
So, do not discount the importance of the people you run across day to day. Many times you run across people, and you immediately judge and access them to how they would fit into your world. Everyone you meet is there on purpose. Anyone you make eye contact with in the store, at the gas station, at a restaurant, or wherever, I promise you if you would follow that lead and connect to that person, magic will began to happen in ways you can never expect. I truly believe that the creator or ordering intelligence of the universe keeps sending you the right people at the right time over and over again to help you manifest what you want.
Have you ever heard that we six-degrees of separation from any person on the planet. Actually, I believe it is 2 or 3 degrees of separation to most people on the planet. Remember, you do not know if a person you meet knows the right person that can help manifest what you want, so tell everyone, but do it in a way that is coming from contribution.
For example, if you are a real estate agent, and you intend to sell 5 houses to make $50,000 this month, don't say that. Instead say something like, I a real estate agent, and I am committed to helping 5 families obtain the American Dream by helping them purchase their first homes.
8. You Judge The situation Too Quickly
This is a big killer for deliberately manifesting what you want because when you judge the situation, you are focusing on what might be wrong. You want your manifestation to occur on your timetable. Well, the Law of Attraction is not instant. If it was, life would be a living hell because things would be popping up constantly.
Remember, there is a season to sow and a season to reap and they both don't occur at the same time. You must learn to relax and enjoy the situation even when it is not what you think it should be. You have to learn to practice gratitude, appreciation, and acknowledgement and trust that what you want is coming to you. Once you give up your resistance, the things you want will manifest. It is your stress, fear, doubt, anxiety, anger, resent, guilt, frustration, and overwhelm that is stopping you from manifesting what you want. These are the weapons the Monkey Mind use to guide you away getting what you want.
Instead of relaxing, many people panic when nothing is happening. When you panic, you bring into your life what you are panicking about. You are broadcasting a message to the universe, "I don't' want that". And guess what? You get more of it! You have to learn to get in a place where you trust that all is well. If a situation appears to be disastrous, you must know that something good is going to come from this situation. For example, if you intending to manifest a better job and you get terminated from your current job, accept it. And know when one door closes, the universe opens a new one because disaster, chaos, and destruction is the beginning of creation.
You can't manifest amazing things without being able to withstand some disaster, chaos, and destruction. They are critically connected which mean you got to be able to stay out of a panic state. If you don't, the LOA is not going to bring you what you want. Instead, it will bring you more of what you don't want.
9. You Don't Give Any Credit For Your Manifestation
Many people have a tendency to never give themselves any credit for their manifestation when it doesn't look the way they thought they would occur. What you want always manifest; however, it may not look the way you think it should, but it is always better. For example, I had an intention to receive $100,000 in my bank account within 60 days. Well, on day 65, I received a letter from my bank stating that I was pre-approved for a $100,000 unsecured loan. All I had to do was sign the loan papers and the money would be deposited into my bank account within 72 hours.
Now you may discount this as a manifestation because you wouldn't want a loan. You probably would want the cash free and clear. Well that would be a critical mistake because I did get the money, and I used it for an investment that earned me over 40 percent within six months. Remember, your intention usually comes into in a way that is better than you imagined, so be opened to all possibilities.
10. You Are Obsessed With Manifesting What You Want
When you get obsessed with manifesting what you want, you are fixating on what you don't have in your life. As you do this, you are shouting a message to the universe, "I don't have what I want." The main reason you are attached to the outcome of what you are intending to manifest is due to doubt and a lack of trust in your manifesting ability.
The thing to do is relax and be peaceful and know that what you want is coming to you now. You must recognize the ebb and flow of what you want to manifest. If you want to manifest more money, a new relationship, or anything else, don't obsess about. Just remain peaceful, and know that it is coming to you now. Otherwise, your attachment will surely repel it away.
Well, these are ten critical mistakes that many people make with the Law of Attraction. If you would like the Law of Attraction to manifest what you want, avoid these mistakes. If you do, you will have what you want now.
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