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That Inner Voice NO
That Inner Voice
By Tony DeLorger © 2013
Reticence is that voice that whispers no, when perhaps our needs and wants plead otherwise. And it is this momentary warning sign that can save us from ourselves, our ego driven will that sees all that glitters as gold.
We are so often at the mercy of our subconscious will, our deep seated needs that want resolution at any cost. Without thinking it is so easy to live in denial to accomplish the fulfilment of these needs, casting aside all good sense and often times straightforward logic. When circumstances appear, seemingly too good to be true, then that is usually the case. We all have this 'win the lottery' mentality , expecting at any moment for our ship to come in; we deserve it, after all. And when it appears to, no matter how unlikely and illogical, we believe it and throw ourself into what is often the dark abyss of illusion.
How many times can you relate yourself doing this in life, be it a relationship, a job, an opportunity? We fool ourselves into believing whatever fits into our secret wants and needs, and in some way gives us pleasure or comfort or perhaps security, is the answer. But without an experienced and cognizant eye, what ensues is so often the opposite of all these hopes.
The ego is a powerful master, and in many ways we need it to survive our daily lives: to give us feelings of competency, ability, confidence and control. Without it we are simpering non-entities, but with it controlling us, we are arrogant, controlling and ignorant of anything outside our perfect self. In this circumstance, anything that plays to the ego is viewed as good, anything that doesn't, is of no consequence. So when that internal voice questions, the ego dismisses, seeing only what is good for it, in principle that is. Because what usually happens is a reticence to see what lies beneath and at the periphery of a circumstance, leaving much sharper minds to manipulate and deceive. The egocentric are the prayers of conmen and manipulators, so easy to control in their absorption of self.
In all this it is the heart that deceives the most, directly connected to those deep seated wants, expressed emotionally and so often at the mercy of longing. What we must learn is to access our brains to consider with logic and gain a broader perspective. So when that inner voice says no, don't dismiss it, ask why, for what reason do I have any qualm. This internal dialogue is essential and must be undertaken to address any decision based on a knee-jerk or emotional response. Apart from the attraction of the opportunity, there may be far less advantageous issues overlooked without a discerning, critical mind.
We are complex creatures, filled with potential and opposing forces, all vying for a voice and in manifestation a path of creative expression. Should we be unaware of all that is within us, we will find ourselves wanting and our lives will be like a bouncing ball, stopping and starting, never in the same place twice. It can only be us as individuals that have the power to understand our wants and needs and align them with advantageous paths in life, without the hindering of a dominant ego. After all, we all want the same thing, to be happy.
In our quest to find happiness and security in life, we often disregard the core of that resolution...ourselves; how we think and act and the reasons for all of it.