Looking for Happiness? Stop Chasing It and Read This.
Happiness… many of us are chasing it, always wondering why there is still some unfulfilled thing left. We often wonder about what we can do to be happy, without realising that no matter what actions we initiate, if we do not carry happiness inside, we cannot get it from the outside.
So, how do you just find it from the inside? What do we chase if not happiness then? Should you even try to chase anything to feel fulfilled?
With a simple answer: no. It is the key you are looking for. There is no need to go after anything in order to be happy. Feeling fulfilled starts from right here and right now, no matter where you are and no matter what you have, or you do not have. The idea that you should chase something that will result in happiness will make you to forever run after it without reaching it, while pushing you further away from it.
How to be fulfilled right here and right now without chasing anything external?
1. See From the Point of View of Abundance
Instead of thinking about the things that you do not have, start focusing your attention on the things you do have. Even if you have little, it will feel like enough and you will not crave more. You, of course, should not give up on your goals, but see them rather as an addition to your life, instead of believing they are the one and only path to happiness because not achieving them might make you feel loss and disappointment. Do not be harsh on yourself or live with high expectations of acquiring because you will only be disappointed when things do not work out the way you have planned.
Focus on some small things that you already have in your life. Try to imagine losing them. It is not a pleasant thought, is it? So, nothing is to be taken for granted because anything can be lost, which should not frustrate you, but motivate you to appreciate what you already have, and know that it can always be worse.
And when you feel a loss, find a way to still focus on what you have. This kind of mindset will help you to not only be happier, but tackle losses and life’s difficulties better.
2. Live Simply
The reason why so many people nowadays are not fulfilled is that they make their lives unnecessarily complicated. Sometimes daily tasks can be too boring or physically and emotionally draining because they can get complicated. Even then, you need to make sure you find or add something pleasant, even if little or for a short time, that will make your life more enjoyable.
For example, notice the taste and temperature of the coffee in your mouth in the morning. Or when you walk on the street, notice how your feet feel while walking on the ground. There are always some small and tiny little positive things that are worth to know how to enjoy. Sometimes a chilly wind in an uncomfortably hot day can actually be your source of happiness if you pay attention to it.
If you do not find a way to enjoy the small things while worrying about bigger complicated issues, you will miss a pleasant moment, which would simply slip through your fingers unnoticeably.
If you ever wonder why animals can be happier than us, it is because they simply do not have the capacity to think about big issues and things outside of their control, such as the past. They are simply happy for meeting their basic needs.
Now that you know how to be present and grateful for the simple things in life, start applying and combining these two steps into your daily life. You will not only notice you feel more satisfied with your daily life, but you will see that the mindset of the “half full glass” will help you create abundance. You will become aware of how much you start to gain even when you lose.
In the end, happiness can be defined differently by different people. What makes one happy is not the same for another. But in order to achieve the most basic and fundamental level of happiness, all of us need to try to be mindful and present, while enjoying the simple small things in life.
© 2020 Tery Peta